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Healthy Youth Sexuality:
 A Critical Examination of For the Strength of Youth
                Presented at the Sunstone Symposium 2012




                               Prepared by:
          Jeremy Irvin, Kimberly McKay, & Joshua Williams
(Wo)Men are that they might have joy.
          Our bodies are meant for joy, not shame.




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
SEXUAL FRAMEWORK
                   Social Constructionist View of Sexuality
                             Circles of Sexuality
                        Religious Sexual Value Systems

                  FOR THE STRENGTH OF YOUTH
                                              Dress & Appearance
                                          Dating & Relationships
                                              Sexual Purity

                                                                  Q &A

Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Social Constructionist View


  • Foucault argued that society creates
  sex and sexuality by defining what is
  acceptable and what is not
  • St. Augustine helped socially construct
  all non-procreative sex as sinful
  • Culture dictates what gender
  definition, gender roles, and gender
  expression is appropriate




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Social Constructionist View
Stayton & Pillai-Friedman (2009, p. 229)




        “ The social construction theory postulates
      that all aspects of sexuality, including fantasies,
       behaviors, taboos, and responses, are socially
      constructed... Sexual scripts serve to embody
        society’s construction of sexuality, and they
          operate on three levels: the cultural, the
            interpersonal, and the intrapsychic.”



Healthy Youth Sexuality:      A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
SEXUAL FRAMEWORK
                                           Circles of Sexuality




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Circles of Sexuality
Dr. Dennis Dailey                                                               Sensuality
                                                                                Skin Hunger
                                                                            Aural/ Visual Stimuli
                                                                           Sexual Response Cycle
                                                                                Body Image
                                                                                   Fantasy
                               Sexualization                                                              Intimacy
                                    Flirting                                                                   Caring
                             Media Messages/Images                                                            Sharing
                                   Seduction                                                               Loving/Liking
                               Withholding Sex                                                              Risk Taking
                              Sexual Harassment                                                            Vulnerability
                                     Incest
                                      Rape
                                                                                     VALUES               Self Disclosure
                                                                                                               Trust




                                           Sexual Health
                                                                                           Sexual Identity
                                           & Reproduction                                     Biological Gender
                                                Sexual Behavior                                Gender Identity
                                             Anatomy & Physiology                                Gender Role
                                          Sexual/Reproductive System                          Sexual Orientation
                                            Contraception/Abortion
                                                     STIs




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Sensuality
                                          Skin Hunger
                                      Aural/ Visual Stimuli
                                     Sexual Response Cycle
                                          Body Image
                                             Fantasy




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Intimacy
                                                              Caring
                                                             Sharing
                                                          Loving/Liking
                                                           Risk Taking
                                                          Vulnerability
                                                         Self Disclosure
                                                              Trust




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Sexual Identity
                                                                                     Biological Gender
                                                                                      Gender Identity
                                                                                        Gender Role
                                                                                     Sexual Orientation




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Sexual Health
              & Reproduction
            Sexual Behavior
        Anatomy & Physiology
     Sexual / Reproductive System
       Contraception / Abortion
         Sexually Transmitted
               Infections




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Often Fear-Based Sex Education




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Sexualization
                Flirting
        Media Messages & Images
               Seduction
           Withholding Sex
          Sexual Harassment
                 Incest
                  Rape




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
RELIGIOUS FRAMEWORK
                      Religious Sexual Value Systems




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Religious Sexual Value “A” System
Dr. William Stayton




                                                    Act Centered

    • The Sexual Acts determine what is moral or immoral
    • Authority – External: scriptures, parents, religious
      authority
    • Moral Responsibility – proclaimed by outside person
    • Purpose of values – to maintain tradition
    • Reward – divine favor, heaven



Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Religious Sexual Value “B” System
Dr. William Stayton




                                       Relationship Centered
     • The Intent and Consequences of the sexual acts
       determine whether it is moral or immoral
     • Authority – External & Internal: importance on scientific
       information, research, and decision-making skills
     • Moral Responsibility – all are involved
     • Purpose of Values – promote growth, better people,
       and a better society
     • Reward – a meaningful life in the here and now


Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Religious Sexual Value “C” System
Dr. William Stayton




                                                      Combination

    • Takes from both “A” and “B” depending on the issue
      and comfort level with the sexual act
    • The value system held by most of the people
    • Confusing because there is no consistent theological or
      scriptural base




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
LDS FOCUS

                               For The Strength of Youth
                                                      I. Dress & Appearance
                                                    II. Dating & Relationships
                                                          III. Sexual Purity




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Choices
Trust Our Youth to Learn From Their Choices


                                             We are following the admonition of the Prophet Joseph Smith:
                                             “I teach them correct principles and they govern themselves.”
                                                       We should not, according the scriptures, need to be
                                                                                  commanded in all things.
                                                                                           Boyd K. Packer, April 1990




      • Teach the importance of:
            gaining Knowledge
            practicing Compassion for self & others
            understanding Consequences
      • Trust our youth to make Choices and Learn
        from their life experiences


Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
DRESS & APPEARANCE



                                               developed by Joshua Williams




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Current Version (2012)
   Your body is sacred. Respect it and do not defile it in any way. Through your dress and appearance, you can show that you know how
   precious your body is.You can show that you are a disciple of Jesus Christ and that you love Him.

   Prophets of God have continually counseled His children to dress modestly. When you are well groomed and modestly dressed, you
   invite the companionship of the Spirit and you can be a good influence on others.Your dress and grooming influence the way you and
   others act.

   Never lower your standards of dress. Do not use a special occasion as an excuse to be immodest. When you dress immodestly, you send
   a message that is contrary to your identity as a son or daughter of God.You also send the message that you are using your body to get
   attention and approval.

   Immodest clothing is any clothing that is tight, sheer, or revealing in any other manner.Young women should avoid short shorts and short
   skirts, shirts that do not cover the stomach, and clothing that does not cover the shoulders or is low-cut in the front or the back.Young
   men should also maintain modesty in their appearance.Young men and young women should be neat and clean and avoid being extreme
   or inappropriately casual in clothing, hairstyle, and behavior. They should choose appropriately modest apparel when participating in
   sports. The fashions of the world will change, but the Lord’s standards will not change.

   Do not disfigure yourself with tattoos or body piercings.Young women, if you desire to have your ears pierced, wear only one pair of
   earrings.

   Show respect for the Lord and yourself by dressing appropriately for Church meetings and activities. This is especially important when
   attending sacrament services.Young men should dress with dignity when officiating in the ordinance of the sacrament.

   If you are not sure what is appropriate to wear, study the words of the prophets, pray for guidance, and ask your parents or leaders for
   help.Your dress and appearance now will help you prepare for the time when you will go to the temple to make sacred covenants with
   God. Ask yourself, “Would I feel comfortable with my appearance if I were in the Lord’s presence?”




