1. I have learned that:
• When I feel disappointed in someone,
it’s usually due to my expectations than
their actions

2. I have learned that:
• Coaches do not fix problems; they
support people who are ready to own
their lives

3. • Maximum profitability exists at the brink
of disaster

4. • When dealing with professionals if I’m
not clear about what I want I’ll wind up
with what they want

5. • All emotional pain stems from
resistance and a sense of ‘what should
be’

6. • Even if I choose not to decide I have still
made a choice

7. • True leaders listen more than they
speak

8. • Blame evokes defensiveness and that
defensiveness reduces awareness

9. • True leaders make decisions by using
their hearts as well as their minds

10. • That the Creator gave us creativity and
we invented Control

11. • A dream is like a sculpture that must be
chipped away until it’s complete

12. • My need to look good has ended up
wrecking my goals more than anything
else

13. • All the events, circumstances and
people in my life were there to prepare
me for this moment

14. • We don’t know where we came from or
where we’re going, so what really
matters is what we do right now

15. • Alternatives are more effective than
ultimatums

16. • Having a role model is one of the
smartest and smoothest ways to
succeed

17. • Miraculous solutions appear out of
nowhere once we become open and
aware

18. • Thriving relationships with others
require fully understanding my
relationship with Self

19. • It is easier to accept feelings than to
rationalise them

20. • Disappointment is directly proportionate
to expectation regarding circumstances
beyond our control

21. • Taking NO action is taking an action

22. • If you don’t do everything you can right
now you’ll have more to do later

23. • Learning is a lifestyle

24. • Fear, when managed, promotes
excellence and creativity

25. • Regret lasts forever

26. • People who are constantly busy are
often hiding from something

27. • Career can be the elusive thief of true
identity

28. • Most of the things that made me feel
happy when I was 10 still do

29. • Obstacles are visible only when I take
my eyes off the goal

30. • The human mind is like a parachute –
neither functions unless fully opened

31. • Limiting beliefs are usually supported by
unmet needs

32. • Anything is possible if I let go of my
attachment to a specific outcome

33. • If I pay attention to inklings and nudges,
I can avoid problems and crises

34. • Action is the antidote to fear and
depression

35. • Success is a poor teacher

36. • When something is not clear it is time to
ask better questions

37. • Being defensive is oxymoronic – it
usually invites stones to be thrown

38. • Coaching isn’t about holding clients
accountable, it’s about their becoming
responsible

39. • Outlook determines outcome

40. • People need acknowledgement and
endorsement far more than they need
suggestions for improvement

41. • Getting into “FLOW” means literally
firing up my entire brain

42. • At a profound level the less I need the
more freedom of choice I experience

43. • Proving worth is the ego’s endless
game of running in circles

44. • No team succeeds if composed solely
of similar players

45. • The more I depend upon forces outside
myself the more I am a slave to them

46. • As a coach it is my job to see what’s
inside you and to help you express that

47. • The opinions of others reveal more
about them than about us

48. • It’s not so much where we are but in
which direction we are moving

49. • If I find myself in a hole it’s time to put
down the shovel

50. • A ‘missed opportunity’ is really a choice
that’s still beyond awareness

51. • By identifying and eliminating
expectations, I free myself to more fully
receive

52. • Awareness is the first step towards
change

53. • Guilt is always about the past, anxiety is
always about the future and either can
destroy a perfectly good life in the
present

54. • Boredom is the price we pay for being
self-absorbed

55. • Changing habits on a deep level takes
willingness, consistent application and
time

56. • It’s OK to say “I don’t know”

57. • Being responsible sometimes requires a
reminder that I am able to respond

58. • Only I can determine the reality I face
on a given day

59. • Organisations don’t run on information,
they run on relationships

60. • The biggest blocks to learning are the
words “I know”

61. • Time and energy are far better spent
delegating tasks to others than trying to
strengthen my weaknesses

62. • Progress is people demanding
impossible things

63. • A coach is to life what oil is to an engine
– small regular doses keep everything
running smoothly

64. • I am my best when I am my ,most
natural relaxed self

65. • It is often true that whatever we resist is
our next best step

66. • Change begins with a decision, grows
with a commitment and occurs with
action

67. • The greatest path to travel along is the
one I create

68. • A leader who is too far out in front tends
to blend in with the horizon and lose
effectiveness

69. • Asking for help only works when we
make space to receive it

70. • As a coach I see people in terms of
future potential not past performance

71. • I don’t have to see myself as not good,
bad or dysfunctional in order to grow
and change

72. • Spending 90% of life in the present will
reduce the past to memory. The future
will take care of itself.

