1. Long Distance Relationships Advice For Women
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Lizzie asks…
Advice on long distance relationships? Will it work?
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over 6 months now…
However, we met on the internet, and we live really far away.
First let me explain;
This guy lives in turkey and I know that most guys you meet on the internet you can’t trust , but
this guy is so different. I feel like it’s destiny that we found eachother-hes everything I want in a
guy. We met on a language website: I was trying to learn more turkish, he more english.
He’s : funny, soo cute, we share similar interests (such as traveling, we like the same food, the
same sports), hes an amazing soccer player, & the best part: he’s NOT LIKE OTHER GUYS. I
mean, consumed by sex… He’s very conservative, never talks about sex! , never asks me to do
any sexy things on webcam or anything like that. He’s always worried about me, he sends me
text messages wishing me good luck on tests or reminding me to take care of myself if it’s cold
outside, he always checks the temperature No matter what happens, he’s ALWAYS THERE.
even when we get in stupid fights over his jealousy, it only lasts maybe at the most 10 minutes
and we just tell eachother how much we love eachother. And I love a person thats like that
Also,When im leaving or taking a vacation and I tell him we can’t talk for a week or so, hes fine
with it maybe a little sad, but both times this has happened i’ve come back to an e-mail ‘diary’
of how his days went without me and how terrible they were, and how much he loved me.
BUT…Heres the cut backs:
-we’ve never met, (obviously) although he’s sacrificing everything he has in turkey to come to
canada. He talked to his parents about language school and they’ve accepted, he’ll be coming
here this july.
- language barrier is a bit of a problem. I know intermediate turkish (my dads family is turkish)
but he knows 0 english.
- He’s extremely jealous. telling me to delete every guy on my facebook,phone,etc. He tells me
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2. dont look or talk to any boys at school. He told me that once he’s in my life, that’s it, no other
males. Which is hard for me because before I met him I had a bunch of male friends. I try to tell
him that I dont love them, i just like their company, but I love him more than anything, and he
still doesn’t want me to talk. I asked him if he doesnt trust me and he says he trusts me alot. is
he lying? :s he told me he doesnt ever look at another girl, he took them out of his life and im
the ‘first and last’ woman for him.
all in all, he is just a really amazing guy. He says he’ll do anything for me, and when he comes
whatever I want he’ll do it. I just love him so much and I know that we’ve only been together
for 6 months but I feel like I want this to last a lifetime-hes the IDEAL guy (-the cutbacks, but no
one is perfect, right?)
can I get just someones output- do u think this will work?? What’s the deal behind the
jealousy?can anyone share a similar story? I know thats alot, but thank you.
Blissful Relationship answers:
I’m not familiar enough with the Turkish culture here to explain the jealousy; you’re probably a
better person to look into that. However, that’s something I’d suggest that you do. Different
cultures almost by nature, take on different attitudes about dating, marriage, career, and things
like long-distance relationships. You might find some of your answers there, and also some
other information on your relationship in general that you’d not considered.
As far as whether it could work…who knows, eh? I’m currently very in love and very “together”
with a man I met online over 2 years ago who lived almost 900 miles away, and has since
moved to be here with me after a couple of face to face visits and a lot of conversation. He left
his family, a great job, and everything he ever knew to be here, and I think we’ve both found
that it was all well worth it. But, we’re both in the states. Your situation is much different, but I
think you may have some of your answers in July if he comes to visit.
I think the language barrier, and even the culture difference, is pretty significant. Throw in the
jealousy piece that you don’t care for and I think you two will have a really rough road ahead of
you, with a lot of effort on both of your parts to find a way to make it all worth it. I think you’re
looking at a very difficult relationship and one that you’ll want to consider a great deal…but that
being said, love doesn’t conquer everything, but it conquers a lot and if you both find that you
want it badly enough that these other issues are just bumps in the road, then something could
work out here. Sounds to me though, like you’ll be looking at moving to Turkey if things were to
continue…that, or he has a lot of English to learn to feel comfortable so far from home.
Think sharp, don’t settle, and good luck.
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3. Maria asks…
I need some advice from the women. What is your read of this
situation?
I need help from the adult ladies out there, it would be greatly appreciated. I need to know how
to read this situation so I don’t make an a** of myself tomorrow (I’m 30, and this girl is 34,
neither of us have ever been married). I went out with this girl twice, the last time was a year
and a half ago. The first time we went out things went ok and we made plans to go out again.
