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Understanding the Different
Motives of Those Who Batter
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2. “Nothing is easier than to denounce the
evildoer; nothing is more difficult than to
understand him.”
― Fyodor Dostoevsky
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3. Some victims describe:
◦ partner believes they have the right to be
violent if victim fails to please them
◦ cyclical relationship where violence has
increased in severity and frequency; partner
experiences true remorse for behavior
◦ sadism and merciless torture
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4. •Different Motives
•Different Behaviors
•Different Dangers
All batterers seek to dominate and control their
victim. Why they want to dominate and control,
however, is quite different.
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6. Motivation is based on privilege
◦ If things don’t go his/her way, believes they have
the right to punish
◦ Behavior is quite calculated, evidence of
someone in absolute control rather than being
“out of control” with anger
◦ If cyclical, not genuine in remorse
◦ Some fake anger, or have “righteous” anger
◦ Likely to get more severe w/o accountability
◦ Fits well with feminist perspective and social
learning theory
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9. Primary interest is money and material assets
None had even normal degrees of jealousy
Some exploitive:
◦ View women as interchangeable and disposable
• Expectation of services from their partner (sexual
intimacy, emotional support, companionship,
housework, care of children) without assuming
any reciprocal responsibilities.
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10. Contempt for their partner
◦ Could not think of a positive attribute of partner
View women as restrictors of their liberty
◦ Lack empathy & remorse
◦ Manipulative, exploitive
◦ Shallow emotions
• Some are career criminals
Victims rarely contact police
Make victims drug dependent, then threatens to
cut her off.
Might also force them into prostitution.
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12. 20 Agencies,15 cities (& surrounding area)
Total #: 352; 60 children; 292 adult
84% domestic; 16% international
Mostly female
Where the relationship between the
victim and trafficker was known,
33.07% spouse/partner was
trafficker
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13. Motivation related to survival needs.
◦ Must have their partner in order to survive
◦ Reaction to loss is not of fear, but terror
◦ Sense of betrayal is not normal anger, but rage
◦ Fits Walker’s description: strong cycle of abuse
◦ Much of Dutton’s “abusive personality” structure
fits
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15. Describes “cyclical or emotionally volatile
batterers”
◦ 5 biggest childhood contributors to wife assault, ranked in
order of importance
1. Being shamed by their father
2. Being rejected/abandoned by their father
3. Being physically abused by their father
4. Being verbally abused by their father
5. Feeling rejected by their mother
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16. “…combination of anger toward her and self-
loathing…he said he frequently felt inferior… (p.90)
“…suicide threats, quitting his job, cashing out his
retirement…someone who’d decided he had little
to live for…” (p. 4)
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17. • “The subject’s own sadism toward a loved
and hated object turned back on the self”=
masochism (Glickauf-Hughes & Wells); explains
homicide-suicide DV.
“losing his family through death…no more
disastrous than losing through desertion…
at least he has called the shots and exerted
his authority…” (Wilson, Daly, Daniele. 1995)
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19. Does not fit well with trafficking a victim
Fits with becoming a buyer:
◦ “Jekyll and Hyde” personality
◦ “Prostitution is an arena in which men obtain
confirmation that women exist for the purpose of pleasing
men.” --Prieur and Taksdal
◦ Some perceive buying sex will “improve sexual
performance”
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20. Motivated by the pleasure received through
causing another’s pain
Most intelligent
Usually have considerable power on the job
Often does not begin abuse until long after the
marriage began
Masterful at hiding abuse from family/friends
Victimization first noted when victims enter
psych units
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25. Not always distinct
categories
Can carry a wide
range of differences,
Knowing the
batterer’s motive is
just one aspect of
responding to the
risk.
High Risk
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26. Considering motive and tailoring approach
accordingly can be effective.
Court services conducted an independent
review of FPI completers:
◦ 170 completers over 5.5 years
◦ 81% were not known to reoffend
(defined as new charges or PFA filed against)
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27. Dorthy Stucky Halley, LMSW
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Editor's Notes Theory: Object Relations, Ego Development, Attachment, Social Learning, Feminist-based theoretical perspectives.
These types encompass much of what has been learned through other typology attempts
Is based on years of experience in understanding the innermost fears and predicaments of both perpetrators and victims
Some have narcissistic personality disorder, with less splitting than borderline
Have some features associated with anti-social personality:
Have same characteristics as above, but have no qualms about disclosing ill treatment of women
A child experiencing first 4 might also experience rejection or inconsistency by mother (Bowlby, 1982; Bancroft & Silverman, 2002)
His rumination appeared to be a combination of anger toward her and self-loathing. He said that he had frequently felt inferior to Andrea.” (Adams, 2007, P90.)
“His past suicide threats, quitting of his job, and cashing out of his retirement plan also helped paint a picture of someone who’d decided he had little to live for.” (Adams, 2007, P4)
“The prospect of losing his family through death apparently strikes the desperate familicidal father as no more disastrous than the prospect of losing them through desertion! Better, perhaps, since at least he has called the shots and exerted his authority. (Wilson, Daly, Daniele. 1995, P 197)
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