Why do we want to change how we feel about ourselves? Are our feelings pleasant or unpleasant? If our feelings are unpleasant, we drink, eat or take a pill to change them.
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How Do I Feel?
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Why do we want to change how we feel about ourselves? Are our feelings pleasant or
unpleasant? If our feelings are unpleasant, we drink, eat or take a pill to change them. Or,
if we are having pleasant feelings, we want to feel even better- so we drink, eat or take a
pill. It’s not enough. I am not enough. I don’t like how I feel and I’ll do anything to feel
better even if it’s harmful to me. Deep inside, I don’t care about myself. I am not enough.
Like an unhealthy donut, I have a giant hole that I’m trying to fill. I am unaware of my
emotions and feelings. I don’t understand them.
When I was in my early twenties, I was feeling immense shame, sadness and inadequacy.
I was confused about my emotions. I began drinking and snorting cocaine to change how I
felt about myself. All those unpleasant feelings vanished when I was drunk or high. I felt
comfortable, whole, perfect and powerful. No inhibitions, no fears. I loved that feeling and
I did not want to stop feeling that way. I did not want to feel pain or the problems of my
life so I avoided discomfort by being high. But the high inevitably turned into a low.
When the high was over, I crashed… becoming depressed and filled with more unpleasant
emotions. I needed more cocaine. I overspent, under-worked… always chasing the high. I
needed to consume more and more of it and for longer periods. I needed to stay high, feel
powerful… I did so much cocaine to feel this, that I would go into respiratory arrest and
quit breathing. Then another crash… I could not stop. I risked my life many times to feel
high.
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My shame, debts, painful feelings of inadequacy and anxiety compounded… My
relationships were in jeopardy, I was feeling confused, hopeless, despair… I give up. How
did it get this far? I am searching for a bottom of a bottomless pit. Help! I call a treatment
center… I go… and in there, as I struggle to grasp what happened to me, I have a moment.
A shift in my consciousness, a moment of hope. I feel I can recover.
I can finally find myself and feel good. How can I feel that power I felt when high with no
substances or dependency?
I have been off substances for over 33 years. However, I have been dependent on money,
smoking and love- anything,not to feel those unpleasant feelings. So how do I change
those feelings… how do I become emotionally mature?
This begins with self-discovery and awareness. I had to become my authentic self. We all
lie about how we feel. When someone asks, “How are you?” Most people respond, “I am
good,” even if we aren’t. As I begin to self-examine my internal beliefs about myself, I
realize a significant point. I was raised to deny my feelings. I have stuffed them inside of
me. Highly sensitive, I cried. I was told to stop crying. When I was angry, I was told to be
happy. When I was super excited, I was told to calm down. And when I did something
wrong, I was told shame on you! Parents, teachers, everyone around me as a child was
telling me to deny my feelings, and if I did something wrong- here are some unpleasant
feelings to top off your guilt and shame.
Here are eight emotional states:
• Love – affection, care, compassion, fondness, attraction
• Joy – enthusiasm, excitement, thrill, happiness
• Surprise – Can be pleasant or unpleasant, amazement, astonishment, or irritation and
aggravation
• Anger – rage, upset, resentful, mad
• Sadness – grief, disappointment, loss
• Fear – apprehension, anxiety, nervousness, unease
• Shame – unworthy, regret, guilt, remorse
• Trust – belief, faith, honesty
There are multitudes of feelings based on these emotions. I embarked on my elementary
education of emotions. Why do I feel this way? What caused my unpleasant feelings? How
do I heal them?
Becoming self-aware… I feel unworthy because I was teased and bullied. This caused low
self-worth, sadness, anger and shame. I healed this by being aware that I am not
worthless, and I am good… I am not bad even when others say I am. I started
understanding my unpleasant feelings and why they were inside of me. One by one, I
plucked them out and replaced them with the truthful feelings.
I was pained and full of shame, so I escaped reality by creating a fantasy world in my
head. In my fantasy world, I felt worthy, happy and fulfilled. Ah, just like escaping my
unpleasant feelings with drugs and alcohol!
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By understanding my beliefs about myself, I realized my strengths, weaknesses and
talents. I came to honor my sensitivity as strength. I began to care about myself. I began
to like myself and then love myself. I realized inside of me was a power… that I could use
that power to express myself in work, relationships and life. I began to really feel good. I
wasn’t afraid to express my feelings. I became transparent and the shame began to be
replaced with self-confidence.
Today, I ask myself many times each day, “How am I feeling? What am I feeling? Why am
I feeling this way?” I don’t need to react to my feelings. For example, if I am angry, I don’t
need to snap. I can express my upset feelings appropriately and not deny it. Every day I
feel a variation of emotions. Like a song, poem or scene of a movie, I can observe my
feelings. I have come to love feelings.
I connect with my authentic self… artistic, sensitive, curious, compassionate, an explorer
of life, a capacity for love and adventure… I no longer need to escape my feelings by using
substances, people and fantasy to feel power. I have power in my life by connecting to my
emotions and realizing their beauty. I have discovered my beauty by accepting my scars
and healing my shame.
Above all else, I live in the moment. There is no need to feel the past or create an artificial
feeling of the future. The now is a beautiful moment to experience, no matter what I am
feeling.
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