1. Patience
Unlike in the good old days, patience has taken a severe beating in
today’s fast-paced modern life. A big thanks to fast food restaurants, high-
speed elevators, ready-to-eat foods, instant coffee makers, ATMs, quick
money-making schemes, microwaves, and credit cards among others for
making our lives easier, faster, and better. Even time-consuming research
has been superseded by our ability to type two or three words into that
extremely helpful search engine: Google (unless you have just gotten off the
shuttle from Alpha Centauri, you’re already aware of the product that made
Google famous: its Search box. It’s become the card catalog for the
Internet). But all these tools that operate for our instant gratification come at
a price, of course: patience is tossed out of the window. Today, instant
gratification rules the roost. We want quick-fix solutions to problems. We go
for immediate results and have little time to think about the long-term
consequences of our actions. We want to make progress at the speed of a
bullet train.
We want what we want now. However, in our search for short-term
pleasure, we are compromising on the quality of the outcome, which usually
takes some time. Keep in mind that instant quick fixes give only fleeting
happiness. The most meaningful and fulfilling things take discipline,
patience, and effort. Today, the need for patience is more relevant than it has
ever been.
I think we need to learn a lesson or two from our predecessors, who
managed to have a good time within the limitations of society.
Communication, food, information, entertainment, and health care were not
instant during their time, but they showed incredible patience in leading
satisfying lives that modern mortals seem to lack. Without patience, you
cannot lead a happy life, although you may have every luxury at your
disposal.
We are born with a desire for instant gratification because as tiny tots, we
whooped and danced, knowing that our parents would indulge our whims
and desires in no time. This gave us a marvelous feeling. But the moment we
left the toddler phase, we were told to wait on anything and everything. We
now feel that we have been treated unfairly, and pout endlessly.

2. Once the parents of Damari and Jordyn (twin brothers) showed them a
tantalizing box of chocolates, but told them to complete their homework
before they could eat a piece. Damari maintained a patient approach from
start to finish in doing his homework. He earned brownie points from his
parents and flashed a winning smile. On the other hand, Jordyn let
temptation get the better of him. He could not finish his assigned task and
felt a pang of jealousy at seeing Damari complete his homework.
Patience is the ability to
(1) Have a relaxed approach toward life.
(2) Believe that things will settle down in a matter of time.
(3) Wait for change to happen.
(4) Keep persisting in the midst of crisis situations.
(5) Engage in mature thinking (in the form of accepting the truth), such
as “slow and steady” wins the race.
(6) Adopt a “wait and watch” approach when things are beyond your
grasp.
(7) Be confident (in one’s mind) that “success will happen” in the near
future.
(8) Back yourself to the hilt.
(9) Have a good mental perspective about the happenings in life.
(10) Think for a few extra moments to make wise decisions.
We need to remain patient. Making the right moves should be done at
the right time. If we are not patient, we will quickly rush into something, and
then the entire thing will end up as “irremediable failure.” There’s an old
Taoist metaphor that applies here: If you want a glass of muddy water to
clear, leave it alone and let it settle out by itself. If you try to stir it clear, it
will only get cloudier. Conventional wisdom says that it may take a certain

