2. Session 1 Introduction & Principles The TMPC Journey The Sofa Couple The Facilitating Couple Modeling a TMPC Session Session 2 Prepare Enrich Modeling an Evening with Engaged Couple Logistics Support Couple Modeling SCAM Programme Schedule

3. Principle 1: The best time to start supporting couples is before they marry

4. Principle 2: Christian principles are relevant to all relationships

5. Overview Started at Holy Trinity Brompton by Nicky & Sila Lee in 1985 and now run by other churches around the world Vision: A course within easy reach of any couple Aim: to help engaged couples build foundations for a lifelong marriage

6. Why We Do What We Do

8. Overview 1 introductory session with PREPARE ENRICH + 5 Video Sessions 2 meetings with support couple 1 Party ----------------------------------------------------------------------- -----------------------------------------------------------------------

9. TMPC2 TMPC 1 TMPC 3 TMPC 4 TMPC 5 Schedule TMPC 6 Meet TMPC Couple Meet TMPC Couple SCAM SCAM SCAM SCAM SCAM SCAM

10. TMPC2 TMPC 1 TMPC 3 TMPC 4 TMPC 5 Schedule TMPC 6

11. TMPC2 TMPC 1 TMPC 3 TMPC 4 TMPC 5 Schedule TMPC 6

12. TMPC2 TMPC 1 TMPC 3 TMPC 4 TMPC 5 Schedule TMPC 6

13. TMPC2 TMPC 1 TMPC 3 TMPC 4 TMPC 5 Schedule TMPC 6

14. TMPC2 TMPC 1 TMPC 3 TMPC 4 TMPC 5 Schedule TMPC 6

15. TMPC2 TMPC 1 TMPC 3 TMPC 4 TMPC 5 Schedule TMPC 6

16. TMPC2 TMPC 1 TMPC 3 TMPC 4 TMPC 5 Schedule TMPC 6

17. TMPC2 TMPC 1 TMPC 3 TMPC 4 TMPC 5 Schedule TMPC 6

18. TMPC2 TMPC 1 TMPC 3 TMPC 4 TMPC 5 Schedule TMPC 6

19. Session Timing 3.00 3.30 5.30 6.00 Tea Video Sofa Couple Ice-breaker 3.40

21. Sofa Couple Session “ I like that the course allows us to discuss among ourselves privately. Feels a bit more secure. And that it’s “real”. The sofa couple and support couple really helps.

22. Sofa Couple Session Why To address issues of local context Most participants won’t ask questions until the issues are raised during the interview To model a relationship based on respect, love and openness

23. All of the couples…are very open in sharing the highs and lows of their marriage life…Good examples are demonstrated, e.g. respect each other when one’s talking. Show the love languages from time to time. Wendy guest of TMPC Sofa Couple Session Why

28. Session 1 Introduction & Principles The TMPC Schedule The Sofa Couple Modeling a TMPC Session Session 2 Prepare Enrich Modeling an Evening with Engaged Couple Logistics Support Couple Modeling SCAM Programme Schedule

36. Interpreting the results: Background information - 1

38. Interpreting the results: Personality assessment - 1

40. Interpreting the results : Item summary - 1

42. Interpreting the results: Item summary - 3

44. Overview 1 introductory session with PREPARE ENRICH + 5 Video Sessions 2 meetings with support couple 1 Party ----------------------------------------------------------------------- -----------------------------------------------------------------------

45. TMPC2 TMPC 1 TMPC 3 TMPC 4 TMPC 5 Schedule TMPC 6 Meet Engaged Couple Meet Engaged Couple

53. Meeting with Engaged Couple Give couples a model of a real family committed to loving one other in a real setting Establish personal relationship with couples Pray before couple arrives Meal with family Discuss results of “PREPARE”

54. Meetings with Engaged Couple Respect privacy with no family member being around Aim to end on time Pray before couple arrives With permission, pray for couple before they leave Pray for cleansing of home after couple leaves

56. TMPC Party Couples encouraged to invite family and friends to the party Prepare couples to share about their experience of TMPC Held on the same day as the last video session while lessons are still fresh in their minds

57. Dinner Sharing by 1 support couple about why they do what they do Sharing by each TMPC couple about what they learnt during the course Introduction of TMPC & support couples for benefit of guests Encouragement by support couple to their assigned couple Running the TMPC Party

58. TMPC Party Sharing by Engaged Couple

60. Encouraging Mingling Before the Session

61. Encouraging Mingling Before the Session Provide name tags Make introductions among couples Place chairs close together Ensure space is closed and cosy

64. Married for at least two years Attended The Marriage Course Happy to talk about marriage Willing to offer hospitality Support Couple Who Qualifies Not perfect but growing in God’s grace

65. Support Couples Why Most learn about marriage from parents Good and bad lessons shape our views of marriage Many don’t have role models of loving & respectful marriages Model what Christian marriage looks like in practice Provide role of extended family in a mobile society

66. A Blog of TMPC Guests

69. TMPC2 TMPC 1 TMPC 3 TMPC 4 TMPC 5 Schedule TMPC 6 Meet TMPC Couple Meet TMPC Couple SCAM SCAM SCAM SCAM SCAM SCAM

70. Check on one another’s marriages Support Couple Accountability Meeting (SCAM) Fellowship Pray for one another & for engaged couples Share ideas on how to help couples through issues Sort out duties & suggest improvements

71. Modeling a Support Couple Accountability Meeting