The talk based on this ppt can be heard here:
https://www.thespiritualscientist.com/2019/09/3-metaphors-for-effective-parenting/
The speaker, Chaitanya Charan, is a monk, mentor and spiritual author. He has written 20 books and writes the world's only daily blog on the timeless spiritual class, Bhagavad-gita, at gitadaily.com
2. Overview
1. Drona’s Academy - Common and Customised
2. 3 Metaphors: PGD - Pottery Gardening Driving
3. PGD - Parent Guide Detachedly
4. What detachment means & what it doesn’t
3. Drona’s Academy - Common & Customised
Each Pandava excelled in different skills;
1. Yudhishthir - Dharmaraj Most virtuous
2. Bhima - Physical strength & Prowess
3. Arjuna - Master Archer
4. Nakula - Attractive, Humble & Diplomatic
5. Sahadev - Wisest of all
9. Everyone to be feel understand before they understand
Understanding is to the human heart what
oxygen is to the biological heart.
10. Understand children’s identity confusion
Not small enough to be satisfied by identifying as their
parent’s children but
Not old enough to have an identity of their own
Under tremendous peer pressure in their search for
identity
11. Be patient
“When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could
hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to 21
I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in
seven years.”
- Mark Twain
12. Reinforce desirable behaviour,
not undesirable behaviour
If children speak, “Something interesting happened today,”
● Hear them, putting your phone down &
● Hear them out before judging.
13. Make judgements
but don’t be judgemental
1. Prescriptive - You do this
2. Normative - This is the right thing to do
3. Descriptive - This is what I do & this is why
14. Follow Krishna’s Example
vimṛśyaitad aśeṣeṇa yathecchasi tathā kuru 18.63
● God doesn’t walks for us but he walks with us.
● We can’t walk for our children, but we can walk with
them.
15. 2 Modes of devotional surrender:
1. Diligence for Krishna - Arjuna
Pre-teen children - The love that guards
1. Dependence on Krishna - Draupadi
Teen & Post-teen children - The love that guides