EBs Session to close the NSC LEAD Experience by Dey Dos.

1. Open
MINDHEARTWILL

2. enhance self-awareness
on what might be holding
you back
NO QUICK FIXES
NO BULLSH*T
NO GIVEN SOLUTIONS

3. “ Implementing change
continues to challenge our
leadership capacity.
WHAT WILL IT MEAN TO LEARN HOW
TO BE LEADERS OF ECOSYSTEMS
INSTEAD OF EGOSYSTEMS?

4. Our capacity to move from where
we are to where we want to be is
what counts!
Open
MINDHEARTWILL

5. A major change are
taking place in
AIESEC right now!

6. WE ARE PRESENTED WITH
HUGE CHALLENGES
Change have been decided from outside of our circle of influence.
Its immediate purpose seems to be the attainment of
AIESEC 2015; its longer range purpose seems unclear.
Rationale for the change seem partially subjective.
Training and concise information is limited.
Timelines are extremely challenging.
The expected results seem to depend on pure faith.
No one is fully comfortable with the process.

7. Wisdom
TO SEE THE DIFFERENCES

8. Wisdom is rare and cherished
because it comes from a place not
normally accessed by most
people in day-to-day living.
WHAT STOPS THE AVERAGE PERSON FROM
BEING A TRULY WISE AND INSIGHTFUL
PERSON?
WHAT IS IT ABOUT WISDOM THAT MAKES IT SO
HARD TO COME BY?

9. To access true wisdom, insight, and
guidance one must navigate past
three voices on the journey that are
the path way to deep listening.
DEEPLISTENING

10. “That’s a stupid idea.”
“Who do you/they think you/they are?”
“Play it safe.”
“Keep things the way you know them.”
Most of us are very familiar with this voice .
VOICEOFJUDGMENT
DEEPLISTENING

11. Whenever I become judgmental it is a sign
that something within me is amiss,
something I need to hear, reconnect with
and accept.
As we judge one another, we will live into and
function from the worst in each other, not the best.
VOICEOFJUDGMENT
DEEPLISTENING

12. When I can moderate the voice of judgment, I can
begin to believe in the group/process and expect
the best from both them/it and myself.
Mutual trust and communication give both the
group/process and me a way to enter into that space
of wisdom and deep listening.
VOICEOFJUDGMENT
DEEPLISTENING

13. OPENMIND
THE CAPACITY TO SUSPEND
HABITUAL JUDGMENT
VOICEOFJUDGMENT
DEEPLISTENING

14. What are some automatic
judgments I am making
concerning the changes we are
currently living in AIESEC?
SHARE WITH A PARTNER WHATEVER
COMES TO YOUR MIND
KEEP ASKING EACH OTHER THAT
QUESTION UNTIL THE ANSWERS STOP
COMING

15. “Oh no, we already tried that before and we got hurt,
remember? We ain’t going there again.”
“You can’t trust anyone.”
“It’s better to hurt others before they hurt you.”
“It’s a dog-eat-dog world out there.”
This voice keeps you separate, alone, and bitter.
DEEPLISTENING
VOICEOFJUDGMENT
VOICEOFCYNICISM

16. This is the voice that keeps you “safely”
separate from others and the world, putting
everything and everyone at “safe
distance.”
This voice is afraid to be vulnerable and sees
vulnerability as a direct threat to survival.
VOICEOFJUDGMENT
DEEPLISTENING
VOICEOFCYNICISM

17. For often understandable reasons, AIESEC
leaders feel the need to distance themselves
emotionally as way of self-protection.
But in doing so, they cause great damage to
themselves and to the organization.
VOICEOFJUDGMENT
DEEPLISTENING
VOICEOFCYNICISM

18. OPENHEART
THE CAPACITY TO REDIRECT MY
PERSPECTIVE FROM MY VIEWPOINT
TO SOMEONE ELSE'S
VOICEOFJUDGMENT
DEEPLISTENING
VOICEOFCYNICISM

