The Upside of Uncertainty in a Relationship

1. rethink PERFECT The Upside of Uncertaintyin a Relationship RethinkPerfect.com

2. rethink PERFECT The Upside of Uncertainty in a Relationship Let’s Agree to Agree Storage Bank & Ratchet Rethink Agreements are a storage bank of learned experiences, that we can ratchet from and return to. Definitions are Agreements“Agreement” What you and I consider acceptable to us, for now.“Disagreement” What you or I consider unacceptable to us,for now. “From now on can we try to ……” This is a process for starting or renewing Rethink Agreements using thepast experiences to aim for a better way. RethinkPerfect.com

3. rethink PERFECT The Upside of Uncertainty in a Relationship Contribution is Worth Considering Worth ConsideringAll shared concepts and feedback are worth considering, only because wecan’t create in a vacuum. Regardless of the qualityOnce the ball is rolling thequality can be improved. “Thanks for letting me know...”Now it is time to work on the detailof using conversation to convertour own concepts.... RethinkPerfect.com

4. rethink PERFECT The Upside of Uncertainty in a Relationship Converting Agreements Conversingis for converting concepts Convert my own concepts, through your feedback, intoagreements and possible solutions. Contribution can be split into content & delivery“You’re wrong!” is hardly converting my own concept. A good start but needs better delivery. 6A’s Rules of Engagement help filter contributionSPEAK with & Listen for: - Adjustable, Accountable, Acceptable RESPOND with & Listen for - Appreciate, Acknowledge, Apologise RethinkPerfect.com

5. rethink PERFECT The Upside of Uncertainty in a Relationship 6As Conversation Filters or Framework in Detail Speak with and Listen for: Listening to a concept or feedback try listen for language that is Adjustable, Accountable an ultimately Acceptable to you.“I think your idea may not work because of this reason.......””That’s not the way it works! You should do it this way as...” Respond with and Listen for: Appreciation: “Thanks for letting me know however...” Apology: “I am sorry that I did not let you know this before but..”Acknowledge: “I think we need to agree on how I would like you to treat me.” RethinkPerfect.com

6. rethink PERFECT 6As Conversation Filters or Framework RethinkPerfect.com

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10. rethink Conversation Dynamics PERFECT RethinkPerfect.com

11. rethink PERFECT The Upside of Uncertainty in a Relationship Prepare for Failure Our desire to be always rightAnd thinking that we are forms the path of least resistance and has implications. When dogma strikes aggression is not far away.If you lose it, then we’ve lost it. Complain ResponsiblyLetting someone know directly how I would like to be treated is cool. DFM Direct Feedback MomentWhen we want a break use the DFM. The agreed reply is “Your feedback is worth considering” RethinkPerfect.com