6. Self-Concept
strictly defined, is the totality of our beliefs,
preferences, opinions and attitudes organized
in a systematic manner, towards our personal
existence.
Simply put, it is how we think of ourselves
and how we should think, behave and act
out our various life roles.
7. The actual self and the ideal self are two
broad categories of self concept.
Self Concept refers to awareness of
yourself.
It is the construct that negotiates the two
selves.
In other words, it connotes first the
identification of the ideal self as separate
from others, and second, it encompasses all
the behaviors evaluated in the actual self
that you engage in to reach the ideal self
8. The actual self is built on self-knowledge .
Self-knowledge derived from social interaction that
provide insight into how other’s react to you.
Actual self can be seen by others as this is how we
think, how we feel, look, act but because we have
no way of truly knowing how others view us ,
the actual self is our self –image
9. Ideal-self is how we want to be, it is an idealize image
that we have developed over time, based on what we
have learned and experienced.
There is negotiation exist between the two selves which is
complex because there are numerous exchanges between
the ideal and actual self.
These exchanges are exemplified in social roles
that are adjusted and re-adjusted
and are derived of social interaction from infant to adult
development.
10. Personal effectiveness means
making use of all the personal
resources- talent, skills, energy
and time to enable you to
achieve life goals;
Manage yourself
Self awareness
Learning new skills, tallents
and behavioral flexibility
Acquire more experience
knowledge and skills from
Cognitive and practical activities
11. 1. Determination
It allows you to focus on achieving a
specific goal without being distracted
by less important thing or spontaneuos
desires.
It may be developed with the help
of self discipline exercise
Skills to increase efficiency
of any persons who owns them
12. 2. Self Confidence
Believe in yourself
Learn to identify yourself
Look for your capabilities
Skills to increase efficiency
of any persons who owns them
13. It makes you keep moving forward
regardless of emerging obstacles:
Problems
Laziness
Bad emotional state
Skills to increase efficiency
of any persons who owns them
3.
14. 5 Habits of Managing
Stress Effectively
Know how to relax
Eat right and exercise
often regularly
Get enough sleep
Manage time effectively
Have a good sense of
humor
Skills to increase efficiency
of any persons who owns them
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15. 5.Problem Solving Skills
Making Judgement
Analytical skill
Decision making
Collecting information
Planning
Skills to increase efficiency
of any persons who owns them
16. Generating Ideas
It helps you achieve goals using
new, original, unconventional ideas
Identify
Innovate
Implement
17. 6. Build On Your Strengths and
Work On Your Weaknesses
Skills to increase efficiency
of any persons who owns them
18. YOU NEED TO TAKE
CHARGE OF YOUR FUTURE
3 Kinds of People in this World
Moviegoer
Actor
Scriptwriter
19. 1. The Moviegoer- this person watches the
movie
of their lives, admire some parts and criticize
others.
Aside from that , they do nothing else . All she
Says the whole day is “ I like this thing and but I
don’t like that thing,” The moviegoer feels she
has
absolutely no control of their lives---except to
comment about it .
They are the most pathetic , miserable people
in the world.
20. 2. The Actor- this person does not only
watch the movie of her life. She actually
realizes she’s the actor and can control
the big part of her life.
She can actually make or break the
movie- by how she deliver her lines and
how she portrays her
character.
21. The Actor - They are happy bunch,
realizing they’re start of the show
and enjoy some level of control.
But many times, they wish the
movie would end in another way-
but realize that they have no say
in such thing
22. 3. The Scriptwriter – This person does not
only watch, and she doesn’t only act, but
she actually creates the entire movie
from her mind. She determines what she
will say, what she will do and how the
movie will end. She realizes she has
enormous control over her life, and sees
to it that the movie of her life will turn
out beautiful.
24. The purpose of journal writing is to help you
become the scriptwriter of your life.
Four practical reasons to maintain a journal.
1. It is cost-efficient and available- Emotional
stress can be dealt in many ways like taking
to a friend over a cup of coffee, eating,
travelling, shopping, painting etc. but writing
Is the most inexpensive.
Notebook and pens are easy to find, available
and do not cost so much
25. 2.It is preventive and pro-active- Writing
yields self-awareness. When you write you
can discover your strengths and limitations.
You will know what your reactions are in
different situations and what better ways
to prevent , avoid, or face your fears.
26. 3. It is creative and productive
Journal writing expounds your
imagination. You can see various
dimensions of your problem,
different points of view and better
solutions.
27. 4.Lastly, it is personal and private. Unless
you want to share your stories, you have
the choice to keep them to yourself.
Writing is your time alone. It is your way
Of loving yourself. You will not be judged
by writing.
