This is a condensed slide deck from the second class in my section of Interpersonal Dynamics (aka Touchy Feely) at the Stanford Graduate School of Business in Winter Quarter 2017.
2. First 2 hours here
• Announce T-groups
• Exercises with 3 partners
• Next steps
Last hour & tonight in T-group
Today’s agenda
Photo by Theresa Thompson [link]
21. Language police
Also, a quirk of English…
When we say, “I feel like…” or “I feel that…”
what follows is not an emotion
but an opinion or belief
22. Language police
“I feel like you’re disrepectful…”
Over the Net
Conjecture about their inner state
More likely to provoke defensiveness
23. Language police
“I feel disrepected…”
Not over the Net
Disclosure about my inner state
Less likely to provoke defensiveness
31. Connections
A bid can be a question, a gesture, a look,
a touch—any single expression that says,
“I want to feel connected to you.”
~John Gottman
41. Evaluation style
Direct
Frank, blunt & candid.
Individuals may be
criticized in a group.
Indirect
Subtle & diplomatic.
Criticism is given
only in private.
43. Persuasive style
Practical
Start with opinions &
facts. Add concepts to
justify conclusions.
Conceptual
Start with underlying
principles. Add facts
to justify theories.
44. Source of trust
Task Accomplishment
Relationships begin &
end quickly, based on
practical needs.
Personal Relationships
Relationships evolve
over time, based on
personal networks
45. How are our styles similar?
How are our styles different?
How does this reflect our social identities?
How might any of this show up in our T-group?
Discuss with
your partner
47. Photo by Adam Kubalica [link]
Learning goals
Clarity for self & others
Escalation of commitment
Very important in this course
Be prepared for them to evolve
51. Next steps
T-group until 5:50pm & tonight*
Week 2 Post-Group Assignment due Thurs @ Noon
Week 3 Readings & Class Notes on Canvas
Week 3 Pre-Class Assignment due Mon @ Noon
Next class Tues Jan 24, 3pm here
52. T-group times
Until 5:50pm & 7-10pm*
Group 1 (Don & Lela): M102
Group 2 (Tuquynh & Rich): M107
Group 3 (Mark & Sue): M110
& rooms
53. T-group tasks
Pick an evening time: 3-hour block, 6:30-10:30pm
Don’t forget to bring your learning goals
Agree on some group norms
59. Confidentiality
There is no perfect set of norms
If you seek perfection, you’ll get stuck
But if you rush, you’ll miss someone’s anxiety
Bear in mind: Safety, trust, intimacy