Healthy Youth Sexuality:           A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Potential Issues?




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
TRUE MODESTY: self respect
     and respect for others through
     dress and appearance




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Body Awareness & Respect
Our bodies are a UNIQUE GIFT from our Heavenly Parents.




      • Nude Body: natural and unashamed
      • Self-Acceptance: know our abilities & limitations
      • Accept Others: recognize other’s abilities &
        limitations
      • Sexuality is one component to whole self
      • Personal Responsibility: not just a girl’s onus




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Balance & Health
BODY, MIND & SOUL connected and alert.




     • Eat healthy, balanced meals
     • Be active, exercise regularly
     • Nurture mind: arts, literature,
       conversations, relationships & more




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Clothing the Body
Not inherently MORAL or IMMORAL.




     • Clothing & Accessories are
       commodities
     • Constantly changing
     • Decoration
     • Protects us from the elements
     • Define & force gender roles
     • Clothing can signify power




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Consumerism
Preying on women and youth.




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Self Expression
An OUTWARD EXPRESSION of our inner self.




     • Emphasize or de-emphasize to
       Hide or Provoke
     • Fit and Comfort are foundations
       for expression
     • What we wear creates expectations
       often before we speak
     • Signifies our social or financial status
     • Allows us to Fit In or Stand Out




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Group Expression
An outward expression of our TRIBE.



    • Trends connect us socially &
      continually morph
    • Fashion a style accepted by the
      masses
    • Taste is being appropriate to the
      occasion
    • Rules can be good, without hard
      moral connection
    • Influenced by geography, culture,
      society & religion
    • Respecting diversity


Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Dressing Sexy
Clothing CLOAKS THE BODY in mystery.




 • The nude body is only sexual in context
 • Clothing often provides the context for
   sexuality
 • Clothing can Attract and Seduce
 • Dressing & Undressing can be sexual
 • “Society” sexualizes body parts
 • Hiding body parts [“modesty”] can
   sexualize them
 • Effects of the nudity/clothing dialectic



Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Experimentation
Clothing is a safe way to EXPLORE & EXPRESS.




     • Teenagers adopt & drop trends
       quickly
     • Clothing allows for group
       acceptance
     • A clothing faux pas is not a sin,
       and rarely serious!




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Leadership & Support
TRUE MODESTY is key to open communication.




      • Be supportive, not combative
      • Be positive resource and reinforcer
      • Stress “good fit” and “good taste”
      • Encourage balance and health
      • One size does not fit all
      • Respect & Empathize

                                        ...it’s all about TRUE MODESTY!




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
DATING & RELATIONSHIPS

 developed by Jeremy Irvin & Kimberly McKay
Current Version (2012): Dating
      A date is a planned activity that allows a young man and a young woman to get to know each other
      better. In cultures where dating is acceptable, it can help you learn and practice social skills, develop
      friendships, have wholesome fun, and eventually find an eternal companion.

      You should not date until you are at least 16 years old. When you begin dating, go with one or
      more additional couples. Avoid going on frequent dates with the same person. Developing serious
      relationships too early in life can limit the number of other people you meet and can perhaps lead
      to immorality. Invite your parents to become acquainted with those you date.

      Choose to date only those who have high moral standards and in whose company you can maintain
      your standards. Remember that a young man and a young woman on a date are responsible to
      protect each other’s honor and virtue.

      Plan dating activities that are safe, positive, and inexpensive and that will help you get to know each
      other. Go only to places where you can maintain your standards and remain close to the Spirit.

      Young men generally take the initiative in asking for and planning dates. Always be kind and
      respectful when you ask for a date or when you accept or decline one. While on a date, be
      courteous as you listen to others and express your own feelings.

      As you enter your adult years, make dating and marriage a high priority. Seek a companion who is
      worthy to go to the temple to be sealed to you for time and all eternity. Marrying in the temple and
      creating an eternal family are essential in God’s plan of happiness.



Healthy Youth Sexuality:      A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Positives?




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Learning how to build and maintain Healthy
              Relationships is an important task of
               adolescence and young adulthood.



Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Building Healthy Relationships
Building healthy relationships in adolescence is the foundation to a healthy adulthood.


        • And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted,
          forgiving one another... (Ephesians 4:32)
        • Empathy: the ability to understand and share the
          feelings of another
        • Learn to Give your opinion and Express your feelings
        • Listen to and Respect others’ opinions and emotional
          expressions




Healthy Youth Sexuality:     A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Friendships
Practicing the skills of healthy relationships through friendships.




     Youth should spend time with
     people who:
                 are supportive and kind
                 they feel good being with
                 encourage learning and
                 developing strengths
                 they have fun with




Healthy Youth Sexuality:      A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Dating Relationships
Practicing the skills of healthy relationships through dating.




                                Dating
                          Practice Social Skills
                       Learn kindness & respect
                                Have fun
                   Appreciate differences & similarities
                           Prepare for future




Special Considerations:
• LGBT youth should be encouraged to date
• Youth of all intellectual and physical abilities
  should be encouraged to explore friendship
  and companionship to their comfort level



Healthy Youth Sexuality:       A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Problem with “Abstinence” as the Only Goal
Collins & Carmody, 2011
                                                                                              Edward Jacob to Other
                                                                                              to Bella Bella
                                                                        Physical Violence     16, 20%     8, 10%     56, 70%

                                                                     Secondary Violence       26, 19%        0       110, 80%

                                                                         Sexual Violence       3, 60%     2, 40%        0

                                                                                 Jealousy     17, 54.8% 12, 41.4%     2, 3.8%

                                                                                 Stalking     11, 78.6%   1, 7.1%    2, 14.3%

                                                                         Male Aggression      81, 44.3% 43, 23.5% 59, 32.2%

                                                                   Controlling Behavior:      90, 75.6%    5, 4%     29, 24.4%

                                                                                 Physical     24, 80%     4, 13.3%    2, 6.7%

                                                                                     Verbal   31, 100%       0          0

                                                                               Emotional      38, 65.5%   3, 5.2%       0




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
LGBT Youth & Family Acceptance
Caitlin Ryan, Family Acceptance Project, 2009



                  “When gay and transgender youth were accepted by their
          families, they were much more likely to believe they would have a
                           good life and would be a happy, productive adult.”
                100


 Believe they    75            92%
   can be a
 Happy Adult     50                                                    77%
  and have a
  Good Life                                                                                   59%
                 25
                                                                                                                 35%
                   0
                       Extremely Accepting                      Very Accepting         A Little Accepting Not at All Accepting
                                                                          Family Acceptance


Healthy Youth Sexuality:     A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Leadership & Support
Model Healthy Relationships