3. amount of time to develop patience, but it is worth every bit of the process.
You simply cannot change yourself into a patient person overnight. We all
have the ability to be patience personified, but it only develops after we face
difficulties of all shapes and sizes. Moreover, it is a difficult task to practice
patience at all times, but those who do, reap ample rewards. This is the
moment when the famous story of the tortoise and the hare crosses my mind.
As you already know, it is the steady, consistent tortoise that always finishes
the race. The tortoise takes pride in itself because it always practices
patience. As Benjamin Franklin said, “He that can have Patience, can have
what he will..”
The term patience means “slow to get angry.” The Greek word for
patience is makrothumos, where makro means “long or slow” and thumos
means “anger or wrath.”
Patience helps a person to take on disturbances, disgruntlement,
suffering without losing equanimity. Patience changes a person completely
into a self-assured, firm, and balanced being. Patience is a sign of maturity
(it involves the ability to live with delayed gratification). St. Augustine was
absolutely right when he said, “Patience is the companion of wisdom..” You
need to be patient—when adopting a conciliatory approach to crisis
situations, marrying, understanding complex issues, recovering from
breaking up, overcoming physical injuries, becoming a superstar actor,
rearing a kid, starting a business, or attempting a breathtakingly difficult task
(a daredevil attempt). “Being patient” is equivalent to “being tolerant.” The
more you show patience, the better the chance that you will reach
unimaginable heights (personal and/or professional) in your life.
Patience and perseverance are mutually complimentary
It might take plenty of efforts to undergo the transition from a plump
person to a waif-like supermodel. It may take several years to write a page-
turner. It might take a lot of time to achieve the things on your want list.
Keep working hard. Maintain a high level of enthusiasm. Strike gold with
your actions. Successfully complete your mission. Your satisfaction will be
beyond words.
Exercising patience is similar to a physical exercise:

4. (1) It requires day-to-day effort.
(2) It throws you out of your comfort zone.
(3) It is extremely difficult to start, but eventually it becomes smooth
sailing.
(4) It is filled with remarkable benefits.
Let me give a thumbnail sketch of two prodigiously talented athletes
who set the world on fire: Tiger Woods and Lance Armstrong.
Tiger Woods (an American professional golfer) did not gain mastery
over his sport overnight. He put in ceaseless effort and displayed enormous
patience to win the Masters, the U.S. Open, the British Open, and the PGA
Championship over a period of time. It is no surprise that his marvelous
feats earned him a place in the pantheon of golfers.
Lance Armstrong (an American former professional road racing
cyclist) won the Tour de France, cycling’s most prestigious race, seven
consecutive times, from 1999 to 2005. He put blood and sweat into
accomplishing this splendid achievement. He also owed much of his
amazing feat to his patient perseverance. By dint of this quality, he was
literally “ahead of the pack..” There was no stopping him as he went on to
scale peaks after peaks.
One’s patience is tested in the following situations:
(1) Traffic jams
(2) Long lines
(3) Slow downloading speed of the Internet
(4) Noise
(5) Delayed beginnings
(6) Junk mail

5. (7) Nagging people
(8) Excessive advertisements during television programs
(9) Stop-start cricket match proceedings (due to rain interruptions)
(10) Rolling blackouts
Impatience, a.k.a. “hurry sickness,” forms the root of a persistent
angry mood, filthy language, and rudeness toward others. A person’s
impatience can lead to picayune arguments. A lack of patience may
prompt a person to make precipitous (without sufficient thought or
preparation) decisions or incorrect assumptions and do the wrong thing,
eventually causing him to suffer. Impatient people want success-oriented
results without taking action—they want rippling muscles without going
to a gym, they want good grades in exams without working hard, they
want to wave a magic wand to solve their problems, and they want to pile
up materialistic goods by winning the lottery or a casino jackpot.
Impatient people take the easy way out and use deception to get what
they want.
A flower cannot grow before a set period, and a newborn animal
cannot protect itself from any type of threatening force(s). By the same
token, a baby needs to take time and effort when getting ready to perform
serious actions. This is the usual journey of life. If we want a successful
finished product, we have to wait for the process to culminate, or else we
will dig our own grave through our impatience.
Scientists and psychologists claim that because we are living in the
digital era with iPods and other gizmos that make our lives easier, it is in the
nature of things that people have become less patient, poor things! A recent
Associated Press poll indicated that Americans start to feel impatient after
waiting on hold on the phone for 5 min or in a line for 15 min.
Symptoms of impatience: fidgetiness, hyperactivity, and violent
behavior.
Ill-effects of impatience
By showing impatience you

6. (1) Grumble, rant, and rave.
(2) Create a sense of urgency in your mind.
(3) Fail to maintain relationships.
(4) Are inviting haste to your door.
(5) Have the least chance of achieving your goals.
(6) Stop enjoying life and start worrying.
(7) Are letting yourself be psychologically tortured.
(8) Lose out on joyfulness.
(9) Attract a multitude of negative responses.
(10) Are speeding toward death.
When you are impatient, you feel –
Irritated
Bad-tempered
Confused
Annoyed
Restless
Statements representing the concept of “impatience”
(1) Ugh, I have to expedite my work, and finish it up as soon as possible.
(2) I have been with the company one and a half years and still see no
rewards to my pocketbook.

