Takes the book Five languages of love and applies the principles to Muslims

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Based on the book by Gary Chapman, “The Five Languages of Love”

2. “The minute I heard my first
love story, I started looking
for you, not knowing how
blind that was.
Lovers don't finally meet
somewhere.
They're in each other all
along.”
― Rumi,
The Illuminated Rumi
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3.  There
is no one definition. It is organic, a
process, where just like a garden if nurtured
and looked after it grows into a beautiful
relationship full of intimacy and love.

4.  Just
like a bank account, you have to make
deposits before you make withdrawls. Every
day, multiple times a day, you have to make
a deposit. A kind word, a look, a touch, a
gesture, a call,…

5. Important!
Married life is about
Mawada and Rahma
(Mercy)
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6. ‫‪love‬‬
‫حب, محبة, عشق, مودة, محبوب, محبوبة‬
‫‪friendship‬‬
‫صداقة, مودة, زمالة‬
‫‪cordiality‬‬
‫مودة, حرارة, شعور ودي‬
‫‪intimacy‬‬
‫ألفة, مودة, صداقة حميمة, عالقة جنسية‬
‫‪bonhomie‬‬
‫إنس, مودة‬
‫‪fellowship‬‬
‫زمالة, صحبة, منحة جامعية, رفقة, مودة, طائفة‬
‫‪attachment‬‬
‫التعلق, ارتباط, حجز, ربط, رابط, مودة‬
‫‪nearness‬‬
‫قرب, إلف, مودة, جوار, صداقة حميمة, دقيق‬

7. ‫‪mercy‬‬
‫رحمة, رأفة, نعمة, شفقة, بركة‬
‫‪clemency‬‬
‫رأفة, رحمة, حلم, لين, هوادة, منح العفو‬
‫‪grace‬‬
‫نعمة, فضل, مهلة, رحمة, جمال, كياسة‬
‫‪pity‬‬
‫شفقة, أسف, رثاء, رحمة, رأفة, حنو‬
‫‪ruth‬‬
‫رحمة‬
‫‪quarter‬‬
‫ربع, حي, جانب, ربع ساعة, ربع دوالر, رحمة‬

8. “Speak a good word or remain silent”
Hadith
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9.  Say
good things to your spouse and about
your spouse, eg “ I love you, appreciate
you,…”: Who did the Prophet (SAW) love the
most?
“O Messenger of Allah, who do you love most?” Prophet Muhammad replied
“Aisha….” (Bukhari)
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10. “When I am with you, we
stay up all night.
When you're not here, I can't
go to sleep.
Praise God for those two
insomnias!
And the difference between
them.”
Rumi

11. “I can live for two months
on a good compliment.”
- Mark Twain

12.  This
is amongst other things about being in
the present.
When the Prophet (SAW) was at home he focused on the family. Whoever
he met he gave his full and undivided attention. 110%. Togetherness has
to do with focused attention not just physical proximity.
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13. “Your task is not to
seek for love, but
merely to seek and
find all the barriers
within yourself that
you have built against
it.” Rumi

14.  Gift
giving is universal. It is an expression of
appreciation, love, and more.
The Prophet (SAW) was the most generous and there are many examples
of him both giving and receiving gifts. Gifts may or may not have
monetary value. Make it personal, thoughtful, based on on an occasion or
non-occasion.
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15. “In your light I learn
how to love. In your
beauty, how to make
poems. You dance inside
my chest where no-one
sees you, but sometimes
I do, and that sight
becomes this art.”
― Rumi

16.  Show
Your Love Through Actions.
Find out the likes and dislikes of your spouse. Read his or her body language,
not everything is explicitly said. What can you do around the house to
help? How can you take care of your self, hygiene, beautify yourself,
fitness, and other ways to show your spouse, you care?
The Prophet was described by his wife that ‘he was in the service of his
family’ (Bukhari)

17. “I want to see you. Know your voice.
Recognize you when you first come 'round
the corner.
Sense your scent when I come into a room
you've just left.
Know the lift of your heel, the glide of
your foot.
Become familiar with the way you purse
your lips
then let them part, just the slightest bit,
when I lean in to your space and kiss you.
I want to know the joy of how you
whisper
"more”
― Rumi

18.  Intimacy
is built on all the senses.
Kissing, flirting, embracing, holding hands, cuddling as well as making love
are all parts of physical intimacy.
The Prophet (SAW) would passionately kiss his wife, and then leave for
prayer without performing wudu accord to Aisha (RA)
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19.  What
do you appreciate most about your
spouse?
 What makes you feel most loved?
 What do they say or do that hurts most?
 What do you wish your spouse knew about
what you desire above all else?
 How do you express your love to your spouse?

20. Words
of Affirmation
Quality Time
Receiving Gifts
Acts of Service
Physical Touch

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