73. • I am most at peace and things work
when I give up my need for control

74. • Consultants get paid to learn; coaches
get paid to grow

75. • Giving it away is the only way to keep it

76. • Delegating responsibility without
accountability is a prescription for
frustration and failure

77. • Experience is the toughest teacher –
she gives you the test first and the
lesson later

78. • “Walking the Talk” is the only game
worth playing

79. • Unconditional Love means more than
mere acceptance of ‘what is’: it means
SUPPORTING others as if they were
already absolutely perfect

80. • I interpret the world, so it exists as I see
it

81. • Doing for others what they can do for
themselves is not helping, it’s crippling

82. • Clients will pay whatever I am willing to
receive

83. • Our subconscious is the world’s most
outrageous computer and, as with all
computers, it’s garbage in, garbage out

84. • A goal is merely an excuse for being in
the process

85. • The true victory is in the process not the
end result

86. • Failure is a gateway to a new level of
self-acceptance and appreciation for the
perfection of the Universe

87. • Failure is often an illusion

88. • As I give others freedom to be, I give
myself freedom to be

89. • I can embrace the paradox that in
stillness I may achieve my goals

90. • When I give freely of that which I value I
receive tenfold back

91. • When push comes to shove, stop

92. • The key to a stress-free life is living in
the moment

93. • Not everyone is coachable

94. • The only way to evolve is through the
path of self-acceptance

95. • Judgement and expectation drain
energy

96. • A good coach tells bold-faced truths

97. • There are no teachers any more: we are
all students learning together

98. • Comparisons are joyless

99. • Our perception is our reality

100. • Compassion is being unafraid of what
we see in other people

101. • People are their actions

102. • Every change offers opportunity

103. • What we tolerate saps our energy

104. • Choice gives power fear drains it

105. • If you continue to do what you have
always done you will continue to get
what you’ve always got

106. • Power is like love: the only way to keep
it is to give it away

107. • Flexibility is power and Trust is eternal
strength

108. • Trust and confidence are built through
empathy

109. • If it is not effortless we are probably
doing it wrong

110. • There are two possible outcomes in life
– to have reasons why it didn’t happen
or to have results

111. • The object of life is to die young as late
as possible

112. • If you do not know where you are going
you are probably going to end up
somewhere else

113. • Being effective takes less energy than
being efficient

114. • When I accept where I am in life I move
on to other places with less effort

115. • Faith is a verb

116. • When I believe in my own value others
are attracted to me

117. • When I live with intention but without
attachment amazing things happen

118. • Closing the sale is the beginning not the
end

119. • The more I recognise my own
uniqueness the less I need to compare
myself with others

120. • It’s important to begin then have faith I
will know how to complete

121. • Only tasks can be managed; people
must be led

122. • The best opportunities almost always
come in disguise

123. • Nobody ever gives me offence, I only
take it

124. • Life is a constant test on how to deal
with others

125. • The more I ‘help’, the more I remove
personal power from others

126. • Relationships and judgements mirror
how we feel about ourselves

127. • Freedom is a state of mind

128. • Everything I need I already have

129. • A cynic is an idealist with an unfulfilled
dream

130. • When we know our values no decision
is difficult

131. • Where there is worry there is a struggle
for control

132. • I cannot always choose the
circumstances I face, but can always
choose how to react

133. • The problem is not important, it is how I
handle the solution

134. • I have to stop waiting for the right time
and make the time right

135. • My surroundings perfectly mirror the
state of my internal environment

136. • Crafting a life is not the same as making
a living

137. • My perception of reality is not shared by
everyone

138. • Our thoughts create our reality

139. • Success comes from doing what we
love and loving what we do

140. • Heaven is not a place it is a human
condition

141. • Abundance is our natural state – lack is
an illusion

142. • Actually doing it is much less work than
thinking about doing it

143. • External problems have internal
solutions

144. • The best way to learn anything is to
teach it

145. • When we live our passion life becomes
extremely satisfying

146. • It is a sign of true strength of character
to be able to admit to making a mistake
without excuse

147. • Professionals succeed precisely as
much as their clients succeed

148. • If creating something requires a great
deal of effort and struggle, it is probably
not something I should be doing

149. • My clients have all the answers within
them; my job is to hold the mirror

150. • Employees must understand the
employer’s vision if the company is to
succeed

151. • Failure is the result of giving up

152. • We attract in others all that which we
have not learned to accept in ourselves

153. • Knowledge can be learned with the
mind but wisdom must be acquired
through experience

154. • The quest for ‘perfection’ is inevitably
disappointing

155. • I learn by listening not by hearing myself
talk

156. • I don’t know as much as I think I know

157. • I MIGHT succeed without coaching, but
I WILL succeed with it

158. • Coaches train people to pay very close
attention to who they are and what they
want

159. • Truly listening is like being a sponge
with a brain

160. • It feels good to be generous with
compliments and praise

161. • Life opens opportunities for each of us;
we choose whether or not to take action

162. • The world changes little; it’s our
perception of the world that changes

163. • Focusing on strengths is better than
strengthening weaknesses

164. • Giving what we love to give is always
more successful than giving what we
think others want

165. • Avoiding commitments inhibits the
fullest experience of life

166. • Intention + Attention = Miracles

167. • While reaction is instinctive the ability to
respond intelligently is the hallmark of
the evolving soul

168. • Forgiveness from others is worthless
unless I fully forgive myself

169. • While our background and
circumstances shape who we’ve been
we are responsible for who we become

170. • Every problem or challenge has a
solution just not the one we may want

171. • Integrity is the steadfast refusal to do
anything I will dislike myself for having
done

172. • By listening to my inner voice, which
knows neither pride nor arrogance, I
can learn the truth

173. • Life is a process of casting away fear
after fear

174. • If we get what we need we will have
what we want

175. • We already embody our full “potential”,
we just have to “be” it.

