This document provides advice on self-promotion for women in the workplace. It acknowledges that women face unfair criticism simply for promoting themselves, such as being called bossy or rude. It recommends developing a career plan, keeping track of achievements, expressing interest in leadership roles, and affirmatively promoting oneself and other women to overcome these double standards. The document advocates observing workplace culture and giving credit to others to build rapport. It also advises handling unfair treatment by focusing on goals and finding allies rather than dwelling on anger.

2. Self Promote?

3. Inner and Outer Work

4. Attila the Hen
Only Man in the Cabinet
The old witch
The Iron Frau

5. Believe in Yourself
What
you
really
believe
What you’d
like to
believe

6. Not well liked
Too
Political
Can’t be
trusted
Difficult
Too
aggressive Not a team
player
Mean
Bossy
Entitled Unprofessional
Rude
No Lady
Butch
CriticalLoud
Too
ambitious
Conceited

7. A man has to be Dick Cheney in order to be called ruthless.
All a woman needs to do is put you on hold. Marlo Thomas

8. Like trying to cross a minefield backward in
high heels. Sheryl Sandberg

9. They’ll notice what I’m doing and reward me

10. If they don’t reward me, I don’t deserve it

11. It’s selfish to ask for myself

12. I’ll offend someone and be punished

13. I’d rather be happy than rich

14. I’m good at what I
do dance

15. Outer Work

16. Sheryl, your desire to be liked
by everyone will hold you back.
When you want to change
things, you can’t please
everyone. If you do please
everyone, you aren’t making
enough progress.

17. • Have a career plan.
• Keep a list of achievements –
3 to 5 at hand
• Express interest early in
leadership
• Set up lunches, meetings
with firm leaders
• Take leadership roles outside
firm
• Tell superiors about
leadership capabilities and
achievements.
• Ask to be included in client
pitches.
• Affirmatively court
clients, particularly women in
leadership positions.
• Write, speak and appear at
client events.
• Promote other women

18. Observe and Co-Create the Culture

19. I’d like to build
on what Sara
said
Amy gave
a great
oral
argument
I couldn’t
have done it
without April

20. The trial team achieved a great victory:
Gerald prepared all the witnesses
Monica wrote the jury instructions
Chelsea researched the law
I broke their key witness on cross

21. Help Me Help You!

23. • I won a Henry Ford
Scholar award for having
the highest first-year
academic record
• 6 men let it be known
they’d won them too
• I didn’t tell anyone and
swore them to secrecy
• They became most-
quoted speakers
• Nice or competent

24. • Frightened
• Taken off the waiting
list
• Smart enough to
pick smart study
partners
• They were wait
listed too
• We all graduated in
the top 10% of the
class

25. Is this person in between me and what I want to do?" If no[t],
ignore it and move on. If your boss is a jerk, try to find someone
above or around your boss who is not a jerk..

26. Feel anger or sadness and
move on

27. No One is Better at Being
You Than You Are

29. You’ll never end the wage gap
until you raise the status of
your clerical workers