   • Be positive model for healthy relationships
         include modeling the resolution of contention
   • Be supportive, not combative
   • Encourage the expression of wants &
     dislikes
   • Praise them when they are vulnerable
     within healthy boundaries
   • Don’t judge their choices in friendships
   • Encourage them to find relationships
     that bring them joy and self-confidence
   • Listen, Respect, & Empathize


Healthy Youth Sexuality:      A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Sexual Purity


developed by Jeremy Irvin & Kimberly McKay
Current Version (2012): Sexual Purity
      Physical intimacy between husband and wife is beautiful and sacred. It is ordained of God for the creation of children and for the
      expression of love between husband and wife. God has commanded that sexual intimacy be reserved for marriage.
      When you are sexually pure, you prepare yourself to make and keep sacred covenants in the temple.You prepare yourself to build a
      strong marriage and to bring children into the world as part of an eternal and loving family.You protect yourself from the spiritual
      and emotional damage that come from sharing sexual intimacy outside of marriage.You also protect yourself from harmful diseases.
      Remaining sexually pure helps you to be confident and truly happy and improves your ability to make good decisions now and in the
      future.
      The Lord’s standard regarding sexual purity is clear and unchanging. Do not have any sexual relations before marriage, and be
      completely faithful to your spouse after marriage. Do not allow the media, your peers, or others to persuade you that sexual
      intimacy before marriage is acceptable. It is not. In God’s sight, sexual sins are extremely serious. They defile the sacred power God
      has given us to create life. The prophet Alma taught that sexual sins are more serious than any other sins except murder or denying
      the Holy Ghost.
      Never do anything that could lead to sexual transgression. Treat others with respect, not as objects used to satisfy lustful and selfish
      desires. Before marriage, do not participate in passionate kissing, lie on top of another person, or touch the private, sacred parts of
      another person’s body, with or without clothing. Do not do anything else that arouses sexual feelings. Do not arouse those emotions
      in your own body. Pay attention to the promptings of the Spirit so that you can be clean and virtuous. The Spirit of the Lord will
      withdraw from one who is in sexual transgression.
      Avoid situations that invite increased temptation, such as late-night or overnight activities away from home or activities where there
      is a lack of adult supervision. Do not participate in discussions or any media that arouse sexual feelings. Do not participate in any
      type of pornography. The Spirit can help you know when you are at risk and give you the strength to remove yourself from the
      situation. Have faith in and be obedient to the righteous counsel of your parents and leaders.
      Homosexual and lesbian behavior is a serious sin. If you find yourself struggling with same-gender attraction or you are being
      persuaded to participate in inappropriate behavior, seek counsel from your parents and bishop. They will help you.
      Victims of sexual abuse are not guilty of sin and do not need to repent. If you have been a victim of abuse, know that you are
      innocent and that God loves you. Talk to your parents or another trusted adult, and seek your bishop’s counsel immediately. They can
      support you spiritually and assist you in getting the protection and help you need. The process of healing may take time. Trust in the
      Savior. He will heal you and give you peace.
      If you are tempted to commit any form of sexual transgression, seek help from your parents and bishop. Pray to your Father in
      Heaven, who will help you resist temptation and overcome inappropriate thoughts and feelings. If you have committed sexual
      transgression, talk to your bishop now and begin the process of repentance so that you can find peace and have the full
      companionship of the Spirit.

      Make a personal commitment to be sexually pure. By your words and actions, encourage others to do the same.




Healthy Youth Sexuality:            A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Potential Issues?




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Sexual Purity
Re-defining Purity




      • Pure Intent
      • Pure Compassion for self
      • Pure Empathy for others




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Made in HIS (HER) Image
Our bodies are designed after God’s own image


 • Bodies come in all shapes and
   sizes. They are perfect in their
   imperfections  
 • All physiological and anatomical
   responses and impulses are
   natural
 • Sexual desires and responses
   vary from person to person
 • Not all bodies respond the same
   way sexually
 • Sexual experiences should not
   be shameful but rather
   celebrated
Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Celebrating Sexual Expression
Many of life’s greatest moments



 • Many major milestones in life
   EVOLVE around sexual expression
 • Our Heavenly Parents want you to
   be healthy
 • Normal sexual responses and
   desires mean the body is
   HEALTHY
 • Shame and guilt inhibit healthy
   functioning




Healthy Youth Sexuality:    A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Knowledge is Power
Sex Education is important

                                                                                            “For members of the Church,
                                                                                       education is not merely a good idea
                                                                                                    --it’s a commandment”
                                                                                                           - Dieter F. Uchtdorf




         • While desire is inherent, knowledge is not
         • Everyone should have a working knowledge of how
           different bodies work
         • Comprehensive sex education decreases rate of
           sexual activity, the amount of partners, and
           pregnancy/STI rates among teens
         • Information around sex should never be shameful



Healthy Youth Sexuality:     A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Strengthening Sexual Relationships
Sexual expressions can strengthen many types of romantic relationships

      • Sexual expression does not always involve
        another person
      • Individually exploring your capacity for sexual
        pleasure can ultimately help strengthen your future
        relationships
      • Healthy sexual interactions consist of:
        communication, honesty, empathy, and the hearing
        and expressing of needs
      • Intimate interactions may help a couple decide if
        they are a good match
      • Sexual relations can bring a couple closer together
      • Individuals must DISCUSS sex before having it


Healthy Youth Sexuality:    A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Clarifying Sexual Misconceptions
Healthy sexual relationships take communication about expectations

• Know what you want from a
  relationship before dating
• The first time having sex should not
  be spontaneous
• Couples should talk about sex
  before having it
• First sexual experiences can be
  awkward
• There is not one “right” way to
  have sex or intercourse
• Sometimes sex is great, sometimes
  it is not
• Everyone deserves to feel pleasure

Healthy Youth Sexuality:    A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
The Truth About Pornography



• What constitutes pornography is
  different for different people
• Not all pornography is the same
• Viewing pornography does not
  mean you are an addict
• How can we help kids to seek out
  healthy sex-positive imagery?




