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MAKING OUR
MARRIAGES LAST
Both spouses must strive to make it last
Saturday, March
29, 2014
1
 Scripture: John 2:1-5
 John 2:1-5
 On the third day there was a wedding in Cana of Galilee,
and the mother of Jesus was there. Now both Jesus and
His disciples were invited to the wedding. And when they
ran out of wine, the mother of Jesus said to Him, "They
have no wine." Jesus said to her, "Woman, what does
your concern have to do with Me? My hour has not yet
come." His mother said to the servants, "Whatever He says
to you, do it.“ (NKJV)
Saturday, March 29, 2014
2
 What is the secret to having a
successful marriage?
 OBEDIENCE to God is the secret to a
successful marriage
Saturday, March 29, 2014
3
Here are ways to make our marriages last
 1. Have a GROWING COMMITMENT to make
the marriage work.
 The commitment cycle is important to
understand:
 a. You first have love.
 b. Then you have commitment.
 c. You have more love.
 d. Then you have more commitment.
Saturday, March 29, 2014
4
 True commitment keeps growing.
 Someone said, “Sustain a family for a long
period of time and you can sustain success
for long periods of time. First things first. If
your family life is in order, you can do
whatever you want.”
Saturday, March 29, 2014
5
 2. Make EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE to your
spouse.
 Don’t be like the one person that told his wife;
“I told you I loved you twenty years ago. If I change
my mind I will let you know”. Expressions of love
include touch, words, and gifts.
 Too often we treat people outside our families
better than our own family members.
Saturday, March 29, 2014
6
 How can I show love to my spouse:
 a. I can love by SURPRISING.
 b. I can love by REMEMBERING.
 Remember the big days. What are they?
Birthdays, anniversary, etc.
 c. I can love by PLEASING.
Saturday, March 29, 2014
7
 d. I can love by CREATING MEMORIES.
 e. I can love by RE-AFFIRMING.
 Quit giving answers and start giving
assurance.
 f. I can love by ENHANCEMENT.
 One of the best enhancements you can
make to your wife or husband is to say it
and mean it, “MY GREATEST
ACCOMPLISHMENT IN LIFE WAS MARRYING
YOU!
Saturday, March 29, 2014
8
 3. Putting FUN AND ENJOYMENT into you
marriage.
 What are some fun things you like to do?
Saturday, March 29, 2014
9
 4. Offering FORGIVENESS quickly and
easily.
 “Bottled up resentments constitute one of
the greatest dangers to marriage.” John
Warren Hill
 What a wonderful mindset of a person to
overlook the faults of a companion.
 Forgiveness in marriage is a MUST
Saturday, March 29, 2014
10
 5. Having an effective mutually satisfying
COMMUNICATION.
 There are 5 levels of communication: (This is
from the lowest level to the highest.)
 i. Cliche Communication
 a. How are you?
 b. How are you doing?
 c. This can be a very shallow form of
interest to someone whom you love if this is
as far as you take your communication.Saturday, March 29, 2014
11
 ii. Reporting the facts kind of Communication.
 a. This is when we only get together and
tell what is happening.
 b. Cover events on the calendar.
 c. We cover the budget and other
pertinent areas of life.
Saturday, March 29, 2014
12
iii. Sharing ideas and opinions.
 a. Sharing likes and dislikes.
 b. This is the level where we begin to
share our thoughts.
Saturday, March 29, 2014
13
 iv. Sharing feelings and emotions.
 a. Knowing what makes us happy or
sad.
 b. We share with each other what makes
us upset.
 c. Knowing when something makes
you fearful.
Saturday, March 29, 2014
14
 v. The highest level of communication is
where we will share complete trust and
truth in each other.
 a. This involves our freedom of sharing
with each other without any
reservation.
 b. You are communicating so close you
have no fear of rejection or put
down.
 c. Men and women are so different in
this area.
 Saturday, March 29, 2014
15
 A) Women want to share themselves, their
feelings, their joys, their problems, and their
fears.
 B) Men want to share their world. They want
to give advice and solve problems. They
want to share information and there is a
world of difference.
Saturday, March 29, 2014
16
 A wife really needs a friend. She needs the
kind of friends that will simply listen to
her and not give her reasons why it will not
work.