Then one of her longtime friends got in the way and they began seeing each other. She lives
one hour away from me so it would have been a long distance relationship. She broke up with
him a few months later. We went out again shortly thereafter. I went to see her. At the end of
the date, she said that she would have to come down to see me next time. she had indicated
previously that the distance turns her off because she has to drive 45 minutes everyday to work
and that was what was precluding her from starting a relationship with me.. It’s really
complicated, but like an idiot I never asked her down because I kept coming back to the “she
doesn’t like the distance thing so she isn’t really interested”. I didn’t want to have to deal with
the rejection because she is an awesome girl and I could have seen myself falling hard for her
and then end up hurt. If I missed my chance with her I’ll never forgive myself. Here’s the thing.
We’ve kept in touch consistently for the last year and a half and email nearly daily (sometimes
to the point of excessive since we are both at work!). Sometimes about absolutely nothing at all,
but other times about life and what’s happening in each of our lives. Over this time I’ve begun
to realize that I have some serious feelings for her, like she might be THE ONE. Back in
January I realized this and I asked her out to lunch but she said that she had started seeing
someone and “didn’t think it would be fair for all of us involved” to get together. So we went on
like usual. I casually mentioned to her about a month ago that I had started seeing somebody
(I’m not anymore but she doesn’t know that), and she immediately responded by suggesting
that we needed to get together sometime. She is planning on coming down to my town to do
some shopping and wanted to get together with me afterwards. Today, she mentioned that
she’d like to switch up the schedule though, that she wants to see me first then do the shopping
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4. later. Can you give me your interpretation of the situation? Am I in the dreaded “friend zone” or
is there a chance she is waiting to see my reaction and if I still have interest? I need the female
perspective. Thanks in advance for your help, I am an absolutely pathetic mess.
I was bummed when she switched up the schedule too. Didn’t see it as a good sign.
Maybe I need to play it like I’m happy with the girl I was dating to see her reaction. Try to turn
the tables a bit.
Blissful Relationship answers:
You are in the “Friend Zone” and you need to move on and go with a girl that will like you back
just move on from her already HUGS
Sharon asks…
What would you do if you found out your fiance looked for discret
relationships with women through internet?
I need some help. What would you do if one day you found out your fiance was looking for sex
with other woman in internet one year ago.Your boyfriend for more than 2 years, your future
husband who tells you everyday “I love you more than anyone in this world”. How do you act?
What do you do? I am completely desperated. I feel so confused. We have a long distance
relationship, but he has swore me he was faithful.We had future plans, I have already bought
the ticket for spend my holidays with him next month. Please give me some advice.
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5. Blissful Relationship answers:
There are several problems here. The first one is that it is a long distance relationship. You
don’t really know anybody until you spend lots of time with them. When you see someone once
in awhile, they are always on good behavior like on a date. That isn’t real life. As for the internet
girls, I would ask more questions about that. Did he meet any of the girls in person? Did he talk
dirty on the internet? You have some thinking to do to decide if he is really husband material.
Does this mean that if you aren’t in town, he feels free to play on the internet? Sounds like you
have some trust issues that you need to settle with him before you ever consider marriage.
Also, he may be sorry that he got caught and not sorry that he did it. Big difference.
Helen asks…
How do some long distance relationships work?
I live on the West Coast and I joined a dating website called Catholic Match because I wanted
someone the same religion as me. I was hoping when I joined the website that I would find a
man in my local neighborhood. Someone that contacted me lives in the Midwest. He contacted
me first and we started talking. I didn’t plan on staying on the website much longer since I
couldn’t find anybody local so I gave him my email address so he could keep in touch with
me. For the past year and a half until now, we never talk on the phone. All we do is text or talk
online. After five months of talking, I invited him to come out where I live and he paid for his own
hotel and airfare. The whole time he was here when we first met, he never kissed me or asked
me to go to his hotel room. He never asked me to sleep with him. We got to know each other
the whole time he was here. I was very surprised when we first met, he told me all about his
family issues right away. Is that strange of him to tell me that? After we first met, we didn’t see
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6. each other again until six months later. When we met up a second time, he took me to see a
concert when he was in town. About the second day of his vacation, he asked if I wanted to go
up to his hotel room. He said I didn’t have to go if I didn’t want to. He said he would respect it.