7. (3) I want a stratospheric rise in my career.
(4) My goals require lot of painstaking effort to come to fruition. So why
squander time on them?
(5) Huh, the bumpy rides in my life are making me peeved.
Hasty decision—a spin-off of impatience
A small, hasty decision is like a little pebble that can ripple out into
the deepest waves in your life. Destruction guaranteed!
Remedy: Never make wrong decisions when your chips are down. Do
not press the panic button when your mental state is not right. Hang on. Let
things settle down. The winds of change will occur. Chin up! Good times
will roll again.
Patience-building tips
To add to your level of patience, practice the following steps:
(1) Don’t do things in a rush. Relax.
(2) Replace worrying with prayer.
(3) Plan each day well in advance so that you have sufficient time to do
things.
(4) Get into the habit of thinking about pithy one-liners on “patience..”
How about observing the following quotations:
(i ) If you are patient in a moment of anger, you will escape a hundred
days of sorrow – Chinese Proverb
(i i ) If I have ever made any valuable discoveries, it has been owing
more to patient attention, than to any other talent – Isaac Newton

8. (iii) The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching
the egg, not by smashing it – Arnold H. Glasgow
(5) Do some homework for the situations that test your patience.
Meaty feats are created with one’s patience
Shakespeare was a great example of patience. Owing to his
extraordinary patience, he managed to author 36 plays, 154 sonnets, and
5 poems. Truly, a high-octane genius!
Colonel Sanders failed 1,000 times in his attempt to sell his chicken
recipe. Yet his enthusiasm never diminished by those setbacks. He was
always working at it, knowing very well that it was just a question of
time before his patience and persistence paid off. It really did pay off in a
big way. Long live one’s patience!
Patience—An essential element of success
Kendall and Jasper were close friends. Both completed their
undergraduate degrees in computer engineering and landed in Canada to
search for a software job (Canadians like to think of their country as a
mosaic rather than a melting pot). After 3 months of intense job hunting,
Kendall got into an international software development company named
ParetoLogic Corporation. Jasper too got into a privately held Canadian
software company named Waterloo Maple. This was a launch pad for his
career. Kendall was always the more patient laid-back type, whereas
Jasper was on the hyper side—always wanting to get something done
fast, showing little patience, and always seeking to rise in the pecking
order in a blinding flash. After a year on the job, Jasper quit, assuming
that the grass was greener on the other side. Thus, within a span of 2
years, he had changed 4 companies (Goodness me!), namely, DataMirror
Corporation, Cognos, Creo, and Adventus. His impatience had actually
worked against him. Remember, “A rolling stone gathers no moss..”
Kendall, on the other hand, is still with the same company and is
going great guns. He enjoys the working environment, and is a vital cog
in the wheel of his company. His patience has paid off beyond his wildest

9. dreams. He enjoys a package of 5 weeks vacation, 14 paid holidays, full
medical and dental benefits, a company matching retirement fund to 50%
of his salary, and a company car leased every 2 years.
Patience doesn’t mean sitting around and waiting. Do your work,
do the best you can, and reap the benefits when the time is right. If you
want a promotion, consistently give top-notch performances and wait
patiently for things to come your way.
How does impatience go against you?
In our conversation, we use this phrase most of the time (relating to
instant gratification): “Everything should happen now..” Little do we
know how much damage this idea is causing to our lives.
Illustration: Wyatt wanted to quadruple his earnings by hook or by
crook within 10 months. To do this, what did he do? He frittered away
his money, buying hot stocks and lottery tickets, gambling, and trying
different quick money-making schemes (chain letter scams, Ponzi
schemes), but what was the end result? He got his fingers burned as stock
prices took a nosedive, resulting in huge financial losses. It should be
understood that the building up of finances is a step-by-step process. One
cannot bypass the laws of nature and become Richie Rich overnight. One
has to sweat it out and work one’s way up the rungs of the ladder, and
only then will things click in life.
Ever since the news broke that Bernard Madoff had bilked his
investors in a $50 billion Ponzi scheme, Washington lawmakers have
been demanding answers from Wall Street’s guardians. How could they
have missed the biggest con in history? After all, one reason Congress
created the Securities and Exchange Commission in the 1930s was to
protect investors.
Patience is worth the wait
A special bamboo tree grows in China. The growth process is as
follows: The seed is planted, watered, and fertilized, but in the first year
no growth happens. The Chinese work assiduously and water and
fertilize it, but still nothing emerges out of the ground (in the second year
too). Success doesn’t come at the push of a button, and the Chinese know