 It really doesn’t work when you try giving
only instructions or orders
Saturday, March 29, 2014
17
 6. Being INTIMATE with your spouse.
 Adam knew Eve. . . “Knowing each other is
the essence of intimacy.”
 Good sex begins with a good relationship -
loving, caring, and understanding.
Saturday, March 29, 2014
18
 7. UNDERSTAND and APPRECIATE the
differences between man and woman.
 We are not the same and we need to
appreciate it.
 We think differently.
Saturday, March 29, 2014
19
 8. We must both have continued GROWTH
and DEVELOPMENT.
 We are either growing together or growing
apart.
 Marriage is not like a picture, because it is
continually changing.
Saturday, March 29, 2014
20
 What are some ways a husband and wife
can grow together?
 a. Have a growth plan - determine
personal interests.
 b. Challenge each other to grow.
 c. Have growing experiences together.
 d. Grow as friends.
 e. Have new experiences in life.
 f. Share with your spouse what you are
learning.
Saturday, March 29, 2014
21
 9. Living with a SERVANT’S HEART for my
spouse.
 Both spouses must be willing to serve and
not to be served.
 One has to go an extra mile in service in the
marriage.
Saturday, March 29, 2014
22
 10. Both spouses must have a new DEFINITION
of marriage success.
 The people who are the closest to me
should love and respect me the most.
 Not being world famous
Saturday, March 29, 2014
23
Finally
 When one understands marriage, four things
come to mind:
 1. SECURITY — “I love you unconditionally.”
 2. SELF WORTH — “You are important in our
relationship.”
 3. SENSITIVITY — “I want to sense and meet
your needs.”
 4. SHARING — “I want to spend my life with
you.”
Saturday, March 29, 2014
24
 Listen to what God says in Matthew 19:6
 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh.
Therefore what God has joined together, let not
man separate.“ (NKJV)
 Marriage is not a trial or an experiment. It is
a very important function in one’s life. We
come into marriage to enjoy the marriage,
serve in the marriage, give our all into
marriage and our bodies, souls and minds
are bonded in the marriage. Saturday, March 29, 2014
25

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Making our marriages last

  • 1. MAKING OUR MARRIAGES LAST Both spouses must strive to make it last Saturday, March 29, 2014 1
  • 2.  Scripture: John 2:1-5  John 2:1-5  On the third day there was a wedding in Cana of Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there. Now both Jesus and His disciples were invited to the wedding. And when they ran out of wine, the mother of Jesus said to Him, "They have no wine." Jesus said to her, "Woman, what does your concern have to do with Me? My hour has not yet come." His mother said to the servants, "Whatever He says to you, do it.“ (NKJV) Saturday, March 29, 2014 2
  • 3.  What is the secret to having a successful marriage?  OBEDIENCE to God is the secret to a successful marriage Saturday, March 29, 2014 3
  • 4. Here are ways to make our marriages last  1. Have a GROWING COMMITMENT to make the marriage work.  The commitment cycle is important to understand:  a. You first have love.  b. Then you have commitment.  c. You have more love.  d. Then you have more commitment. Saturday, March 29, 2014 4
  • 5.  True commitment keeps growing.  Someone said, “Sustain a family for a long period of time and you can sustain success for long periods of time. First things first. If your family life is in order, you can do whatever you want.” Saturday, March 29, 2014 5
  • 6.  2. Make EXPRESSIONS OF LOVE to your spouse.  Don’t be like the one person that told his wife; “I told you I loved you twenty years ago. If I change my mind I will let you know”. Expressions of love include touch, words, and gifts.  Too often we treat people outside our families better than our own family members. Saturday, March 29, 2014 6
  • 7.  How can I show love to my spouse:  a. I can love by SURPRISING.  b. I can love by REMEMBERING.  Remember the big days. What are they? Birthdays, anniversary, etc.  c. I can love by PLEASING. Saturday, March 29, 2014 7
  • 8.  d. I can love by CREATING MEMORIES.  e. I can love by RE-AFFIRMING.  Quit giving answers and start giving assurance.  f. I can love by ENHANCEMENT.  One of the best enhancements you can make to your wife or husband is to say it and mean it, “MY GREATEST ACCOMPLISHMENT IN LIFE WAS MARRYING YOU! Saturday, March 29, 2014 8
