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2. WATCH WHAT YOU SAY;
your words have influence.
Women’s Relationship Series - Session #4

3. Last Week
We considered how we thought, our process of
thinking
How so many negative thoughts enter our mind
How negative thoughts influence our actions

4. What we say
Let no corrupt communication proceed
out of your mouth, but that which is good
to the use of edifying, that it may minister
grace unto hearers
Ephesians 4:29 (KJV)

5. What we say
Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul
or dirty come out of your mouth. Say only
what helps, each word a gift.
Ephesians 4:29 (Message Bible)

7. WHAT YOU SAY TO
YOURSELF

8. From the same mouth come [both]
blessings and curses.
James 3:10 (NASB)

9. You make me sick!

10. Dirty

11. Dirty
Raped or molested
STD like herpes or HIV
Your self-talk may be filled with guilt or shame.

12. Confirmation Bias
Actively seek things that confirm our thoughts,
decisions, or beliefs
We attempt to avoid things that will disconfirm our
thoughts, decisions, or beliefs

13. Negative Self-Talk Examples

15. Negative Self-Talk
Comments
Nothing ever goes right for me
I can’t remember names
I just know it won’t work
I don’t have talent
I can never afford things I want
You can’t trust anyone anymore

16. Session Exercise
Part 1
1. Write down 3 negative self-talk statements
(statements no longer than ten words each)
2.Turn your card over blank side up
3.Pass them all the way to your left to the FTBM
staff

17. Session Exercise
Part 2
1. Read the negative self-talk
statements on the card
2.Respond on the blank side, as
if you are in the position of
God
3.Responding to the little girl
on screen who had these
negative self-talk statements
about herself

18. Steps to Stopping Negative
Self-Talk
1. Identify the damaging things you say about yourself
2. Challenge negative statements when they come up
3. Understand and challenge the confirmation bias
4. Practice self-affirmation

19. Homework
Write Romans 8:37 on a sticky note and post it where you
can see it first thing in the morning for 3 weeks
Say Romans 8:37 out loud every morning to you about you
Take one of your favorite pictures of yourself and put that
near the scripture
Write down one of the positive responses that you heard
tonight or that God has placed in your heart
Say the positive response to your picture daily and
throughout the day

20. Homework Example
Negative:
“If I only had more money”
Positive:
“God provides more than
enough money for me and
my family. We live
abundantly in his overflow.”