This document outlines an agenda for a presentation on identity development for parents and guardians. The presentation discusses key aspects of identity development like the various dimensions of identity. It includes exercises for participants to reflect on their own identities and earliest memories. The presentation also provides strategies for how parents can support their child's identity development at home and at school through curriculum, affinity groups, and relationships.

1. I Learned Who I Was When…
Identity Development for Parents and Guardians
Shorecrest Preparatory School
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
Seattle Girls’ School
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2. About Seattle Girls’ School
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3. Agenda
 Identity Development
 Exercise: I Am…
 How We Learn Who We Are
 Exercise: Earliest Memories
 What Can You Do at Home?
 What Can We Do at School?
 Questions and Answers
 Resources
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4. Introductions
Warm-Up Questions
Please introduce yourself, your child, and your child’s
grade. What brought you to the session today? What
tools would you like to get out of our time together?
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5. Identity Development
 What is it?
 What are the
various dimensions
of identity?
 Why identity
development?
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6. Dimensions of Identity and Culture
This model of identifiers and culture was created by Karen Bradberry and Johnnie Foreman for NAIS Summer Diversity Institute,
adapted from Loden and Rosener’s Workforce America! (1991) and from Diverse Teams at Work, Gardenswartz & Rowe (SHRM 2003).
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7. Exercise: I am…
When you think about who you are, which identities
come to mind? Which identities bring you a sense of
pride, ambivalence, or shame? Which identities do
you think about a lot, and which ones do you have to
remind yourself to think about? Which identities
guide how you see the world?
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8. Identity Development:
Marginalized Identities
 Innocence and Self Esteem
 Encounter and Self Doubt
 Immersion into Identity
 Emersion
 Integration
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9. Identity Development:
Privilged Identities
 Innocence and Self Esteem
 Encounter and Confusion
 Attempt to Reintegrate
 Re-Encounter and
Acceptance
 Immersion and Emersion
 Integration
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10. Exercise: Earliest Memories
Pick an early or powerful memory
from your youth where you
learned something about your
identity or others’. What
happened? What did you learn
as a result of this experience?
How did you feel as a result of
this encounter?
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11. Identifiers, Power,
Privilege, and Difference
Internalized Oppression/Dominance
Stereotype Threat
Accumulated Impact
Code/Mode Switching
Fish Seeing the Water
“Norm” “Normal” “Good”
“Intent” versus “Impact”
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12. Identity and Cultural Inclusion
 Identity Frames
 Intractability
 Positive and Negative Encounters
 Identity Socialization
 Co-Authorship of Identity
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13. Assisting the Identity Search
When It’s With You
 Be accepting of identity plays
 Get to know their interests
 Encourage identity pride
 Aid healthy self esteem
 Verbalize your values
 Encourage growth mindset
 Ask questions
 Tell your story
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14. Assisting the Identity Search
When It’s With Others
 Encourage resources for identity
development (affinity or support
groups, etc.)
 Get to know their peers
 Listen to their music, shows,
online activities, and movies
 Teach them about the “real world”
– for real
 Give them access to different
kinds of people
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15. Identity Search at School
 Curriculum
 Diversity Programming
 Affinity Groups
 Safe Spaces
 Role Models
 Relationships at School
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16. Taking it Home
 What did you learn today
that was new, helpful, or
thought provoking?
 What are some goals or
strategies you would like to
apply with your children?
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17. Questions and Comments
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18. Presenter Information
Rosetta Eun Ryong Lee
6th Faculty and
Professional Outreach
Seattle Girls’ School
2706 S Jackson Street
Seattle WA 98144
(206) 805-6562
rlee@seattlegirlsschool.org
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19. Identity Resources
• Carlos H. Arce, “A Reconsideration of Chicano Culture
and Identity”
• Atkinson, Morten, & Sue, “Racial/Cultural Identity
Development Model (R/CID)”
• Mindy Bingham and Sandy Stryker, “Socioemotional
Development for Girls”
• Vivienne Cass, “Homosexual identity formation: Testing a
theoretical model”
• William Cross, Shades of Black: Diversity in African
American Identity”
• Anthony D’Augelli, “ Identity development and sexual
orientation: Toward a model of lesbian, gay, and
bisexual development”
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20. Identity Resources
• Erik Erikson, “Eight Stages of Man”
• J. E. Helms, Various Publications on Racial and Ethnic
Identity Development
• Jean Kim, “Processes of Asian American Identity
Development”
• James Maricia, “Four Ego and Identity Statuses”
• Suzanne Kobasa Ouellette, “The Three C’s of Hardiness”
• Jean S. Phinney, “Ethnic Identity in Adolescents and
Adults: Review of the Research”
• Ponterotto & Pederso, Preventing Prejudice
• Maria P. P. Root, Various Works on Multiracial Identity
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21. Identity Resources
• Patricia Romney, Karlene Ferron, and Jennifer Hill,
“Measuring the Success of Diversity Directors in
Independent Schools”
• Pedro Ruiz, “Latino/a Identity Development Model”
• Chalmer E. Thompson and Robert T. Carter, Racial
Identity Theory
• Alex Wilson, “How We Find Ourselves: Identity
Development and Two Spirit People”
• Christine J. Yeh, “The Collectivistic Nature of Identity
Development Among Asian-American College
Students”
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22. Miscellaneous Resources
• Karen Bradberry and Johnnie Foreman, “Privilege and
Power,” Summer Diversity Institute, National Association
of Independent Schools, 2009
• Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman, Nurture Shock
• Kevin Jennings, GLSEN (Gay Lesbian and Straight Education
Network) www.glsen.org
• Allan G. Johnson, Privilege, Power, and Difference
• John Medina, Brain Rules, Brain Rules for Babies
• Johnnie McKinley, “Leveling the Playing Field and Raising
African American Students’ Achievement in Twenty-nine
Urban Classrooms,” New Horizons for Learning,
http://www.newhorizons.org/strategies/differentiated/
mckinley.htm
• Michael J Nakkula and Eric Toshalis, Understanding Youth.
• Claude Steele, Whistling Vivaldi.
• Shankar Vandatham, The Hidden Brain.
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