  • 9.  3. Putting FUN AND ENJOYMENT into you marriage.  What are some fun things you like to do? Saturday, March 29, 2014 9
  • 10.  4. Offering FORGIVENESS quickly and easily.  “Bottled up resentments constitute one of the greatest dangers to marriage.” John Warren Hill  What a wonderful mindset of a person to overlook the faults of a companion.  Forgiveness in marriage is a MUST Saturday, March 29, 2014 10
  • 11.  5. Having an effective mutually satisfying COMMUNICATION.  There are 5 levels of communication: (This is from the lowest level to the highest.)  i. Cliche Communication  a. How are you?  b. How are you doing?  c. This can be a very shallow form of interest to someone whom you love if this is as far as you take your communication.Saturday, March 29, 2014 11
  • 12.  ii. Reporting the facts kind of Communication.  a. This is when we only get together and tell what is happening.  b. Cover events on the calendar.  c. We cover the budget and other pertinent areas of life. Saturday, March 29, 2014 12
  • 13. iii. Sharing ideas and opinions.  a. Sharing likes and dislikes.  b. This is the level where we begin to share our thoughts. Saturday, March 29, 2014 13
  • 14.  iv. Sharing feelings and emotions.  a. Knowing what makes us happy or sad.  b. We share with each other what makes us upset.  c. Knowing when something makes you fearful. Saturday, March 29, 2014 14
  • 15.  v. The highest level of communication is where we will share complete trust and truth in each other.  a. This involves our freedom of sharing with each other without any reservation.  b. You are communicating so close you have no fear of rejection or put down.  c. Men and women are so different in this area.  Saturday, March 29, 2014 15
  • 16.  A) Women want to share themselves, their feelings, their joys, their problems, and their fears.  B) Men want to share their world. They want to give advice and solve problems. They want to share information and there is a world of difference. Saturday, March 29, 2014 16
  • 17.  A wife really needs a friend. She needs the kind of friends that will simply listen to her and not give her reasons why it will not work.  It really doesn’t work when you try giving only instructions or orders Saturday, March 29, 2014 17
  • 18.  6. Being INTIMATE with your spouse.  Adam knew Eve. . . “Knowing each other is the essence of intimacy.”  Good sex begins with a good relationship - loving, caring, and understanding. Saturday, March 29, 2014 18
  • 19.  7. UNDERSTAND and APPRECIATE the differences between man and woman.  We are not the same and we need to appreciate it.  We think differently. Saturday, March 29, 2014 19
  • 20.  8. We must both have continued GROWTH and DEVELOPMENT.  We are either growing together or growing apart.  Marriage is not like a picture, because it is continually changing. Saturday, March 29, 2014 20
  • 21.  What are some ways a husband and wife can grow together?  a. Have a growth plan - determine personal interests.  b. Challenge each other to grow.  c. Have growing experiences together.  d. Grow as friends.  e. Have new experiences in life.  f. Share with your spouse what you are learning. Saturday, March 29, 2014 21
  • 22.  9. Living with a SERVANT’S HEART for my spouse.  Both spouses must be willing to serve and not to be served.  One has to go an extra mile in service in the marriage. Saturday, March 29, 2014 22
  • 23.  10. Both spouses must have a new DEFINITION of marriage success.  The people who are the closest to me should love and respect me the most.  Not being world famous Saturday, March 29, 2014 23
  • 24. Finally  When one understands marriage, four things come to mind:  1. SECURITY — “I love you unconditionally.”  2. SELF WORTH — “You are important in our relationship.”  3. SENSITIVITY — “I want to sense and meet your needs.”  4. SHARING — “I want to spend my life with you.” Saturday, March 29, 2014 24
  • 25.  Listen to what God says in Matthew 19:6  So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.“ (NKJV)  Marriage is not a trial or an experiment. It is a very important function in one’s life. We come into marriage to enjoy the marriage, serve in the marriage, give our all into marriage and our bodies, souls and minds are bonded in the marriage. Saturday, March 29, 2014 25