It can be very daunting if you are going on a first date and you are 50+. Its crucial to use convers...

1. Questions To Ask On A First Date
It can be very daunting if you are going on a first date and you are 50+. Its crucial to use
conversation starters to ease the process. Learning how to engage in easy conversation with a
virtual stranger is important to break the ice. Even though you may be a little over a half century
old, don't you feel just the same as when you were a young adult? That's how your date feels too! An
evening out will be really fun - just think about how it was when you were younger.
It is important that relationships are open and honest in the early stages so that both parties can see
the other person for who they really are. Dating is a risky business as there is always the potential
that you could be hurt when you allow yourself to be vulnerable and open up to another person. I
believe however, that the benefit of being open, honest and vulnerable far outweighs the risks in the
long term.
Tip #1- RELAX and lighten up! Finding your life partner or soulmate and settling down into
marriage is serious business but you're not there yet. Take a deep breath and enjoy the discover
process- once it's over you can't go back!
Tip #2- HAVE FUN. For those of you who are outgoing and social this won't be a problem. For those
of you who are more like me, a bit reserved, sceptical, and have the tendency to take things a bit too
seriously remember to have fun. If you do, the other person will too! There is plenty of time for
serious on the next date.
Tip #3- DATE IN GROUPS! This takes all the pressure off a ‘first date' when you hardly know
them. Organise a group of friends to go out and invite your date along with the group. Dating in
groups is safe and fun. It provides you with opportunity to get to know the other person better in a
group setting where there is not so much pressure. It's less like a ‘date' and more like a group of
friends hanging out!
Tip #4- ASK QUESTIONS. Start with the light hearted questions like favourite food, music, people
etc and then if you still like what you hear and see after the first date venture into the deeper
questions later. Listen carefully to the answers of the questions and ask more questions about their
interests later.

2. Imagine going on a first date. You and your date enjoy each other's company, and although you
didn't tell each other this, you're desperate to meet each other again. It's been two days since the
first date, and you don't hear a word from the guy. This gives you second thoughts about him. Maybe
he is not as good as you thought he was. The guy, on the other hand, is waiting for another day to
call you, as he does not want to appear too eager. By that time, you have almost lost interest in him!
Hence, when he eventually calls, you decline to go out with him.
Read any magazine, and they would give relationship advice as to never ever be the first one to call
a man. To some extent, it is true. Men are so wired into chasing women, that if a woman calls them
up first, they might find her too easy, and lose interest. So, at least early on, when you are about to
go on a date, or have been out just once or twice, wait for the man to call. Yet, if you want to make it
slightly easier for him to get in touch with you after the first date, send him a text saying that you
had a great time on your first date.