By Ptr. Ronald Ocampo http://clhcc2009.blogspot.com/

2. You and Your Family
are going to change
your clans in your
own generation
and next generations
after you.

3. 1 John 5:19
We know that we are
children of God, and that
the whole world is under
the control of the evil
one.(NIV)

4. 
1Co 7:28 But if you do marry, you
have not sinned; and if a virgin
marries, she has not sinned. But those
who marry will face many troubles in
this life, and I want to spare you this.
 John
16:33 "I have told you these
things, so that in me you may have
peace. In this world you will have
trouble. But take heart! I have
overcome the world."

6. • 1. Pray before the discussion
starts.
 2.
Remind all to Follow God's
Words
Firmly Believe that there is a
solution from God
 3.
 4.
Don't show angry temper by
God's grace

7. • 5. Don't talk loudly and impatiently but
pleasantly by God's grace.
6. No walking-out when you are hurt
and offended by God's grace.
 - Just take a short break(10min ).
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7. Readily Apologize before
Explaining your Side by God's grace .
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- Avoid being defensive and
argumentative
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8. • 8. Praise God for all the agreed
resolutions to conflicts
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9. Say " I love You " and HUG with
smile that assure of " agape love "

10. • 1. Pray for God's wisdom and revelation
of His will
• Jas 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, he
should ask God, who gives generously
to all without finding fault, and it will be
given to him.
• Col 1:9 For this reason, since the day
we heard about you, we have not
stopped praying for you and asking God
to fill you with the knowledge of his will
through all spiritual wisdom and
understanding

11. • 2. Seek to understand the conflict
and its causes or roots by help of
the Holy Spirit
• 1Jn 5:20 We know also that the Son of
God has come and has given us
understanding, so that we may know
him who is true. And we are in him who
is true--even in his Son Jesus Christ. He
is the true God and eternal life.

12. • 2. Seek to understand the conflict
and its causes or roots by help of
the Holy Spirit
• Isa 11:2 The Spirit of the LORD will rest
on him-- the Spirit of wisdom and of
understanding, the Spirit of counsel
and of power, the Spirit of knowledge
and of the fear of the LORD -

13. • 2. Seek to understand the conflict
and its causes or roots by help of
the Holy Spirit
• Note: Listening is a key in understanding.
Jas 1:19 My dear brothers, take note of
this: Everyone should be quick to listen,
slow to speak and slow to become angry

14. • 3. Determine and write the resolutions
to every issue of conflict.
• Mat 5:25 "Settle matters quickly with
your adversary who is taking you to
court.Do it while you are still with him on
the way, or he may hand you over to the
judge, and the judge may hand you over
to the officer, and you may be thrown
into prison.

15. • 3. Determine and write the resolutions
to every issue of conflict.
• note:
• Amicable Settlements are the
resolutions by the parties involved in
the conflict.
• Be open and willing to do the
resolutions which are suggested by one
raising the issue

16. • 3. Determine and write the
resolutions to every issue of conflict.
• Hab 2:2 Then the LORD replied: "Write
down the revelation and make it plain on
tablets so that a herald may run with it.
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NOTE: Have a " RESOLUTION NOTEBOOK “
Focus on the “solutions” not anymore
in the problem
The solutions are called resolutions
(I resolve to do, … I resolve not to do ….)

17. • 4. Commit by the heart to pursue
the resolutions even lapses occur
• 1Pe 3:11 He must turn from evil and do
good; he must seek peace and pursue
it.
• illus: Ginebra Basketball Team Motto :
Never Say Die!

18. • 5. Encourage weekly and help one
another to do the resolutions
• 1Th 5:11 Therefore encourage one
another and build each other up, just as in
fact you are doing.
• 2Ti 4:2 Preach the Word; be prepared in
season and out of season; correct, rebuke
and encourage--with great patience and
careful instruction.

19. • 5. Encourage weekly and help
one another to do the resolutions
• Tit 2:6 Similarly, encourage the young
men to be self-controlled.
• note:
• 1.) Give Encouragements in the Weekly
Communication Time
• 2.) Give Memory Verses
• 3.) Give a Christian book on the specific
issue of conflict

20. • 6. Pray everyday until success
of resolutions is achieved
• note: Target goal is 2-3 months
• illus: PUSH (Pray Until Something Happens )
• Luke 22:32 But I have prayed for you,
Simon, that your faith may not fail. And
when you have turned back, strengthen
your brothers."

21. • 6. Pray everyday until success
of resolutions is achieved
• Luke 22:44 And being in anguish, he
prayed more earnestly, and his sweat
was like drops of blood falling to the
ground.

22. • 7. Seek counseling of mentor
when there is severe difficulty and
failure in the target goals
• Help of people of authority is
necessary when there is
uncooperative.
• Deliverance might be necessary for
inability to comply to resolutions

23. • 7. Seek counseling of mentor
when there is severe difficulty and
failure in the target goals
• Pro 19:20 Listen to advice and accept
instruction, and in the end you will be
wise.
• 1Ti 5:14 So I counsel younger widows
to marry, to have children, to manage
their homes and to give the enemy no
opportunity for slander.

24. • 2Co 1:3 Praise be to the God and Father
of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of
compassion and the God of all comfort,
• 2Co 1:4 who comforts us in all our
troubles, so that we can comfort those in
any trouble with the comfort we
ourselves have received from God.

25. • 1.) Focus on the solutions of God and
not on the problems and conflicts
• 2.) Be willing to change on the
resolutions even others are not.
• 3.) Wisdom on resolving conflicts
• 4.) Be willing to help others with family
conflicts