5. SELF IMPROVEMENT
Optimism:
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What is optimism
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Energy of optimism
positive thinkers or negative
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thinkers
Editor's Notes
Your self image is meant to serve you. Find out how it will serve you favorably and mould it accordingly. The image you have of yourself determines the quality of your love life, your relationships, your career or business success and your financial success. It is your own making, so if you are not happy with it, you can change it. However, many people tend to think that it is an outer job, just look well groomed, neat haircut, nicely dressed, good make-up and we project a nice image. This is not what I mean.
Confidence is a feeling that makes you think that you are capable of doing something with ease and calmness. It makes you optimistic and pleased with yourself. It can also be a plus for you to enjoy doing things and enjoying life. But confidence is not the feeling where you think you are superior to others. That is not real self confidence I'd and like to discuss confidence from this angle and how confidence influences success. As you know, there are a lot of important factors for achieving success. Some factors are out of your control, even if you don’t realize the critical factor. If you think that you are better than others, you must come to the conclusion that you should be more successful than others, that you should be the most successful. This is a problem. As you know, confidence is not the way of success, confidence doesn’t mean success, it doesn’t equal success These days, a lot of success is due to your outstanding ability. IQ is an important part of your ability. You inherit most of IQ from your parents. Therefore, your confidence can’t change it. For some, success that is primarily dependent on IQ, makes you think that you are better than others and can make you feel more frustrated
the intellectual identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another. the imaginative ascribing to an object, as a natural object or work of art, feelings or attitudes present in oneself: By means of empathy, a great painting becomes a mirror of the self. People are very busy these days to care about their careers and hobbies. There is no time left to be aware of other’s trouble, to be sensitive to other’s unhappy feelings, and to actually help others to solve their problems. These days people seem to have a lot of things to care about. Kids care about which computer games they are going to play, which programs on TV they are going to see, and which grades they are going to get at school. College students care about how they are going to pass twenty credit courses while still enjoying life, which style of jeans they are going to buy, and who they are going to date. "White collar" people care about whether the stock market is going to crash on another black Monday, when their next promotions is happening, where their summer holidays are going to be. You and me are in the same cycle, too. Have we ever had time to care about other’s feelings when they are falling down after their broken marriages? Have we ever taken time to feel sympathy and to help disabled and poor people who are hungry and jobless? Have we ever had time to think of old people who were sent to nursing homes and only remembered by their family once in a year?
Optimism is an attitude that keeps us centered on what is good about our present situation or about the future. Everything that is lovely or delightful in this world exists alongside pain and loss; optimism is a conscious selective focus on the good. Optimism gives us energy; it makes our efforts feel worthwhile. In the end it is rewarded because even though some of these efforts will fail, others will succeed, and we can’t know ahead of time which are which. When we are optimistic we are happier and better company—we help other people to be happy and hopeful, too. Many people think different ways. Either they are positive thinkers or negative thinkers. In other words, they are optimists or pessimists. Optimistic people are positive thinkers. These people have a positive outlook on life
