Men don't care for one another well. In this presentation we look at the crisis of spiritual and emotional care, the challenge to men's leaders and eleven components of how to carry one another's burdens.

1. Dare to Care.
A Man’s Guide to
Helping Hurting Men

2. Dare to Care.
The Crisis

3. “How to Emasculate a Man”
1.Belittle what he does
2.Make his salary an issue
3.Ask him for help and then do it your way
4.Yell and fight in Public
5.Micromanage his every move
6.Ask another guy to do it better
7.Act like he has no feelings
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These things happen to men
EVERY SINGLE DAY!

4. Seven Huge Sources of pain Lust.
men are facing in 2013 And the desensitization
towards porn.
Divorce.
Father The rising tide of feminism has
Wounds. caused many women to simply
toss in the towel on their
From physical, emotional
marriage, leaving men
and spiritual absent
bewildered and wondering
father’s that clouds their
what happened.
understanding of God the
Father. Sandwich
Health Challenges Generation.
Caring for elderly parents while
Physical needs and inability to function
putting kids through college.
as used to be able to or want to.
Finances.
Being un or underemployed and
Wayward Children. the feeling of inadequacy.
And the guilt and failure associated with
this. --Brett Clemmer, VP M.I.M.

5. Where Men Are & How they Hurt.
Trait Associated Pain
They are tired _____________________
Something isn’t right _____________________
Plan’s aren’t working _____________________
They feel “unglued” _____________________
They feel nobody cares _____________________
Committed to values,
not Christ _____________________
Disappointment w/ God _____________________
Patrick Morley, Pastoring Men

6. Discussion Question:
In small groups,
prioritize the top 5
pains that men face.

7. Dare to Care.
The Challenge

8. “Carry one another’s
burden’s,
in this way you fulfill the
law of Christ”
Galatians 6:2

9. 1) We already carry too much.
-We must manage ourselves better
2) We don’t know one another.
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-We must know people better
3) We don’t understand the
law of Christ.
We must love more intentionally

10. Discussion Questions:
Which one of
these challenges
is hardest for you?
What’s one thing you
need to do in relation
to these three observations?

11. Dare to Care.
Twelve Practical
Components
of Care
Jesus cares for a
man named Lazarus.
John 11:1-44

12. Understand that God always has
a purpose in pain.
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“This sickness will not end in death. No, it is for
God’s glory so that God’s Son may be glorified
through it.” – Vs 4

13. Care, at the cost of being
vulnerable.
“But Rabbi,” they said, “a short while ago the
Jews there tried to stone you, and yet you are
going back?” – vs 8

14. Define reality. Don’t over use
confusing euphemisms!
So then he told them plainly, “Lazarus is dead” –
Vs 11 & 15

15. Care Together!
“Let us go, that we may die with him”. Vs 16

16. To difficult questions, affirm
Jesus’ statements.
Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the
life. The one who believes in me will live, even
though they die; and whoever lives by
believing in me will never die. Do you believe
this?” – Vs 25-26

17. Enter in to Men’s pain. Let this
motivate you.
“…he was deeply moved in spirit and
troubled. “Where have you laid him?” he asked.
Vs 33-34

18. Get mad at the root of sin, not
the consequence of death.
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“Jesus wept” – Vs 35

19. Realize that carrying one
another burdens can really stink
at times.
“But, Lord,” said Martha, the sister of the dead
man, “by this time there is a bad odor, for he has
been there four days.” – Vs 39

20. Always seek and keep before
you the redemptive glory of
God.
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Then Jesus said, “Did I not tell you that if you
believe, you will see the glory of God? – Vs 40

21. Pray often so that God and men
hear.
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“I knew that you always hear me, but I said this
for the benefit of the people standing here, that
they may believe that you sent me.” – Vs 42

22. Help people move forward.
Jesus said to them, “Take off the grave clothes
and let him go.” – Vs 44

23. Discussion Questions:
Which component are
you strongest and weakest
at?
Think of a man in your
ministry. Which principle
do you need to apply in your care?

24. Dare to Care.
Questions and Answers

25. Dare to Care.
Helpful Resources

26. Pastoring Men – Patrick Morley
Man Alive – Patrick Morley
The Blessing – Smalley & Trent
The Divine Mentor – Wayne Cordeiro
Over the Edge – Jared Feria
Waking the Dead – John Eldridge
When Men think Private Thoughts – MacDonald
Restoring your Broken World – MacDonald.
When Good men are tempted - Perkins

27. Dare to Care.
A Man’s Guide to
Helping Hurting Men.