2. Modeling is especially important here, because the child may either imitate
violent behavior, or learn that being abused is normal. Once gained, these
roles are very hard to unlearn, and set the tone and model of behavior for
their adult relationships.
Angry and violent verbal abuse will always have long-term negative effects
on not only a woman's self-esteem, but her mental and physical health.
Witnessing or experiencing emotional abuse in the household would have
taught her how to react to abuse. If you want to heal from emotional abuse,
recognizing and learning how to reverse this behavior is extremely
important.
Emotional abuse can result in serious physical and mental issues for the
victim, including digestion problems, bone and muscle conditions, frequent
migraines, and severe depression/anxiety.
In healing emotional abuse we need to bear in mind the following:
● Become aware of your situation, call abuse as abuse and stop
accepting his “tough love”.
● Realize that change will only arrive if you're really working for it.
Nobody is going to rescue you if you don't want to be.
● Gather information about abuse and what it looks like from
books and websites.
● Learn from books, websites, professionals, and your own
experiences to determine why abuse starts and how to avoid it.
● Your community probably has resources to help you accept and
overcome your abusive relationship.
● When in doubt, find your best resource: a professional adviser
educated in abusive relationships.
Where does healing emotional abuse begin?
In order to live a happy and peaceful life, we need to learn ways to achieve
and meet our needs and goals in an ethical and healthy manner; we need to
receive sound affection, we need to be accepted and respected for who we
are, we need to be able to meet our basic needs (material, emotional,
spiritual, professional, etc.), we need to feel we can reach our goals in life
successfully, and achieve every task we carry on (study, work, career, etc.)
without feeling threatened by others.
In order to move forward after emotional abuse, grown adults must first
confront and accept their own childhood abuse. In other words, it is hard to
3. know where you’re going if you haven’t come to terms with where you’ve
been.
Nora Femenia, Ph.D is passionate about supporting women’s recovery
from emotional abuse once and for all. Nora has created a powerful set of
tools for helping women break out of the mind-set that keeps them in a
toxic relationship by first discovering unconscious beliefs and family
blueprints.
To know more about her latest book “Recovering From Emotionally Abusive
Relationships” please visit Healing Emotional Abuse