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Leadership & Support
Supporting Healthy Sexuality

   • Provide knowledge and share personal
     values in a non-shaming way
   • Don’t ever compare any sexual expression
     to murder
   • Emphasize that context, intent, and
     consequences matter
   • Stress compassion for self and empathy
     the other
   • Encourage the understanding of your
     own body’s capacity for desire
   • Reinforce that our bodies are meant to
     experience joy and pleasure
   • Listen, Respect, & Empathize

Healthy Youth Sexuality:       A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Any Questions?
                                                           Thank You




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Addendum

                                                    A Positive Approach to
                                                  For the Strength of the Youth




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Proposed Version: Dress & Appearance
 Your body is a gift from your Heavenly Parents.  Besides providing you a facility with amazing abilities to perform basic and even
 advanced tasks, your body provides a unique way to express yourself.  It becomes imperative then that you respect the needs and health
 of your own body as well as the bodies of others.  
 Bodies come in all shapes and sizes.  They are perfect in their imperfections.  First and foremost, we should be aware of our own body's
 needs, being careful to avoid comparing ourselves to others.  It is important to eat three healthy, balanced meals each day and to exercise
 regularly. Being healthy not only allows us to perform to our utmost ability, it helps us to feel our best and stay mentally alert.  
 Clothing is meant to protect our bodies from the elements, not to hide them in shame.  They also celebrate our body's best attributes
 as an outward expression of who we are.  As such, clothing signifies to those around us, who we are, often before we even speak.  This
 silent expression allows us to "fit in" with and "stand out" from those around us.  We should take care in what we wear, including hair
 styles, make-up and jewelry, ensuring that it is appropriate and in good taste for each situation, as well as cultural and societal
 expectations.  While a bathing suit is perfectly acceptable at a beach or pool, it is not appropriate attire for school or church!  
 It’s also important to be cognizant of your own body's shape and size.  Wearing clothes that fit well and are comfortable goes a long way
 in making you feel good about yourself, much more than being on top of the latest trends, sporting the hippest fads or wearing the "it"
 brands.  These come and go.  Just like the Savior taught by example, true modesty is being aware of others, showing empathy in every
 unique situation, so as not to leave others out.  Modesty begins with self-acceptance and humility and can be manifest through our
 outward appearances.  
 If clothing helps to express our best selves, it's only natural that clothing can be used as a way to attract others.  In fact, the sexual allure
 of clothing is often more powerful than the natural nude body itself.  Avoid using clothing to attract unwanted attention or to be
 provocative.  Attraction, even sexual attraction, is healthy and normal, but is only one part of the equation.  Keeping a balance between
 your inner and outer self will go a long way towards developing healthy, happy relationships.  This healthy balance shows respect for self
 and others and underlines the true meaning of modesty.  
 It's very normal as a teenager to change your clothing style or preferences often.  There will be good hair days and bad style days; it's
 part of finding your true self and becoming an adult.  If you are not sure what is appropriate to wear in any given situation, ask your
 parents or leaders for help.




Healthy Youth Sexuality:              A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth   Presentation at Sunstone Conference 2012 by
                                                                                                Jeremy Irvin, Kimberly McKay, & Joshua Williams
Proposed Version: Dating & Relationships
    One of your important jobs during your teenage years is to support your sense of self. Part of doing this is to meet and build
    relationships with different people through school, friends, work, church, and family.

    A date is a planned activity that allows two people to get to know each other better. It can help you learn and practice social
    skills, develop friendships, have fun, and learn what qualities you eventually want in a committed partnership.

    Don’t feel pressure to start dating until you feel ready. When you begin dating, go with one or more additional couples. Invite
    your parents (or trusted adults) to become acquainted with those you date.

    Spend time with those who you feel good being with. Plan dating activities that are safe, positive, and inexpensive and that will
    help you get to know each other. If you ever feel uncomfortable or unsafe in a dating relationship, talk with a trusted adult
    immediately.

    Always be kind and respectful when you ask for a date or when you accept or decline one. While on a date, be courteous as you
    listen to others and express your own feelings. As you enter your adult years, seek a companion who you enjoy spending time
    with and who encourages your continual learning. It is also important to nurture relationships that share and celebrate common
    values.

    The Internet is a wonderful tool for education, social supports, and meeting new people. Just as with in-person relationships, your
    online relationships should be respectful and kind. If you witness anyone being bullied online, it is very important that you tell a
    trusted adult. Use the Internet wisely. Never share your personal information (your last name, address, parent’s workplace,
    birthdate) online. If you choose to meet an online friend in-person, make sure your first meeting is in a public space and bring
    along a trusted person.

    Learning how to build and maintain healthy relationships involves empathy (the ability to understand and share the feelings of another)
    and communicating your own needs and desires in a respectful manner.




Healthy Youth Sexuality:           A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth   Presentation at Sunstone Conference 2012 by
                                                                                             Jeremy Irvin, Kimberly McKay, & Joshua Williams
Proposed Version: Sexual Purity
Your body is an uniquely inspired gift given to you by your Heavenly Parents with the capacity to experience pleasure and joy that is also unique to you. 
Sexual pleasure is one way we are given to experience joy in this life.  It is important to be aware of the physical and emotional desires we feel and recognize
them as both natural and powerful.  Developing and nurturing healthy sexual relationships is also natural, and if approached and shared thoughtfully will
enhance your ability to feel pleasure and joy.  However, be wary, as not all pleasure brings joy.  Sexuality can also cause pain and suffering if misused or
experienced in excess.  

Self discovery and stimulation is a natural, healthy way for you to explore your body’s natural ability to experience desire and pleasure.  It can also help you
become aware of what causes displeasure.  Be careful that such activities do not inhibit your day-to-day functioning.  Try and avoid adult material that depicts
individuals being treated in a way that you would not want to be treated.  Seek out positive depictions of loving couples that treat each other in an empathetic
way that you would one day want to be treated.  Also, be careful to not become dependent on any one type of sexual depiction, as it may inform and even
inhibit future sexual experiences and relationships.

Sexual relationships can provide some of the most amazing moments of your life, emotional and physical, as well as the most difficult and frustrating.   Just like
any other decision you make, sexuality involves decisions and consequences that can affect you and others, negative and positive.  Negative consequences
include unwanted pregnancies, sexually transmitted infections, abusive relationships and emotional depression.   Positive consequences include healthy, loving
relationships, emotional and physical support, marriages and children.   Seek out positive experiences.   As such, you have a right to feel safe and to decide if
and when you will engage in sexual activities alone or with another person.

Consider your intent before entering into any sexual experience and ask yourself “how do I think I will feel after this experience is over?”  Be sure to discuss
this with whomever is part of your sexual experience.  This is true sexual purity that is founded upon open communication, honesty and empathy for others. 

Your first sexual experience with another person should never be spontaneous, but carefully considered and planned.  Oftentimes, this initial conversation can
be scary, but it is an important step to establish intimacy and trust.  If you feel like you are not ready to have an open conversation with your partner about
sex, then you are most likely not ready to have a sexual experience with that person.  Not being ready is normal and it's always best to wait until you are
ready. 

You should never feel like sexual experiences are the end goal of any relationship; sexual desire and sex itself are only one aspect of what it means to be in a
loving relationship.  Move at your own pace.  Do not feel like there is a timeline that you must follow in a relationship.  Almost all romantic relationships
follow a natural progression, which will help you decide when the time is right for you and your partner.  It is only through the progression of this natural
relationship that each experience can be truly enjoyed and celebrated, which is what our Heavenly Parents want for you.  If you are embarrassed about a
specific behavior, that is your body’s way of telling you that you may not be ready. This is natural and you should not feel shame because of it.  Use this as an
opportunity to seek out guidance from a trusted adult. 

