1. ViolenceViolence
TextText
Pg. 343-345Pg. 343-345
Review #11, 12 pg. 348Review #11, 12 pg. 348
JournalJournal
What do you do to protectWhat do you do to protect
yourself from being a victim?yourself from being a victim?
What are some other thingsWhat are some other things
that you could do to furtherthat you could do to further
protect yourself?protect yourself?
2. 1 Murder
every 34 minutes
2001 Crime Clock2001 Crime Clock
Only reported statisticsOnly reported statistics
1 Identity Theft
every 19 minutes
1 person is killed in an
alcohol-related traffic crash
every 43 minutes
1 child is reported
abused and/or neglected
every 38 seconds
172 women are physically
and/or sexually assaulted
by an intimate every hour
1 Rape/sexual assault
every 2 minutes
1 Motor Vehicle Theft
every 34 seconds
1 Burglary
every 9 seconds
1 Theft
every 2 seconds
1 Aggravated Assault
every 24 seconds
1 Robbery
every
43 seconds
1 Violent Crime
every 5
seconds
3. Characteristics of AbusersCharacteristics of Abusers
Very jealous, has a short temper.Very jealous, has a short temper.
Reacts physically: hits the wall, kicks theReacts physically: hits the wall, kicks the
dog, etc.dog, etc.
Raised in an abusive home.Raised in an abusive home.
Macho type, must always be the one inMacho type, must always be the one in
control.control.
May or may not batter children.May or may not batter children.
Believe they have the right to beat otherBelieve they have the right to beat other
people.people.
Think, victims enjoy or need the abuse.Think, victims enjoy or need the abuse.
4. Characteristics of Victims ofCharacteristics of Victims of
AbuseAbuse
Raised in an abusive home (was abusedRaised in an abusive home (was abused
or witnessed abuse).or witnessed abuse).
Low self-esteem, insecure, feel theyLow self-esteem, insecure, feel they
deserve the abuse, guilty, etc.deserve the abuse, guilty, etc.
Isolated – not allowed to form closeIsolated – not allowed to form close
relationships with others.relationships with others.
Resists giving up on marriage, doesn’tResists giving up on marriage, doesn’t
want to feel they have failed, wants to helpwant to feel they have failed, wants to help
the abuser change.the abuser change.
Fear of leaving the abuser or of otherFear of leaving the abuser or of other
family members being hurt.family members being hurt.
5. Sir Edward Coke: “For a man’sSir Edward Coke: “For a man’s
home is his castle.”home is his castle.”
A.A. Do you feel unhappy in your home?Do you feel unhappy in your home?
B.B. Do you feel stifled in your home?Do you feel stifled in your home?
C.C. Do you feel like a prisoner in your home?Do you feel like a prisoner in your home?
1.
Determine if your home is a castle or
a dungeon. Answer each question yes
or no. Write down each yes number.
(For example: 1B, 1C, 2A, etc.)
6. A.A. Is your self-esteem shaky?Is your self-esteem shaky?
B.B. Is your self-esteem practically nonexistent?Is your self-esteem practically nonexistent?
C.C. Do you have no idea what self-esteem is?Do you have no idea what self-esteem is?
A.A. Do you seldom have friends visit?Do you seldom have friends visit?
B.B. Do you feel ashamed to have friends visit?Do you feel ashamed to have friends visit?
C.C. Do you have no friends left?Do you have no friends left?
3.
2.
A.A. Do you and your family argueDo you and your family argue
occasionally?occasionally?
B.B. Do you and your family argue constantly?Do you and your family argue constantly?
C.C. Are you afraid to argue with members ofAre you afraid to argue with members of
4.
7. A.A. Have you threatened to leave if thingsHave you threatened to leave if things
don’t change?don’t change?
B.B. Have members of your family promisedHave members of your family promised
to change?to change?
C.C. Has anyone in your family threatenedHas anyone in your family threatened
suicide if you leave?suicide if you leave?
5.
A.A. Have you thought about running away?Have you thought about running away?
B.B. Have you made plans to run away”Have you made plans to run away”
C.C. Have you or others in your family everHave you or others in your family ever
actually run away?actually run away?