29. ASPECTS OF THE SELF
The self concept is represented by several aspects
of the self. It is conceived as collection of multiple,
context-dependent selves. This construct believes
that context activates particular region of
self-knowledge and self-relevant feedbacks
effects self-evaluations and affect.
A deeper look on the different aspect of
self can identify specific areas for self-regulation,
stability and improvement.
30. In a nutshell, an individual is composed of three
basic but very different aspects of the self.
They are the physical or tangible aspects as
they relate to the body.
The intellectual and conscious aspects as
they relate to the mind.
The emotional intuitive aspects as they
relate to the spirit.
31. Physical or tangible aspect of the self
Body is tangible and we respond to it easily
More time and money in enhancing the
physical component
Body provides a place to house the spirit
(often experience as feeling) and the
Mind (often experience as thought).
32. all three aspects of
the self work
together in
perfect harmony
when attention is
paid to
all three
simultaneously.
33. It may be important to some that their mind
be prominent and well-educated. The mind is
important, as it is the part that directs the other
two aspects. The mind learns what to do and
communicates the information to the body and
the feelings.
34.
35. What minds believes , the body manifests or
acts on, and the emotions feel or respond with.
People store both healthy and destructive
thoughts and beliefs and respond to life’s
circumstances in the most prominent manner.
Mind provides access creativity and serenity
necessary for prayer, forgiveness, acceptance
and passion.
36. The human emotions are the most feared aspect
of the self, as individuals are reluctant and
unprepared to manage them. Managing feelings
is like trying to hold water in the palm of your
hand. They are illusive and deceptive. A decision
made under emotional stress and strain are
usually impacts emotions negatively negative
emotions that are not managed are stored and
repressed.
37. THREE SUCCESS STORIES
Sen. Manny Pacquaio
Pia Wurtzbach
A Love Affair That Got Me Closer To a Great Doctor
38. A real winner is one who is able to
Win over battles and difficulties and turns
them to learning and glorifying experiences;
Find meaning in pleasant and unpleasant
event in his life;
Live in peace with difficult people and
difficult situations;
Win the goodwill of others, their respect
and admiration;
39. A real winner is one who is able to
Get what he wants using win-win strategies,
never at the expense of others;
Discover and use opportunities to his best
advantage;
Develop and use his talent and abilities
to the best advantage and
In so doing , make meaningful contribution
in making this world a better place
40. The Story of the Two Wolves
Good judgement
Ability to control/manage our mind
43. Human Development focuses on human
growth and changes across the lifespan,
including physical, cognitive, social
intellectual, perceptual, personality and
emotional growth the study of human
development stages is essential to
understanding how human learns, mature
and adapt. Throughout their lives ,
human go through various stages of
development.
44. adolescence is a time of great change
for young people when physical
changes are happening at an
accelerated rate. ... Specific
characteristics of normal adolescent
behavior within each area are
described below.
Early Adolescence (Approximately 12-
14 years of age)
45. Movement Toward Independence
•Struggle with sense of identity;
•Moodiness;
•Improved abilities to use speech to express oneself;
•More likely to express feelings by action than by
words;
•Close friendships gain importance;
•Less attention shown to parents, with occasional
rudeness;
•Realization that parents are not perfect; identification
of their faults;
•Search for new people to love in addition to parents;
•Tendency to return to childish behavior;
•Peer group influences interests and clothing styles.
46. Future interests and
Cognitive Development
•Increasing career interests;
•Mostly interested in
present and near future;
•Greater ability to work
47. Sexuality
•Girls ahead of boys;
•Shyness, blushing, and modesty;
•More showing off; Greater
interest in privacy;
•Experimentation with body
(masturbation);
•Worries about being normal
48. Ethics and Self-Direction
•Rule and limit testing;
•Occasional experimentation with
cigarettes, marijuana, and alcohol;
•Capacity for abstract thought
49. Physical Changes
•Gains in height and weight;
•Growth of pubic and underarm hair;
•Body sweats more;
•Hair and skin become more oily;
•Breast development and menstruation
in girls;
•Growth of testicles and penis,
•Nocturnal emissions (wet dreams),
•Deepening of voice,
•Growth of hair on face in boys
50. Middle Adolescence(approximately 15-16years)
Movement Toward Independence
•Self-involvement, alternating between unrealistically
high expectations and poor self-concept;
•Complaints that parents interfere with
independence;
•Extremely concerned with appearance and with
one's own body;
•Feelings of strangeness about one's self and body;
•Lowered opinion of parents, withdrawal from them;
•Effort to make new friends;
•Strong emphasis on the new peer group;
51. Future Interests and Cognitive
Development
•Intellectual interests gain importance;
•Some sexual and aggressive energies directed
into creative and career interests
52. Sexuality
•Concerns about sexual attractiveness;
•Frequently changing relationships;
•Movement towards heterosexuality
with fears of homosexuality;
•Tenderness and fears shown toward
opposite sex;
•Feelings of love and passion
53. Ethics and Self-Direction
•Development of ideals and
selection of role models;
•More consistent evidence of
conscience;
•Greater capacity for setting goals;
•Interest in moral reasoning
55. Physical Changes
•Continued height and weight gains;
•Growth of pubic and underarm hair;
•Body sweats more;
•Hair and skin become more oily;
•Breast development and
menstruation in girls;
•Growth of testicles and penis,
•Nocturnal emissions (wet dreams),
•Deepening of voice,
•Growth of hair on face in boys
56. The human being is either in state of
growth or decline , but either condition
impart change. Some aspects of our life
change very little over time are consistent.
