Being seen and accepted for who we are is a basic need that specially plays out in our relationship. I find that the driver behind most conflict and dissatisfaction in relationships has to do with the partners feeling they can’t be themselves in one way or another. Keep reading for how this impacts your relationship and how to create a system to prevent pitfalls and assist you create the relationship you want: http://www.metrorelationship.com/SuccessfulCouples/2014/02/do-you-have-the-system-yet/ Contact us if you need assistance creating the relationship you want! 212-537-9055 Copyright (c) 2014 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.

1. RELATIONSHIP INSIGHT:
Do You Have the System to Meet Both of Your Needs Yet?
Being seen and accepted for who we are is a basic need that
specially plays out in our relationship. I find that the driver
behind most conflict and dissatisfaction in relationships has
to do with the partners feeling they can't be themselves in
one way or another.

2. When partners judge, criticize, control, demean, sabotage and
other goodies they prevent each other from embracing their
awesomeness, their Legacy, and from (identifying and) fulfilling
their Life's Purpose.
Therefore, there is incongruency for partners between their
experience in the relationship and their sense of Self.

3. Here is where the balance between security and identify needs
comes in. There usually is a gender manifestation around this where
the women (more female energied partner) champion for we-ness
and togetherness and the men (more male energied partner)
champion for individuality and space.

4. The approach to bridge these seemingly opposing needs is to
set up a system that supports and encourages both: Staying
connected to our partner while taking time for our Self and our
pursuits, or doing things our way…

5. Read the complete article for instructions on setting up your
system to support balancing we-ness and individuality in your
relationship:
http://www.metrorelationship.com/SuccessfulCouples/2014/02/d
o-you-have-the-system-yet/
Employ a Groundhog Day approach to your system - keep striving for
a masterpiece system with the knowledge that it's a work in progress
and perfection doesn't exsist. Happy Groundhoging!
Copyright (c) 2014 Emma K. Viglucci. All rights reserved.

6. Emma K. Viglucci is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan
Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that
specializes in working with couples, is the creator of the
MetroRelationship™ philosophy and a variety of Successful
Couples ™ programs and products that assist couples succeed
at their relationship and life. To get your downloadable
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resources visit: www.metrorelationship.com.