6.
8. A.A. Do people ridicule each other in yourDo people ridicule each other in your
home?home?
B.B. Does the ridicule provoke tears on aDoes the ridicule provoke tears on a
regular basis?regular basis?
C.C. Is someone suicidal from beingIs someone suicidal from being
ridiculed?ridiculed?
7.
A.A. Does making up always include gifts?Does making up always include gifts?
B.B. Do gifts seem better after a fight?Do gifts seem better after a fight?
C.C. Do you only receive gifts after fights?Do you only receive gifts after fights?
8.
9. A.A. Has anyone in your family ever been hit?Has anyone in your family ever been hit?
B.B. Has anyone gone to the emergencyHas anyone gone to the emergency
room?room?
C.C. Do they know you by name at theDo they know you by name at the
emergency room?emergency room?
9.
A.A. Has anyone in your family lied to friendsHas anyone in your family lied to friends
about their bruises?about their bruises?
B.B. Has anyone in your family lied to anotherHas anyone in your family lied to another
family member about their bruises?family member about their bruises?
C.C. Has any member of your family lied to theHas any member of your family lied to the
police about bruises?police about bruises?
10.
10. A.A. Do you stay awake nights if a member ofDo you stay awake nights if a member of
your family is out late?your family is out late?
B.B. Do you stay awake nights afraid theDo you stay awake nights afraid the
police will call?police will call?
C.C. Are you awake because you’re afraid aAre you awake because you’re afraid a
member of your family will kill you?member of your family will kill you?
11.
A.A. 1 point1 point
B.B. 2 points2 points
C.C. 3 points3 points
Add up your
scores:
11. ““The hell you know is better than the hellThe hell you know is better than the hell
you don’t.” Have you ever stopped to ask:you don’t.” Have you ever stopped to ask:
“Why live in hell at all?” And why are you“Why live in hell at all?” And why are you
living in a dungeon?living in a dungeon?
0-110-11
– Methinks this castle may have a dungeon.Methinks this castle may have a dungeon.
12-2212-22
– It looks like a dungeon, smells like a dungeonIt looks like a dungeon, smells like a dungeon
and acts like a dungeon.and acts like a dungeon.
23+23+
– Where did the rest of the castle go? All I canWhere did the rest of the castle go? All I can
see is this dungeon!see is this dungeon!
12. Marital AbuseMarital Abuse
Wife abuse is the biggest danger to women.Wife abuse is the biggest danger to women.
95% of physical battering is done by the male.95% of physical battering is done by the male.
However, when the wife does the battering, sheHowever, when the wife does the battering, she
is more likely to kill.is more likely to kill.
Avoid marital abuse by:Avoid marital abuse by:
– Avoid getting involved with an abusive character.Avoid getting involved with an abusive character.
– Don’t let it start.Don’t let it start.
– If it happens once, insist on the other person gettingIf it happens once, insist on the other person getting
therapy.therapy.
– If it happens several times – call the police.If it happens several times – call the police.
13. Assisting in an AbusiveAssisting in an Abusive
SituationSituation
To help someone else in an abusiveTo help someone else in an abusive
situation, call the police. It is toosituation, call the police. It is too
dangerous for you to intercede.dangerous for you to intercede.
Offer emotional support to the victimOffer emotional support to the victim
afterwards.afterwards.
14. Violence CycleViolence Cycle
1. Tension
Building
2. Battering
Incident
3. Honeymoon
As this cycle
is repeated
over and
over, the
violence will
continue in
both
frequency
and severity.
16. Will marriage make theWill marriage make the
abusive behavior go away?abusive behavior go away?
Abuse only gets worse after marriage.Abuse only gets worse after marriage.
People stay in an abusive situation forPeople stay in an abusive situation for
many reasons.many reasons.
– Financial dependence.Financial dependence.
– Social implications.Social implications.
– Fear.Fear.
– They believe they caused it.They believe they caused it.
– They believe the violence is temporary.They believe the violence is temporary.
– They believe they should understand theThey believe they should understand the
abuser.abuser.
– Personal incompetence.Personal incompetence.