19. In what ways am I being cynical
keeping challenges & challengers
at arms distance, staying “safe,”
separate and alone?
SHARE WITH A PARTNER WHATEVER
COMES TO YOUR MIND
KEEP ASKING EACH OTHER THAT
QUESTION UNTIL THE ANSWERS STOP
COMING

20. “I’ll be inadequate and will not find a way
DEEPLISTENING
to step up.”
“I’ll be rejected and ridiculed.”
“I’ll be all alone.”
All of your deepest fears can become activated.
VOICEOFJUDGMENT
VOICEOFCYNICISM
VOICEOFFEAR

21. This voice strives to maintain the
status quo and holds onto what you
already have and know.
This is the ultimate voice at the gate that goes right
to your core animalistic instincts for survival.
VOICEOFJUDGMENT
DEEPLISTENING
VOICEOFCYNICISM
VOICEOFFEAR

22. FEAR SPEAKS IN MANY VOICES
Fear of losing, fear of being ostracized, fear
of ridicule, fear of looking bad to others or to
our leaders, and especially, fear of failure
and being inadequate.
VOICEOFJUDGMENT
DEEPLISTENING
VOICEOFCYNICISM
VOICEOFFEAR

23. Fear is so fundamental to the human
condition that all the great spiritual
traditions originate in an effort to
overcome its effects on our lives.
With different words, they all proclaim
the same core message: ‘Be not
afraid.’. . .
Be not afraid does not say that we should
not have fears . . .(but) that we do not
need to be our fears.
PARKERPALMER
“

24. OPENWILL
THE CAPACITY TO LET GO
AND LET COME
VOICEOFJUDGMENT
DEEPLISTENING
VOICEOFCYNICISM
VOICEOFFEAR

25. What personal key fears are
stopping me from fully
embracing this change process
while being who I truly am &
doing what I came here to do?
SHARE WITH A PARTNER WHATEVER
COMES TO YOUR MIND
KEEP ASKING EACH OTHER THAT
QUESTION UNTIL THE ANSWERS STOP
COMING

26. I bet you can recognize each of these three
voices in you.
I’m sure you’ve done battle with each of
them at some point in your life.
DID YOU WIN?
OR DID THEY WIN?
VOICEOFJUDGMENT
DEEPLISTENING
VOICEOFCYNICISM
VOICEOFFEAR

27. Whether you win or lose is
not so much the point.
BUT DID YOU ENGAGE
WHOLEHEARTEDLY AND HONORABLY?
VOICEOFJUDGMENT
DEEPLISTENING
VOICEOFCYNICISM
VOICEOFFEAR

28. These “battles” are
only with ourselves.
awareness Ÿ courage Ÿ compassion
VOICEOFJUDGMENT
DEEPLISTENING
VOICEOFCYNICISM
VOICEOFFEAR

29. Wisdom
DISTINGUISHING WHEN TO ENGAGE AND
WHEN TO LET GO IS PART OF THE WISDOM
YOU CAN DEVELOP OVER TIME

30. 1. Be aware that these voices will always be on your
path. That’s half the battle itself!
2. Have the courage to face them and engage them.
Don’t back down; how you engage is more
important than winning.
3. Have compassion for not only yourself, but have
compassion for these aspects of yourself; have
compassion for these voices.
4. These voices are far more afraid than your
conscious Self is – step up and show them the way
out of their suffering and smallness.
QUICKSUMMARY

31. …perhaps all dragons of our lives
are princesses who are only waiting
to see us once beautiful and
brave.
Perhaps everything terrible is in its
deepest being something
helpless that wants help from us.
Rainer M. Rilke
“

32. Q4 HAS BEEN ALWAYS THE
SAME IN THE LAST 4 YEARS
This is the moment in which I am
better prepared to give my best.
What do I need to
give to it my all?
FINISHINGSTRONG

33. AM I GOING
TO BE MY
FEAR?