3. 1. WORDS OF AFFIRMATION - can be verbal compliments- words of encouragement
4. Examples…. I like for you to tell me I am attractive/handsome I like it when you compliment my achievements I feel loved when you tell me how much you appreciate me.
5. 2.QUALITY TIME -is more than proximity, it about focusing all your energy on your mate. - Quality conversation involves sharing experiences, thoughts , feelings and desires in a friendly uninterrupted context.
6. Examples: I like to sit close to you.. I like taking long walks with you. I like to spend one on one time with you.
7. 3. RECEIVING GIFTS Some mates respond well to visual symbols of love These gifts need not to come every day or every week. They don’t need to cost a lot of money. If your mate relates to the language of receiving gifts any visible sign of your love will leave them feeling happy and secure in your relationship.
8. EXAMPLES I like it when you give me gifts Visible symbols of love(gifts) are very important to me. I feel loved when you celebrate my birthday with a gift. I know you are thinking of me when you give me a gift.
9. 4. ACTS OF SERVICE Household chores in the house can be an undeniable expression of love. It is important to identify what specific acts of service that your spouse really appreciates. It is important to do this acts of service out of love and not obligation.
10. EXAMPLES I feel loved when you help me with my jobs and around the house I feel loved when you enthusiastically do some task I have requested.
11. 5. PHYSICAL TOUCH Many mates feel the most loved when they receive physical contact from their partner. A mate who speaks this love language loudly, physical touch can make or break the relationship. They can be big acts such as back massages or lovemaking or little acts such as touches on the cheek or a hand on the shoulder.
12. EXAMPLES: Kissing me unexpectedly excites me I feel secure when you are touching me. I feel whole when we hug.