The way that you will discover and experience sexuality will continually change as you learn and grow.  Be aware of these changes and don't be afraid to ask
questions or seek advice.  Most importantly, be sure to continually communicate, open and honestly with your sexual partner to ensure that sexual pleasure
leads to joy.  "...[wo]Men are, that they might have joy."  (2 Nephi 2:25).




Healthy Youth Sexuality:                  A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth   Presentation at Sunstone Conference 2012 by
                                                                                                    Jeremy Irvin, Kimberly McKay, & Joshua Williams
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Healthy Youth Sexuality:                   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
Parental Resources
Advocates for Youth, http://www.advocatesforyouth.org

Affirmation Gay and Lesbian Mormons. http://www.affirmation.org/

Answer, Sex Etc. http://www.sexetc.org; http://answer.rutgers.edu/page/sexetc_website/
  (sex education for teens written by teens)

Family Acceptance Project, Supportive Families, Healthy Children: Helping families with lesbian, gay,
  bisexual, and transgender children. Latter-day Saint Version, http://familyproject.sfsu.edu/publications

Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, http://community.pflag.org

Planned Parenthood, Tools for Parents, http://www.plannedparenthood.org/parents/

Sexperience, http://www.sexperienceuk.channel4.com/

Sexual Information and Education Council of the United States, http://www.siecus.org/

Talk With Your Kids, California Health Council, Inc, http://www.talkwithyourkids.org/pages/

Teaching Sexual Health, http://www.teachingsexualhealth.ca/

Teaching Tolerance, http://www.tolerance.org/
  Current Issue: When Teen Dating Becomes Abusive, http://cdna.splcenter.org/sites/default/files/ tolerance/
TT41.pdf

There is No Place Like Home for Sex Education, http://www.noplacelikehome.org/



Healthy Youth Sexuality:         A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth   Presentation at Sunstone Conference 2012 by
                                                                                           Jeremy Irvin, Kimberly McKay, & Joshua Williams
Contact Information




        Jeremy Irvin, jeremyirvin.widener@gmail.com
   Kimberly McKay, kimberlymckaywidener@gmail.com
          Joshua Williams, fashionconsort@gmail.com




Healthy Youth Sexuality:   A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth

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  • 3. SEXUAL FRAMEWORK Social Constructionist View of Sexuality Circles of Sexuality Religious Sexual Value Systems FOR THE STRENGTH OF YOUTH Dress & Appearance Dating & Relationships Sexual Purity Q &A Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
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  • 7. Circles of Sexuality Dr. Dennis Dailey Sensuality Skin Hunger Aural/ Visual Stimuli Sexual Response Cycle Body Image Fantasy Sexualization Intimacy Flirting Caring Media Messages/Images Sharing Seduction Loving/Liking Withholding Sex Risk Taking Sexual Harassment Vulnerability Incest Rape VALUES Self Disclosure Trust Sexual Health Sexual Identity & Reproduction Biological Gender Sexual Behavior Gender Identity Anatomy & Physiology Gender Role Sexual/Reproductive System Sexual Orientation Contraception/Abortion STIs Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 8. Sensuality Skin Hunger Aural/ Visual Stimuli Sexual Response Cycle Body Image Fantasy Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 9. Intimacy Caring Sharing Loving/Liking Risk Taking Vulnerability Self Disclosure Trust Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 10. Sexual Identity Biological Gender Gender Identity Gender Role Sexual Orientation Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 11. Sexual Health & Reproduction Sexual Behavior Anatomy & Physiology Sexual / Reproductive System Contraception / Abortion Sexually Transmitted Infections Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 12. Often Fear-Based Sex Education Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 13. Sexualization Flirting Media Messages & Images Seduction Withholding Sex Sexual Harassment Incest Rape Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 14. RELIGIOUS FRAMEWORK Religious Sexual Value Systems Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 15. Religious Sexual Value “A” System Dr. William Stayton Act Centered • The Sexual Acts determine what is moral or immoral • Authority – External: scriptures, parents, religious authority • Moral Responsibility – proclaimed by outside person • Purpose of values – to maintain tradition • Reward – divine favor, heaven Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 16. Religious Sexual Value “B” System Dr. William Stayton Relationship Centered • The Intent and Consequences of the sexual acts determine whether it is moral or immoral • Authority – External & Internal: importance on scientific information, research, and decision-making skills • Moral Responsibility – all are involved • Purpose of Values – promote growth, better people, and a better society • Reward – a meaningful life in the here and now Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 17. Religious Sexual Value “C” System Dr. William Stayton Combination • Takes from both “A” and “B” depending on the issue and comfort level with the sexual act • The value system held by most of the people • Confusing because there is no consistent theological or scriptural base Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 18. LDS FOCUS For The Strength of Youth I. Dress & Appearance II. Dating & Relationships III. Sexual Purity Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 19. Choices Trust Our Youth to Learn From Their Choices We are following the admonition of the Prophet Joseph Smith: “I teach them correct principles and they govern themselves.” We should not, according the scriptures, need to be commanded in all things. Boyd K. Packer, April 1990 • Teach the importance of: gaining Knowledge practicing Compassion for self & others understanding Consequences • Trust our youth to make Choices and Learn from their life experiences Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 20. DRESS & APPEARANCE developed by Joshua Williams Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 21. Current Version (2012) Your body is sacred. Respect it and do not defile it in any way. Through your dress and appearance, you can show that you know how precious your body is.You can show that you are a disciple of Jesus Christ and that you love Him. Prophets of God have continually counseled His children to dress modestly. When you are well groomed and modestly dressed, you invite the companionship of the Spirit and you can be a good influence on others.Your dress and grooming influence the way you and others act. Never lower your standards of dress. Do not use a special occasion as an excuse to be immodest. When you dress immodestly, you send a message that is contrary to your identity as a son or daughter of God.You also send the message that you are using your body to get attention and approval. Immodest clothing is any clothing that is tight, sheer, or revealing in any other manner.Young women should avoid short shorts and short skirts, shirts that do not cover the stomach, and clothing that does not cover the shoulders or is low-cut in the front or the back.Young men should also maintain modesty in their appearance.Young men and young women should be neat and clean and avoid being extreme or inappropriately casual in clothing, hairstyle, and behavior. They should choose appropriately modest apparel when participating in sports. The fashions of the world will change, but the Lord’s standards will not change. Do not disfigure yourself with tattoos or body piercings.Young women, if you desire to have your ears pierced, wear only one pair of earrings. Show respect for the Lord and yourself by dressing appropriately for Church meetings and activities. This is especially important when attending sacrament services.Young men should dress with dignity when officiating in the ordinance of the sacrament. If you are not sure what is appropriate to wear, study the words of the prophets, pray for guidance, and ask your parents or leaders for help.Your dress and appearance now will help you prepare for the time when you will go to the temple to make sacred covenants with God. Ask yourself, “Would I feel comfortable with my appearance if I were in the Lord’s presence?” Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 22. Potential Issues? Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 23. TRUE MODESTY: self respect and respect for others through dress and appearance Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 24. Body Awareness & Respect Our bodies are a UNIQUE GIFT from our Heavenly Parents. • Nude Body: natural and unashamed • Self-Acceptance: know our abilities & limitations • Accept Others: recognize other’s abilities & limitations • Sexuality is one component to whole self • Personal Responsibility: not just a girl’s onus Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 25. Balance & Health BODY, MIND & SOUL connected and alert. • Eat healthy, balanced meals • Be active, exercise regularly • Nurture mind: arts, literature, conversations, relationships & more Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 26. Clothing the Body Not inherently MORAL or IMMORAL. • Clothing & Accessories are commodities • Constantly changing • Decoration • Protects us from the elements • Define & force gender roles • Clothing can signify power Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 27. Consumerism Preying on women and youth. Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 28. Self Expression An OUTWARD EXPRESSION of our inner self. • Emphasize or de-emphasize to Hide or Provoke • Fit and Comfort are foundations for expression • What we wear creates expectations often before we speak • Signifies our social or financial status • Allows us to Fit In or Stand Out Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 29. Group Expression An outward expression of our TRIBE. • Trends connect us socially & continually morph • Fashion a style accepted by the masses • Taste is being appropriate to the occasion • Rules can be good, without hard moral connection • Influenced by geography, culture, society & religion • Respecting diversity Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 30. Dressing Sexy Clothing CLOAKS THE BODY in mystery. • The nude body is only sexual in context • Clothing often provides the context for sexuality • Clothing can Attract and Seduce • Dressing & Undressing can be sexual • “Society” sexualizes body parts • Hiding body parts [“modesty”] can sexualize them • Effects of the nudity/clothing dialectic Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 31. Experimentation Clothing is a safe way to EXPLORE & EXPRESS. • Teenagers adopt & drop trends quickly • Clothing allows for group acceptance • A clothing faux pas is not a sin, and rarely serious! Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 32. Leadership & Support TRUE MODESTY is key to open communication. • Be supportive, not combative • Be positive resource and reinforcer • Stress “good fit” and “good taste” • Encourage balance and health • One size does not fit all • Respect & Empathize ...it’s all about TRUE MODESTY! Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 33. DATING & RELATIONSHIPS developed by Jeremy Irvin & Kimberly McKay
  • 34. Current Version (2012): Dating A date is a planned activity that allows a young man and a young woman to get to know each other better. In cultures where dating is acceptable, it can help you learn and practice social skills, develop friendships, have wholesome fun, and eventually find an eternal companion. You should not date until you are at least 16 years old. When you begin dating, go with one or more additional couples. Avoid going on frequent dates with the same person. Developing serious relationships too early in life can limit the number of other people you meet and can perhaps lead to immorality. Invite your parents to become acquainted with those you date. Choose to date only those who have high moral standards and in whose company you can maintain your standards. Remember that a young man and a young woman on a date are responsible to protect each other’s honor and virtue. Plan dating activities that are safe, positive, and inexpensive and that will help you get to know each other. Go only to places where you can maintain your standards and remain close to the Spirit. Young men generally take the initiative in asking for and planning dates. Always be kind and respectful when you ask for a date or when you accept or decline one. While on a date, be courteous as you listen to others and express your own feelings. As you enter your adult years, make dating and marriage a high priority. Seek a companion who is worthy to go to the temple to be sealed to you for time and all eternity. Marrying in the temple and creating an eternal family are essential in God’s plan of happiness. Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 35. Positives? Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 36. Learning how to build and maintain Healthy Relationships is an important task of adolescence and young adulthood. Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 37. Building Healthy Relationships Building healthy relationships in adolescence is the foundation to a healthy adulthood. • And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another... (Ephesians 4:32) • Empathy: the ability to understand and share the feelings of another • Learn to Give your opinion and Express your feelings • Listen to and Respect others’ opinions and emotional expressions Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 38. Friendships Practicing the skills of healthy relationships through friendships. Youth should spend time with people who: are supportive and kind they feel good being with encourage learning and developing strengths they have fun with Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 39. Dating Relationships Practicing the skills of healthy relationships through dating. Dating Practice Social Skills Learn kindness & respect Have fun Appreciate differences & similarities Prepare for future Special Considerations: • LGBT youth should be encouraged to date • Youth of all intellectual and physical abilities should be encouraged to explore friendship and companionship to their comfort level Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 40. Problem with “Abstinence” as the Only Goal Collins & Carmody, 2011 Edward Jacob to Other to Bella Bella Physical Violence 16, 20% 8, 10% 56, 70% Secondary Violence 26, 19% 0 110, 80% Sexual Violence 3, 60% 2, 40% 0 Jealousy 17, 54.8% 12, 41.4% 2, 3.8% Stalking 11, 78.6% 1, 7.1% 2, 14.3% Male Aggression 81, 44.3% 43, 23.5% 59, 32.2% Controlling Behavior: 90, 75.6% 5, 4% 29, 24.4% Physical 24, 80% 4, 13.3% 2, 6.7% Verbal 31, 100% 0 0 Emotional 38, 65.5% 3, 5.2% 0 Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 41. LGBT Youth & Family Acceptance Caitlin Ryan, Family Acceptance Project, 2009 “When gay and transgender youth were accepted by their families, they were much more likely to believe they would have a good life and would be a happy, productive adult.” 100 Believe they 75 92% can be a Happy Adult 50 77% and have a Good Life 59% 25 35% 0 Extremely Accepting Very Accepting A Little Accepting Not at All Accepting Family Acceptance Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 42. Leadership & Support Model Healthy Relationships • Be positive model for healthy relationships include modeling the resolution of contention • Be supportive, not combative • Encourage the expression of wants & dislikes • Praise them when they are vulnerable within healthy boundaries • Don’t judge their choices in friendships • Encourage them to find relationships that bring them joy and self-confidence • Listen, Respect, & Empathize Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 43. Sexual Purity developed by Jeremy Irvin & Kimberly McKay
  • 44. Current Version (2012): Sexual Purity Physical intimacy between husband and wife is beautiful and sacred. It is ordained of God for the creation of children and for the expression of love between husband and wife. God has commanded that sexual intimacy be reserved for marriage. When you are sexually pure, you prepare yourself to make and keep sacred covenants in the temple.You prepare yourself to build a strong marriage and to bring children into the world as part of an eternal and loving family.You protect yourself from the spiritual and emotional damage that come from sharing sexual intimacy outside of marriage.You also protect yourself from harmful diseases. Remaining sexually pure helps you to be confident and truly happy and improves your ability to make good decisions now and in the future. The Lord’s standard regarding sexual purity is clear and unchanging. Do not have any sexual relations before marriage, and be completely faithful to your spouse after marriage. Do not allow the media, your peers, or others to persuade you that sexual intimacy before marriage is acceptable. It is not. In God’s sight, sexual sins are extremely serious. They defile the sacred power God has given us to create life. The prophet Alma taught that sexual sins are more serious than any other sins except murder or denying the Holy Ghost. Never do anything that could lead to sexual transgression. Treat others with respect, not as objects used to satisfy lustful and selfish desires. Before marriage, do not participate in passionate kissing, lie on top of another person, or touch the private, sacred parts of another person’s body, with or without clothing. Do not do anything else that arouses sexual feelings. Do not arouse those emotions in your own body. Pay attention to the promptings of the Spirit so that you can be clean and virtuous. The Spirit of the Lord will withdraw from one who is in sexual transgression. Avoid situations that invite increased temptation, such as late-night or overnight activities away from home or activities where there is a lack of adult supervision. Do not participate in discussions or any media that arouse sexual feelings. Do not participate in any type of pornography. The Spirit can help you know when you are at risk and give you the strength to remove yourself from the situation. Have faith in and be obedient to the righteous counsel of your parents and leaders. Homosexual and lesbian behavior is a serious sin. If you find yourself struggling with same-gender attraction or you are being persuaded to participate in inappropriate behavior, seek counsel from your parents and bishop. They will help you. Victims of sexual abuse are not guilty of sin and do not need to repent. If you have been a victim of abuse, know that you are innocent and that God loves you. Talk to your parents or another trusted adult, and seek your bishop’s counsel immediately. They can support you spiritually and assist you in getting the protection and help you need. The process of healing may take time. Trust in the Savior. He will heal you and give you peace. If you are tempted to commit any form of sexual transgression, seek help from your parents and bishop. Pray to your Father in Heaven, who will help you resist temptation and overcome inappropriate thoughts and feelings. If you have committed sexual transgression, talk to your bishop now and begin the process of repentance so that you can find peace and have the full companionship of the Spirit. Make a personal commitment to be sexually pure. By your words and actions, encourage others to do the same. Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 45. Potential Issues? Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 46. Sexual Purity Re-defining Purity • Pure Intent • Pure Compassion for self • Pure Empathy for others Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 47. Made in HIS (HER) Image Our bodies are designed after God’s own image • Bodies come in all shapes and sizes. They are perfect in their imperfections   • All physiological and anatomical responses and impulses are natural • Sexual desires and responses vary from person to person • Not all bodies respond the same way sexually • Sexual experiences should not be shameful but rather celebrated Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 48. Celebrating Sexual Expression Many of life’s greatest moments • Many major milestones in life EVOLVE around sexual expression • Our Heavenly Parents want you to be healthy • Normal sexual responses and desires mean the body is HEALTHY • Shame and guilt inhibit healthy functioning Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 49. Knowledge is Power Sex Education is important “For members of the Church, education is not merely a good idea --it’s a commandment” - Dieter F. Uchtdorf • While desire is inherent, knowledge is not • Everyone should have a working knowledge of how different bodies work • Comprehensive sex education decreases rate of sexual activity, the amount of partners, and pregnancy/STI rates among teens • Information around sex should never be shameful Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 50. Strengthening Sexual Relationships Sexual expressions can strengthen many types of romantic relationships • Sexual expression does not always involve another person • Individually exploring your capacity for sexual pleasure can ultimately help strengthen your future relationships • Healthy sexual interactions consist of: communication, honesty, empathy, and the hearing and expressing of needs • Intimate interactions may help a couple decide if they are a good match • Sexual relations can bring a couple closer together • Individuals must DISCUSS sex before having it Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 51. Clarifying Sexual Misconceptions Healthy sexual relationships take communication about expectations • Know what you want from a relationship before dating • The first time having sex should not be spontaneous • Couples should talk about sex before having it • First sexual experiences can be awkward • There is not one “right” way to have sex or intercourse • Sometimes sex is great, sometimes it is not • Everyone deserves to feel pleasure Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 52. The Truth About Pornography • What constitutes pornography is different for different people • Not all pornography is the same • Viewing pornography does not mean you are an addict • How can we help kids to seek out healthy sex-positive imagery? Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 53. Leadership & Support Supporting Healthy Sexuality • Provide knowledge and share personal values in a non-shaming way • Don’t ever compare any sexual expression to murder • Emphasize that context, intent, and consequences matter • Stress compassion for self and empathy the other • Encourage the understanding of your own body’s capacity for desire • Reinforce that our bodies are meant to experience joy and pleasure • Listen, Respect, & Empathize Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 54. Any Questions? Thank You Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 55. Addendum A Positive Approach to For the Strength of the Youth Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth
  • 56. Proposed Version: Dress & Appearance Your body is a gift from your Heavenly Parents.  Besides providing you a facility with amazing abilities to perform basic and even advanced tasks, your body provides a unique way to express yourself.  It becomes imperative then that you respect the needs and health of your own body as well as the bodies of others.   Bodies come in all shapes and sizes.  They are perfect in their imperfections.  First and foremost, we should be aware of our own body's needs, being careful to avoid comparing ourselves to others.  It is important to eat three healthy, balanced meals each day and to exercise regularly. Being healthy not only allows us to perform to our utmost ability, it helps us to feel our best and stay mentally alert.   Clothing is meant to protect our bodies from the elements, not to hide them in shame.  They also celebrate our body's best attributes as an outward expression of who we are.  As such, clothing signifies to those around us, who we are, often before we even speak.  This silent expression allows us to "fit in" with and "stand out" from those around us.  We should take care in what we wear, including hair styles, make-up and jewelry, ensuring that it is appropriate and in good taste for each situation, as well as cultural and societal expectations.  While a bathing suit is perfectly acceptable at a beach or pool, it is not appropriate attire for school or church!   It’s also important to be cognizant of your own body's shape and size.  Wearing clothes that fit well and are comfortable goes a long way in making you feel good about yourself, much more than being on top of the latest trends, sporting the hippest fads or wearing the "it" brands.  These come and go.  Just like the Savior taught by example, true modesty is being aware of others, showing empathy in every unique situation, so as not to leave others out.  Modesty begins with self-acceptance and humility and can be manifest through our outward appearances.   If clothing helps to express our best selves, it's only natural that clothing can be used as a way to attract others.  In fact, the sexual allure of clothing is often more powerful than the natural nude body itself.  Avoid using clothing to attract unwanted attention or to be provocative.  Attraction, even sexual attraction, is healthy and normal, but is only one part of the equation.  Keeping a balance between your inner and outer self will go a long way towards developing healthy, happy relationships.  This healthy balance shows respect for self and others and underlines the true meaning of modesty.   It's very normal as a teenager to change your clothing style or preferences often.  There will be good hair days and bad style days; it's part of finding your true self and becoming an adult.  If you are not sure what is appropriate to wear in any given situation, ask your parents or leaders for help. Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth Presentation at Sunstone Conference 2012 by Jeremy Irvin, Kimberly McKay, & Joshua Williams
  • 57. Proposed Version: Dating & Relationships One of your important jobs during your teenage years is to support your sense of self. Part of doing this is to meet and build relationships with different people through school, friends, work, church, and family. A date is a planned activity that allows two people to get to know each other better. It can help you learn and practice social skills, develop friendships, have fun, and learn what qualities you eventually want in a committed partnership. Don’t feel pressure to start dating until you feel ready. When you begin dating, go with one or more additional couples. Invite your parents (or trusted adults) to become acquainted with those you date. Spend time with those who you feel good being with. Plan dating activities that are safe, positive, and inexpensive and that will help you get to know each other. If you ever feel uncomfortable or unsafe in a dating relationship, talk with a trusted adult immediately. Always be kind and respectful when you ask for a date or when you accept or decline one. While on a date, be courteous as you listen to others and express your own feelings. As you enter your adult years, seek a companion who you enjoy spending time with and who encourages your continual learning. It is also important to nurture relationships that share and celebrate common values. The Internet is a wonderful tool for education, social supports, and meeting new people. Just as with in-person relationships, your online relationships should be respectful and kind. If you witness anyone being bullied online, it is very important that you tell a trusted adult. Use the Internet wisely. Never share your personal information (your last name, address, parent’s workplace, birthdate) online. If you choose to meet an online friend in-person, make sure your first meeting is in a public space and bring along a trusted person. Learning how to build and maintain healthy relationships involves empathy (the ability to understand and share the feelings of another) and communicating your own needs and desires in a respectful manner. Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth Presentation at Sunstone Conference 2012 by Jeremy Irvin, Kimberly McKay, & Joshua Williams
  • 58. Proposed Version: Sexual Purity Your body is an uniquely inspired gift given to you by your Heavenly Parents with the capacity to experience pleasure and joy that is also unique to you.  Sexual pleasure is one way we are given to experience joy in this life.  It is important to be aware of the physical and emotional desires we feel and recognize them as both natural and powerful.  Developing and nurturing healthy sexual relationships is also natural, and if approached and shared thoughtfully will enhance your ability to feel pleasure and joy.  However, be wary, as not all pleasure brings joy.  Sexuality can also cause pain and suffering if misused or experienced in excess.   Self discovery and stimulation is a natural, healthy way for you to explore your body’s natural ability to experience desire and pleasure.  It can also help you become aware of what causes displeasure.  Be careful that such activities do not inhibit your day-to-day functioning.  Try and avoid adult material that depicts individuals being treated in a way that you would not want to be treated.  Seek out positive depictions of loving couples that treat each other in an empathetic way that you would one day want to be treated.  Also, be careful to not become dependent on any one type of sexual depiction, as it may inform and even inhibit future sexual experiences and relationships. Sexual relationships can provide some of the most amazing moments of your life, emotional and physical, as well as the most difficult and frustrating.   Just like any other decision you make, sexuality involves decisions and consequences that can affect you and others, negative and positive.  Negative consequences include unwanted pregnancies, sexually transmitted infections, abusive relationships and emotional depression.   Positive consequences include healthy, loving relationships, emotional and physical support, marriages and children.   Seek out positive experiences.   As such, you have a right to feel safe and to decide if and when you will engage in sexual activities alone or with another person. Consider your intent before entering into any sexual experience and ask yourself “how do I think I will feel after this experience is over?”  Be sure to discuss this with whomever is part of your sexual experience.  This is true sexual purity that is founded upon open communication, honesty and empathy for others.  Your first sexual experience with another person should never be spontaneous, but carefully considered and planned.  Oftentimes, this initial conversation can be scary, but it is an important step to establish intimacy and trust.  If you feel like you are not ready to have an open conversation with your partner about sex, then you are most likely not ready to have a sexual experience with that person.  Not being ready is normal and it's always best to wait until you are ready.  You should never feel like sexual experiences are the end goal of any relationship; sexual desire and sex itself are only one aspect of what it means to be in a loving relationship.  Move at your own pace.  Do not feel like there is a timeline that you must follow in a relationship.  Almost all romantic relationships follow a natural progression, which will help you decide when the time is right for you and your partner.  It is only through the progression of this natural relationship that each experience can be truly enjoyed and celebrated, which is what our Heavenly Parents want for you.  If you are embarrassed about a specific behavior, that is your body’s way of telling you that you may not be ready. This is natural and you should not feel shame because of it.  Use this as an opportunity to seek out guidance from a trusted adult.  The way that you will discover and experience sexuality will continually change as you learn and grow.  Be aware of these changes and don't be afraid to ask questions or seek advice.  Most importantly, be sure to continually communicate, open and honestly with your sexual partner to ensure that sexual pleasure leads to joy.  "...[wo]Men are, that they might have joy."  (2 Nephi 2:25). Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth Presentation at Sunstone Conference 2012 by Jeremy Irvin, Kimberly McKay, & Joshua Williams
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  • 60. Parental Resources Advocates for Youth, http://www.advocatesforyouth.org Affirmation Gay and Lesbian Mormons. http://www.affirmation.org/ Answer, Sex Etc. http://www.sexetc.org; http://answer.rutgers.edu/page/sexetc_website/ (sex education for teens written by teens) Family Acceptance Project, Supportive Families, Healthy Children: Helping families with lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender children. Latter-day Saint Version, http://familyproject.sfsu.edu/publications Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, http://community.pflag.org Planned Parenthood, Tools for Parents, http://www.plannedparenthood.org/parents/ Sexperience, http://www.sexperienceuk.channel4.com/ Sexual Information and Education Council of the United States, http://www.siecus.org/ Talk With Your Kids, California Health Council, Inc, http://www.talkwithyourkids.org/pages/ Teaching Sexual Health, http://www.teachingsexualhealth.ca/ Teaching Tolerance, http://www.tolerance.org/ Current Issue: When Teen Dating Becomes Abusive, http://cdna.splcenter.org/sites/default/files/ tolerance/ TT41.pdf There is No Place Like Home for Sex Education, http://www.noplacelikehome.org/ Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth Presentation at Sunstone Conference 2012 by Jeremy Irvin, Kimberly McKay, & Joshua Williams
  • 61. Contact Information Jeremy Irvin, jeremyirvin.widener@gmail.com Kimberly McKay, kimberlymckaywidener@gmail.com Joshua Williams, fashionconsort@gmail.com Healthy Youth Sexuality: A Critical Examination of For the Strength of the Youth

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