10. this very well. They do not lose heart, but stay patient and go the whole
hog. Yet, the same old story repeats in the third and fourth years too.
However, all of a sudden, during the course of the fifth year, in a short
span of about six weeks, this same bamboo tree bursts onto the scene
from out of nowhere to reach a height of approximately 90 feet.
Had the Chinese quit prematurely, the bamboo tree wouldn’t have
been a possibility. It would have remained a mere mirage. Ultimately,
patience and perseverance won. They always do. Take it from me. As
Aristotle once wrote, “Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet.”
A laughable paradox
Dear God,
I pray for patience.
And I want it RIGHT NOW!
- Oren Arnold
What patience does not mean
(1) Patience does not mean waiting for a limitless time.
(2) Patience does not mean letting things happen to us.
(3) Patience does not mean stomaching hard knocks and
quagmires without doing anything.
(4) Being patient doesn’t mean remaining idle.
(5) Patience does not mean agreeing to end results that are less
than satisfying.
Patience is power
The termites of Zambia are remarkable creatures. They do not get
through their work at the rate of knots but patiently construct an

11. anthill that is twenty feet tall and fifty feet in diameter (taking
oceans of time in the process). Surely, anybody can be impressed
by the intensity of their unremitting labors.
The Greek poet Hesiod (c. 700 BC) wrote, “If you should put
even a little on a little and should do this often, soon this would
become big..”
Working on patience—A general solution
Make a list of people and/or situations that have tested your
patience. Was it your teacher who rebuked you for coming late to
class? Was it your friend who promised you to be present at 7 p.m.
sharp, but arrived 3 hours late (due to rush-hour traffic)? Was it
your father who chided you for getting B grade? Was it your sister
in the worst of her moods? Was it a last-minute change in your
flight schedule? Was it the inclement weather, like the billowy
storm clouds, which made you scrub your plans for shopping?
Write down your reaction to each of the above situations. Ask
yourself, “In this situation, how can I show more patience?” Pray
for God’s strength to help you be more patient in trying situations.
Patience
Things in life are not always right for me
There are difficulties along the way
They act as traffic policemen
Cutting off my progress
Bringing my journey to an abrupt halt.
Not bothering too much, I wait, keep my cool and understand the
situation
Knowing completely, one day, things will improve and get better
It is just biding the time and waiting patiently
That is the need of the hour.
Patience, for me, is never a problem
As the importance of it was dinged into my head

12. Right from my childhood days
Thanks a million, Mom and Dad, for imbuing
Many good qualities in me.
- Self-written poem
Life is not always a happy, fairy-tale journey. From out of the blue
you will be hit by a blizzard of difficulties. Give pep talks to yourself.
Act as a shock absorber to withstand the trying moments. Through the
quality of patience, we give ourselves the advantage of remaining
imperturbable. In addition, it helps in uplifting our mood. As Adel
Bestavros puts it, “Patience with others is Love. Patience with self is
Hope. Patience with God is Faith..”
Passing remark: Note that beautiful symphonies, works of art, and
literary masterpieces were not created in a day. Ditto, Rome wasn’t built in a
day! Now, you folks have got a clear picture of how things are doable in life
with “patience..”