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12. Tonight’s Key Vocabulary Neuro Linguistic Programming: The science of personal excellence “Neuro” is the Greek root relating to the brain, “Linguistic” relating to language and communication, and “programming” like with computers, or the code that links your mind, emotions, and body Beliefs: A degree of certainty that something is true Rules: The way we choose to do things in order to achieve our Beliefs or Values
13. Some Key NLP Concepts to Remember You are in charge of your mind, and therefore your results There is no failure: only feedback People have all the resources they need to succeed and the achieve their goals. There are no un-resourceful people, only believing we are un-resourceful
14. Our Agenda Frog in The Well Break Self-Talk WTTTTPP Climbing out of the well
15. Our Goals To identify the beliefs and rules that keep you from achieving your personal vision To see how those beliefs and rules are shaped To take the skills we need to overcome our own barriers To rewrite our rules to live “outside of the well”
16. What Makes it Perfect? Your perfect day reveals something important about how you define success. To help clarify this definition, think about your ideal world in terms of:Be Your state of mind; how you relate to yourself and othersDo Your roles, behaviors, and contributionHave Your results and rewards
17. How Do You Define Success? In your perfect day who are you being? What are you doing? What rewards are you enjoying?
18. What Isn’t Perfect Right Now? What are some obstacles to your perfect day?
19. What Are These Costing You? Choose one obstacle’s costs (ie; no money) in terms of... Personal satisfaction Emotional Health Relationships Freedom Communication Motivation Physical Health Quality of Life
21. How Do You Interpret the Story? The Frog is 青蛙是… The well is…这口井是… The bricks are…砖是… The patch of sky is…一片天空是… The unseen sky is…广阔无垠的天空是… The sea is…大海是… The turtle is…乌龟是…
22. all that is possible Your choices no money lazy fear no skills Lack of experience I’m OK lack confidence no opportunity no time lack knowledge
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24. What limiting beliefs do you have that affect your “Perfect Day” Consider your beliefs about: Yourself Money Love Relationships Life Learning Career Success
25. How do we build our well: Self Talk Judgment Emotion External Event Behavior Self-Image Experience Results
27. Climbing Out of the Well Step 1: Create the Ideal Envision what your ideal future outside would look and feel like. Step 2:Look at what you have now that you don’t want. Understand the costs of staying where you are now, versus the benefits of giving it up. Step 3: Create new empowering beliefs Decide what belief will empower you and build up the support and the internal evidence to internalize this belief Step 4:Commit to a plan Agree to take specific action based on SMART Goals to create the pathway out.
28. Step 1: Create the Ideal In your “perfect day”… Who do you want to be? What do want to do? What do you want to have? Answer these questions in the present tense
29. Step 2a: Look at What You Have Now… Identify (up to) 5 limiting beliefs that have brought about negative consequences and outcomes in your life What negative consequence have you already experienced as a result of this belief? What is the worst thing that could happen to you if you continues to hold onto this limiting belief?
30. Step 2b … that you don’t want Old references to support the limiting belief Why this is not true
31. Step 3: Create a New Empowering Belief New Empowering Belief is: I know this is true because: I must change my belief because
32. Step 4: Commit to a Plan Come back to your vision of who you want to be what you want to do, and what you want to have. How will this vision of your life bring you joy, happiness,freedom,fulfillment and love? My new Empowering Beliefs are… My next steps to become the vision of myself is…