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Use Couples Counseling To Develop Your Relationship
Some families use couples counseling in Fort Lauderdale to ?dig themselves out of a hole? in their
relationship. They are dealing with a problem that has brought them to their wits end and may have been
tormenting them for years. However, there is no need to wait until a problem becomes dire before taking
advantage of couples counseling. In fact, it is often a good idea to have a counseling session even for couples
that have healthy relationships.
The fact of the matter is that would be much more effective, and much more useful if families treated their
relationships as they would their automobile. Smart automobile owners react to the first symptom that
something is wrong. If their brakes or transmission ?feel funny?, if there is a strange sound coming from
the engine, if their pickup is a little sluggish, then they immediately bring their car into the dealership or
repair shop. Very few car owners wait until their car breaks down in the middle of the road, or starts
dropping parts along the way, before they deal with the problem. They do this because they know that small
problem indicators sometimes have easy and less expensive solutions, while letting the small symptoms
become big symptoms can result in a very difficult and expensive repair. Yet these same car owners are loath
to approach a counselor when the first signs of marital discord become evident, and often wait until divorce is
imminent before taking action. Unfortunately, just as for the car, the marital problems may have become
overwhelming at that point.
On the other hand, smart car owners also get regular checkups, even when their car is running fine. Couples
would do well to adopt the same philosophy with their relationship. Why not talk to a person who is trained in
developing healthy relationships? Two things often happen in such a counseling sessions. The first is that the
couple is given an idea that can help them bring their relationship to even greater heights. Another is that
sometimes a small problem does come out that one partner or the other has avoided bringing up. This gives
the couple the chance to work out a problem that one of the partners may not even have realized existed.
In a couples counseling session, where the couple has no clear idea of what they want to work on, the
counselor will often start by evaluating the couple?s effectiveness at communication skills one with the
other. This is done for two reasons. The first is that ineffective communication is at the root of a range of
problems, and that one of the most effective ways a couple can improve their relationship is to improve their
communications. A second reason is that good communication skills in a marriage give the couple one of the
most important skills to maintaining their relationship and keeping the marriage healthy.
The counselor need not focus on the couple?s relationship during the session. It may also be a good time for
the couple to deal with problems that they are dealing with jointly. One of the most common relationships
that are discussed is those with the couple?s children. Do the children seem quiet and detached? Is there a
good channel of communication? Couples discover all sorts of reasons to improve their relationships and their
lives through .
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