By the third day of his vacation, he kissed me for the first time. He asked me if he was making
me feel uncomfortable. After he kissed, he went under my blouse and unsnapped my bra. When
he unsnapped my bra, he started sucking my nipples. He said if I didn’t want to have sex with
him, he said he would respect that. He was surprised when I told him I was a virgin. The fourth
day of his vacation when we returned back to his hotel room after church, he stops me and
says, “Come here you!” When I did go to him, he kissed me all over my cheek and then to my
lips. After he did that, he breathed really hard and said he wanted me so bad. We then took a
nap and when we both woke up, I made the first move kissing him on the cheek and it turned
him on. Right after that, he began to kiss me romantically and then he took off my clothes and
his clothes. When we were both in our underwear, he then said to me, “All I want to do is make
tremendous love to you!” I introduced him to my parents and they like him. When I introduced
him to my mom, he hugged her when they first met. Was that unusual? We did talk a lot after
the last time we saw each other, but now it’s slowed down. Although we haven’t seen each
other for 8 months now, do you know why he’ll contact me online when he sees me on
Facebook? For some reason if I send him a text message, he’ll reply back and not ignore me. I
invited him to come out and see me soon, but he said he’s hoping to buy a house first. He said
once he gets his own place, he will see about coming out and seeing me again. He’s going to
school and working on his Bachelor’s degree in Web Design. Plus, he just got a new job a few
months ago. Although we haven’t talked much, do you all think he’s still interested in me? I
know long distance is hard, but how should I ask him when my next vacation bid comes again
at work about seeing each other again? If we were to see each other again and hang out again,
would it be ok to have sex? He did tell me about another woman he met online from out of state
before he met me. He said she was intense and that’s why he stopped seeing her. What do
you think he meant by the lady being intense? He told me he had to block her from Facebook.
Since he blocked that lady off of Facebook, do you all know why he never took me off his
friend’s list or blocked me? If anyone can read this please and give me some advice that would
be great. Thanks!
Blissful Relationship answers:
I started reading because I’m in a long distance relationship but mine’s really different so I may
not have the best advice. I moved away from the man I have been with for years beause of a
job.
Anyway, I read the whole thing but I’m confused. Right after you’re in your undies and he says
he wants to make “tremendous” love, you introduce him to your mom. I think there’s an
important part missing like where you either have sex or turn him down. This is important
because I can’t figure out if he’s still into you and it might depend on that. He really might be
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7. too busy to come see you.
Some of your other questions…It’s not weird that he told about family issues on first meeting
since you were acquainted already from the net, I hugged my daughter’s bf on first meeting too
so that’s not weird to me, I think he might still like you and that’s why he texts you back and
hasn’t blocked you, it would be fine to have sex if you want to and often when a man says
“intense” he means that she was rather insistant on a commitment he wasn’t ready for.
If he’s buying a house he intends to live in it, correct? Have you talked about where you’d live
if you got together? Has he invited you to his place?
Sandy asks…
I need some advice from the women. What is your read of the
situation?
I need help from the adult ladies out there, it would be greatly appreciated. I need to know how
to read this situation so I don’t make an a** of myself tomorrow (I’m 30, and this girl is 34,
neither of us have ever been married). I went out with this girl twice, the last time was a year
and a half ago. The first time we went out things went ok and we made plans to go out again.
Then one of her longtime friends got in the way and they began seeing each other. She lives
one hour away from me so it would have been a long distance relationship. She broke up with
him a few months later. We went out again shortly thereafter. I went to see her. At the end of
the date, she said that she would have to come down to see me next time. she had indicated
previously that the distance turns her off because she has to drive 45 minutes everyday to work
and that was what was precluding her from starting a relationship with me.. It’s really
complicated, but like an idiot I never asked her down because I kept coming back to the “she
doesn’t like the distance thing so she isn’t really interested”. I didn’t want to have to deal with
the rejection because she is an awesome girl and I could have seen myself falling hard for her
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8. and then end up hurt. If I missed my chance with her I’ll never forgive myself. Here’s the thing.
We’ve kept in touch consistently for the last year and a half and email nearly daily (sometimes
to the point of excessive since we are both at work!). Sometimes about absolutely nothing at all,
but other times about life and what’s happening in each of our lives. Over this time I’ve begun
to realize that I have some serious feelings for her, like she might be THE ONE. Back in
January I realized this and I asked her out to lunch but she said that she had started seeing
someone and “didn’t think it would be fair for all of us involved” to get together. So we went on
like usual. I casually mentioned to her about a month ago that I had started seeing somebody
(I’m not anymore but she doesn’t know that), and she immediately responded by suggesting
that we needed to get together sometime. She is planning on coming down to my town to do
some shopping and wanted to get together with me afterwards. Today, she mentioned that
she’d like to switch up the schedule though, that she wants to see me first then do the shopping
later. Can you give me your interpretation of the situation? Am I in the dreaded “friend zone” or
is there a chance she is waiting to see my reaction and if I still have interest? I need the female
perspective. Thanks in advance for your help, I am an absolutely pathetic mess
Blissful Relationship answers:
Could you make it a little longer please. I would like to goto sleep before lunch ….
Zzzzzzzzz……
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