Other
aspect change dramatically , by
understanding these changes, we can
better respond and plan ahead effectively.
57.
58. Most girls have completed the physical change
related to puberty by age 15.
Boys are still maturing and gaining strength, muscle
mass, and height, and are completing the
development of sexual rights
Module 4: The Challenges of Middle and
Late Adolescence
The Passage to Adulthood: Challenges of Late
Adolescence
59. May stress over school and test scores.
Is self-involved(may have high expectations
and low self concept).
Seeks privacy and time alone
Is concerned about physical and sexual
attractiveness
60. May complain that parents prevent him
or her
From doing things independently.
Starts to want both physical and
emotional intimacy
The experience of intimate partnerships.
61. Shifts in relationship with parents
from dependency and subordination to one that
reflects the adolescent’s increasing maturity
and responsibilities in the family and the community.
Is more and more aware of social behaviors
of friends.
Seek friends that share the same beliefs, values
And interests
Friends become more important and sexual
Behavior with others
May be influence by peers to the risky behavior
(alcohol, tobacco, sex)
SOCIAL DEVELOPMENT
62. MENTAL DEVELOPMENT
Becomes better able to set
goals and think in terms of the
future.
Has a better understanding of
complex problems and issues.
Starts to develop more ideals
and to select role models.
64. Encouragement
is the key ingredient for improving your
relationships with others.
It is the single most important skill necessary
for getting along with others– so important
that the lack of it could be considered the
primary caused of conflict and misbehavior.
It develops a person’s psychological
hardiness and social interest.
It is the lifeblood of a relationship.
It is very hard to put into practice
65.
66. Encouragement is not a new idea. Its’s
spiritual
connotation dates back to the bible in
Hebrews 3:11 “Encourage one another daily”.
Encouragement as a psychological idea, was
developed by psychiatrist Alfred Adler in the
early
20th century and continue to evolve through
the
Work of Adler’s follower Rudolph Dreikurs.
67. Encouragement.
However even today relatively few educators,
psychologist, parents, leaders have utilized this
valuable concept . Most of the time ,
people mistakenly use a technique
Like praise in an effort to “encourage” others.
68. Do not point out mistakes instead use
words of encouragement to motivate and
keep other people going.
Avoid to criticize, nag, punish ,threaten,
interrogate, and emotionally withdraw
Instead nor do not isolate and label them
for the mistakes people have done.
We are here to encourage others not
to discourage them to control them as we
cannot control behavior.
69. we discourage in five general ways
1. We set high standard for we are overly
ambitious.
2.We focus on mistakes as a way to motivate
change or improved behavior.
3.We make constant comparison (self to others,
siblings to one another).
4. We automatically give a negative spin to
the action of others.
5. We dominate others by being overly helpful,
implying that they are unable to do it as well
70.
71. ENCOURAGEMENT CAN PUSH
SOMEONE CLOSER TO THEIR DREAM,
BUT DISCOURAGEMENT CAN PULL
THEM FURHTER BACK,
BE CAREFUL WHAT YO SAY TO OTHER
72. I am totally free of all
addictions,
That I will survive any
attempts,
of other’s to control my life,
That I am free in mind, body
and emotions,
That I am free to set goals
and reach them,
That I am loving individual
with the capacity to give love.
73. That I am a child of God with
all rights and privileges
thereof that will contribute to
the welfare of others,
That I will be an ambassador
of goodwill to all I meet on
the journey,
That I will be good example to
follow.
That I will help all that I can to
reach their goals.
74. That I will speak words of
encouragement to others.
That I will find the goodness in
life and focus on it,
That I will not succumb to the
negative influence of others.
That I will read the information
that will encourage my
personal, and spiritual growth
That I will commit to being the
best I can be.
75. These declarations are meant to encourage you
to take control of the influences in your life .
They are suggestions as to what positive things
you can speak about your own life instead of
accepting whatever has been said to you in the
past.
Do not get discourage when you don’t reach
your goals overnight. Just remember
that even small stream of water will crack
concrete eventually.
THE POWER OF DECLARATION