SELF-
ESTEEM
Prepared by:
Leslie O. Perano
Guidance Counselor

LESSON
ONE
SELF-
ESTEEMGoal:
 Participants will create a web of
interpersonal connection
between individuals by having
them share something about
themselves that you would not
know by looking at their exterior
person.
 Participants are encourage to
share something intimate about
themselves that has an impact on
their self images and they would
like to work on.

I. The Web of Connection
Exercise
 The most important rules are non judgments,
confidentiality and respect. Everyone in the
circle is safe & no one will be judged
negatively as a result of sharing. Everything
that is shared in this exercise will not be
discussed with anyone, the individual that
shared & what is shared will not leave the
circle. Everyone will be directed to be
respectful of the individual sharing.

II. WHAT IS SELF-ESTEEM
GOAL: Define Self-Esteem and what Contributes to
and/or impacts our Self-Esteem.
To boost your self-esteem you must commit to
consistent regular practice.
 Self-esteem is based on what you think and how you
feel about yourself.
 It is formed early in life by the messages you internalize
from the significant people in your life.
 Because you believe these messages at a very young
age you often are not aware that this programming can
be changed. You think, ‘This is just the way I am.’

To boost your self-esteem requires a
commitment:
 To wake up to the beliefs and thoughts that
reinforce your experience of ‘I’m not enough’
 To focus on thoughts that support vibrant
healthy self-esteem (I’m worthy, I deserve to
be happy, I am successful, I am a mighty
expression of love in the world, I am
supported, I am confident)

BUILDING
SELF-
ESTEEM

HOW TO BUILD YOUR SELF-
ESTEEM
 In order to maintain good feeling about yourself you
must commit to a regular practice of thinking the
thoughts, saying the words, and taking the actions that
support your “ I’m enough-ness”
 When you commit to boosting your self-esteem, it is
normal to continue to experience your I’m not enough
thoughts & feelings.
 As soon as you notice that you are being judgmental &
critical about yourself – acknowledge yourself for
noticing & focus on new thought that supports your
personal empowerment.

7 TIPS TO INSTANTLY BOOST
YOUR SELF-ESTEEM
1. EXPRESS YOUR GRATITUDE
 You may think that you don’t have anything to
be grateful for, & if this is the case, don’t
despair. The more you focus your attention on
what you are grateful for the easier it
becomes to live life as a thank – you.

2. CREATE AN ACCOMPLISHMENT SYMBOL
 People with vibrant self-esteem view themselves
as people who accomplish things; just as people
with low self-esteem fail to acknowledge their
accomplishments. Choose you accomplishment
symbol and whenever you do it, give yourself a
pat on the back and declare, Good for me, I
accomplish things!
7 TIPS TO INSTANTLY BOOST
YOUR SELF-ESTEEM

3. USE A PLEASURE LIST
 A pleasure list is a list of the people, places, things,
and activities that generate an experience of pleasure
and happiness when you focus your attention on them.
 Once you have written the list, post it in strategic spots
where you can see it.
 When you are challenged by I’m not enough-ness
focus your attention on the items on your list. Once
you are connected with good feeling about yourself
then you are ready to direct your attention to
effectively moving through the challenge.
7 TIPS TO INSTANTLY BOOST
YOUR SELF-ESTEEM

4. USE YOUR FEELINGS AS YOUR GUIDE
 Since boosting your self-esteem requires an
upgrade of the software of your mind, it is
necessary to be aware of the thoughts you think.
 Thoughts generate feelings, whether or not you
are conscious of your thoughts.
 Now ask yourself if your thoughts are supporting
healthy self-esteem. If not, create a list of new
thoughts that nourish good feelings about
yourself.
7 TIPS TO INSTANTLY BOOST
YOUR SELF-ESTEEM

5. TRANSFORM NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
 Use the Oops Technique as soon as you notice
that you are engaged in self sabotaging thoughts.
As soon as you notice these I’m not enough
thoughts or judgments, say with great authority,
Oops, and then have a new thought.
7 TIPS TO INSTANTLY BOOST
YOUR SELF-ESTEEM

6. START YOUR DAY WITH INSPIRING WORDS
 Each day is a new beginning & waking up to
words of inspiration is a powerful way to feed your
heart and mind as you begin your day.
“ THERE ARE NO FAILURES – JUST
EXPERIENCES AND YOUR REACTIONS TO
THEM.”
- Tom Krause
7 TIPS TO INSTANTLY BOOST
YOUR SELF-ESTEEM

7. HONOR YOUR BODY
 With the thoughts you think, the feelings you feel,
the food you eat and the exercise you do. Taking
care of your body is a powerful reflection of your
commitment to healthy self-esteem.
7 TIPS TO INSTANTLY BOOST
YOUR SELF-ESTEEM

LESSON
TWO
SELF
MOTIVATION
Goal:
 Client will except personal
responsibility for the self image
they create for themselves.
 Clients will begin to evaluate
what factors impact their self-
esteem, defining relationships
and tools to keep them
motivated.

SELF MOTIVATION
 Self-motivation is a guiding force that is very
important in your life.
 All of us have certain goals and targets in life. You
pursue these goals and work towards achieving
the targets
 If we do not have sufficient goals in life we may be
living our life without any proper sense of direction
or aim.
 This will eventually lead us to nowhere and we
may leave this world without achieving anything
concrete in life.

WHY DO WE NEED SELF-
MOTIVATION?
There are many things that self-motivation can
do for you:
 Self-motivation encourages you to plan goals
and the strategies to achieve them.
 Self-motivation adds excitement and
enthusiasm into your life. You add zest to your
life and your activities become much more
interesting

WHY DO WE NEED SELF-
MOTIVATION?
 Self-motivation increases and supports your
willpower which cushions you when you face
obstacles or setbacks. You move along boldly
against the challenges and adversities in your
life
 Self-motivation prepares and encourages you
to accept new opportunities, try new
techniques and seek new adventures

WHY DO WE NEED SELF-
MOTIVATION?
 In the process, you will come upon unexpected
opportunities and rewards. The challenges and
your improved ability to deal with them improves
your quality of life.
 This inner strength and willpower make you tough
and build your personality
 You need self-motivation to seek your goals but
pace yourself and don’t overexert or punish
yourself.

WHAT IF YOU LACK SELF-
MOTIVATION?
Lacking self-motivation allows negativity to set in. Poor
self-motivation can lead to:
 Stress and depression, which makes you feel
confused over unsuccessful efforts.
 Trying to change your attitude but the effects are hard
to sustain so your situation doesn’t change.
 You blame others for your lack of success.
 Your feeling of abundance can be replaced by feeling
that there is a paucity of everything – funds,
resources, energy, time, and effort.

WHAT IF YOU LACK SELF-
MOTIVATION?
Self-motivation is a key ingredient to a healthy self
image. Self-motivation is the inner desire that drives
us when we decide we want to change something in
our lives. Just like in the word “self-esteem” “self”
is the root word; when we speak of self-motivation
we can not depend on no other than ourselves to
motivate us.

FAVORITE MOTIVATIONAL
QUOTE: