Evil feels good. That is why it is so hard for us to know that our actions may have evil consequences. Consequences show whether actions are evil or not. Intentions mean nothing when another person is greatly harmed.
This article uses a case study of a young man who committed suicide after his college roommate posted a video of him being intimate with another man. The man who videotaped was just having fun. He did not think about how the videotaped young man would feel. He only thought about the fun he was having. The lesson learned is to think before you act, no matter how much fun you think you are going to have, or how good doing something will make you feel.
6. Do not repeat your harmful actions, no matter how good you think these actions will make you feel. Statements of accountability and apology mean nothing if you turn right around and hurt others once again.If we do this, we may earn our way back into the good graces of people who have lost respect for us because of our harmful actions. If people respect you because you committed harmful acts, then you may have to re-think whether you want that kind of respect. What kind of person are you?<br />If it Feels Good, Think <br />The lesson to be learned is, that if it feels good, think ahead before you act. Ask, will this hurt anyone? What is the worst case scenario? What is the best case scenario? For the persons I may hurt? For myself? For my family? For my friends? For the other person’s family? For the other person’s friends?<br />The family of the man who committed suicide said, he “was a fine young man and a distinguished musician. The family is heartbroken beyond words.”<br />References<br />Foderaro, Lisa W. (2010). Private moments made public; Then a fatal jump. New York Times, September 30, A1, A4. <br />Foderaro, Lisa W. & Winnie Hu (2010). Student’s online musings point to state of mind before a suicide. New York Times, October 1, A18, A19.<br />Gilgun, Jane F. (2010). Fake accountability & true: Telling the difference. http://www.scribd.com/doc/38241791/Fake-Accountability-True-Telling-the-Difference/<br />Gilgun, Jane F. (2010). On being a shit: Unkind deeds and cover-ups in everyday life. http://www.amazon.com/dp/B0015XV33Y<br />Gilgun, Jane F. (2010). Why they do it: Beliefs & emotional gratification lead to violent acts. http://www.scribd.com/doc/30778872/Why-They-Do-It-Beliefs-Emotional-Gratification-Lead-to-Violent-Acts<br />About This Publication<br />Roots of Violence, Seeds of Change is an occasional publication for persons interested in violence prevention. In order to prevent violence, we have to understand it. Jane F. Gilgun, Ph.D., LICSW, is the editor and publisher. To submit articles to this publication, Professor Gilgun cordially invites researchers to email brief articles of three to five pages to her at jgilgun@umn.edu. <br />About the Author<br />Jane F. Gilgun, Ph.D., LICSW, is a professor, School of Social Work, University of Minnesota, Twin Cities, USA. See Professor Gilgun’s other articles, books, & children’s stories on scribd.com, Kindle, and iBooks for a variety of mobile devices. She has done research on the meanings of violence to perpetrators for many years and on many other aspects of violence.<br />