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How to Talk to ANYONE
By Leil LOWNDES

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Let’s start with your smile ☺

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The Flooding Smile
• Don’t flash an immediate smile when you greet
someone.
• Instead, look at other person’s face for a second.
• Then let a big, warm, responsive smile flood over your
face and overflow into your eyes.
• The split-second delay convinces people that your
flooding smile is genuine and only for them.

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Big-Baby Pivot
• Throw that warm smile coupled with 100% body turn.
• Pivoting 100% toward the new person shouts “I think
you are very, very special.”

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Sticky Eyes
• Maintain eye contact even he/she is finished speaking.
Then look away ever so slowly if you have to. This
makes you appear intelligent and insightful.

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Standard opening questions
• Where are you from?
• Who do you know?
• Compliment them.

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Always give them hooks to continue
the conversation.

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Mood settings
• Put people at ease
• Match moods
• Identify language style & preferences
• Learn about person’s hot buttons
• Don’t interrupt & Listen more than you talk

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Never the Naked
• Never the Naked City/job/introduction
• No simple answer
• Be a wealth of information

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Watch the Scene Before You Make the
Scene
• SEE
• HEAR
• FEEL
• VISUALIZE

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Kill the Quick “Me, Too!”
• Do not volunteer your similarities with other person.
• Let them discover themselves during the conversation.

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Say it as long as it’s not
• Complaining
• Rude
• Unpleasant

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Comm-YOU-nication
• Big winners know there’s a three-letter word more
important then SEX to get people’s attention. That word
is “YOU.”

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The Exclusive Smile
• Grace each person with a distinct smile when meeting
groups of people.
• You make them feel like you don’t just smile at anybody.

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Instant History
• Find a few words that reprieve the laugh, the warm
smile, the good feelings the two of you felt.

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Tracking
• Track the tiniest details of your conversation partners’
lives.

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Employ Empathizers
• Dust your dialogue with phrases like “I see what you
mean.” Sprinkle it with sentimental sparklers like “That’s
a lovely thing to say.”

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“I Hear Your Other Line”
• When you hear a phone in the background,stop
speaking.

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Little Strokes
• Let them know how much you appreciate them by
caressing them with verbal Little Strokes like “Nice job!”
“Well done!” “Cool!”

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Never the Naked Thank you
• Always say “thank you for…” never just “thank you.”

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Thank you for listening!