The reasons that lead a couple to divorce are never black and white. A spouse who has been cheated on may feel that he or she had no part in causing the other spouse to cheat in the first place. In some cases, that may be true. However, in other cases, the one that was cheated on may not be looking inward and admitting that perhaps they did not provide something that the other spouse wanted or needed. Read more http://www.divorcemag.com/CA/faq/good_idea_jumping_gun.html