176. • Being present in the moment is a richer
experience than any I may be chasing
after

177. • Life reveals itself to us one frame at a
time: we mustn’t mistake the current
frame for the whole picture

178. • Letting go of the assumption of needing
to know it all allows the freedom to
explore and an opportunity to learn from
people who model what we want

179. • Being truly in the moment means that I
can’t by definition be disappointed

180. • People take credit for their happiness
and blame others for their misfortune

181. • Forever can be just today

182. • Leadership comes from the heart,
management from the head

183. • Vision + Determination = Living my
Dreams

184. • Improving any organisation starts with
changing the self

185. • A strong focus eliminates more
obstacles than any problem-solving
strategy ever could

186. • We are always at choice especially
when we think we have no options

187. • Sometimes making a 180-degree turn
creates better results than continuing to
push harder in the same direction

188. • When I consider everything to be an
experiment, my attachment to the
outcome disappears

189. • When we decide to make a major
change the Universe will suddenly and
inexplicably tempt us to stay put; that is
how we know we are on the right track

190. • Creativity is like a faucet: if we judge an
idea before it flows we shut off all the
ideas behind it

191. • When I judge others I disconnect from
myself

192. • When I resist I suffer

193. • My problems are my teachers

194. • When I judge others I am judging myself

195. • As hard as it is to change myself, it
would be impossible for me to change
anyone else

196. • A strong intention attracts success

197. • A hectic schedule often covers a deep
fear of boredom

198. • Habits are like children – fighting with
them is pointless. What they need first
and foremost is love and acceptance

199. • Things really are what they seem but
we can only comprehend that when
we’re seeing and listening skilfully

200. • The way we label a situation/person
reflects or can shift our perception of it

201. • People value me to the extent I value
myself

202. • I need to stop being a victim of
opportunities

203. • Lessons are repeated until they are
really learned

204. • It’s worthwhile to ruffle someone’s
feathers if in the end it helps them to
learn how to fly

205. • Knowledge is pointless unless it inspires
action

206. • Attachment to a specific outcome is an
attempt to buy security for the price of
chance

207. • Being a coach without a coach is like
being a magician without a trick

208. • If I speak from my heart my audience
will hear from theirs

209. • Maturity can be measured by how little
delay there is between any stimulus and
the appropriate response

210. • The word “but” negates all that
precedes it – use “and” or “however”
instead

211. • A future full of possibilities is more
attractive than a past full of
accomplishments

212. • The only thing at which I can
consistently succeed is the art of being
myself

213. • My value is not in what I do but in who I
am

214. • The way to change others is to change
myself

215. • The strongest position I can hold is my
own truth

216. • When two people disagree, the quickest
resolution comes when one of the two
decides to hear the other completely

217. • I must always let the truth lead the way
because it will, whether I follow it or not

218. • When we stop looking for answers the
best questions appear

219. • Clients are brought into our lives so we
can grow with them

220. • Clients provide us with an opportunity to
share our gifts

221. • It’s important to take the care to
respond rather than react

222. • A client’s trust is an honour to be won

223. • Love is learning how to “be”

224. • The more I learn the more I realise how
little I know

225. • We can’t hear in others what we haven’t
listened to in ourselves

226. • By asking the right questions we honour
a client’s knowing

227. • The best feedback is both subjective
and descriptive

228. • There is a link between my greatest
strength and my worst weakness

229. • True wisdom combines experience,
knowledge and intuition

230. • Knowing renders learning impossible

231. • The journey of self-discovery is a painful
worthwhile adventure

232. • Too much work can rob us of life

233. • By asking ‘why’, ‘what’, ‘how’ and ‘what
if’ about any situation usually uncovers
some overlooked gem and that
everyone has a blind spot around at
least one of these questions

234. • All my problems started out as good
ideas

235. • No amount of business knowledge or
experience is more powerful than simply
testing what the market wants

236. • A great coach can hear what’s going on
with a client by changes in their
breathing

237. • Since we create our own games we
might as well set ourselves up to win

238. • When a client ends the relationship it’s
always for the best

239. • Everyone’s way of receiving information
is different and a good teacher coach or
mentor will take the time to learn the
best approach

240. • We always attract others at a similar
stage of development

241. • People I view as “difficult” are actually
teachers sent to help me evolve

242. • Learning doesn’t end until life does

243. I have learned that:
• In a disagreement seeing the other’s
perspective is even more satisfying than
prevailing