2. • This is the habit of creating effective interpersonal
leadership.
• In order to manage our relationships with others
properly we need to think win-win.
• The best option really depends on what situation you
are in at the time, what you want to achieve, and
what the other person wants to achieve.
• If you value a relationship, you may option for Win
and lose in order to keep the peace.
3. WIN-LOSE —
THE TOTEM POLE SYNDROME
• Win-Lose is competitive, and full of pride.
• Relationships, friendships, and loyalty are all
secondary to winning the game, being the best, and
having it your way
• Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only
out of having more of it than the next man.
4. A Win-Lose attitude includes:
• Using other people for your own selfish purposes.
• Putting someone else down builds you up.
• Getting your way out without concerning yourself with
the feelings of others.
• Becoming jealous when something good happens to
someone close to you.
5. LOSE-WIN—THE DOORMAT
• Lose-Win is weak. It’s easy to get stepped on.
• With a Lose-Win attitude you’ll find yourself
setting low expectations and compromising your
standards again and again.
• You’ll also be hiding your true feelings deep
inside.
6. LOSE -LOSE —
THE DOWNWARD SPIRAL
• Lose-Lose says, “If I’m going down, then you’re going
down with me, sucker.”
• War is a great example of Lose-Lose. It doesn’t sound
like anyone ends up winning at all.
• Revenge is also Lose-Lose. By getting revenge, you
may think you’re winning, but you’re really only
hurting yourself.
7. • Lose-Lose is usually what happens when two
Win-Lose people get together.
• Lose-Lose can also occur when someone
becomes obsessed with another person in a
negative way.
8.
9. WIN -WIN —THE ALL YOU
CAN EAT BUFFET
• Win-Win is a belief that everyone can win.
• I won’t step on you, but I won’t be your doormat either.
• You care about other people but you also care about
yourself.
• Win-Win is abundant. It is the belief that there’s plenty
of success to go around. An endless buffet.
• Wanting another to win fills you full of good feelings.
10. • Examples of the Win-Win attitude:
• You recently got a promotion at the workplace so
you share the praise and recognition with all of
those who helped
• You were just elected to an important school office
but you treat everyone the same
• Your best friend got accepted at the college you
wanted to get into. You didn’t make it. But you are
happy for your friend.
11. HOW TO THINK WIN-WIN
WIN THE PRIVATE VICTORY FIRST
• It's all begin with you
• As you makes deposits into your PBA, takes
responsibility for his life, and gets a plan in place, the
confidence and security will increase and you will start
enjoying other people
• Personal security is the foundation for thinking Win-
Win.
12. AVOID THE TUMOR TWIN
• There are two habits that can slowly eat you
away from the inside : competing and
comparing.
13. Competing
• It drives us to improve, to reach and stretch.
• Without it, we would never know how far we could
push ourselves.
• Competition is healthy when you compete against
yourself, or when it challenges you to reach and stretch
and become your best.
14. • Competition becomes dark when you tie your
self-worth into winning or when you use it as a
way to place yourself above another
• When competition is used as a means of creating
a self-image relative to others, the worst in a
person comes out.
15. Comparing
• We’re different in Socially, mentally, and physically
• Life is like a great obstacle course.
• Each person has their own course, separated from every
their course by tall walls.
• Your course comes complete with customized obstacles
designed specifically for your personal growth.
16. • Building your life based on how you stack up
compared to others is never good footing.
• The only good comparison is comparing yourself
against your own potential.
17. FRUITS OF WIN-WIN SPIRIT
• Win/Win – Mutually beneficial and co-operative. All
parties come out on top
• Win/Lose – “If I win, you lose.” This is very
authoritarian in style and can be seen as overaly
competitive. It’ a win at all costs mentality which is
usually instilled from childhood.
• Lose/Win – “If I lose, you win.” This is usually the
attitude of people who want to keep the peace and not
upset.
18. • Lose/Lose – This happens when two Win/Lose
people clash.
• Win – Don’t really want anyone to lose they just
want everyone to come out on top.
• Win/WIn or No Deal – if a mutally beneficial
outcome cannot be reached, then you know it’s
okay to walk away with no hard feelings
19. • So character builds relationships.
• Developing a Win/Win performance agreement is the
central activity of management.
• Win and Lose cause everyone loses faith and the
system collapses.
• If you put good people into a bad system you get bad
results, the whole path to a Win and Win situation is
built from the ground up on the 5 dimensions, you
can’t ignore one and hope the others.
20. WHAT YOU FEEL?
• We learned that it’s not what I want from a situation,
it’s more about what others want.
• We can never reach a mutually but to accept the
solution.
• Sometimes it can makes you hurts so much about the
thing you didn't even make it, but other put on more
guilt about the thing that can be hurts you.
• Don't afraid of it, sometimes may be it'll challenge you.
21. “Sometimes it can makes you hurts so much
about the thing you didn't even make it, but
other put on more guilt about the thing that
can be hurts you, you don't have to be afraid of
it, sometimes you can even stay away from that
situation if that makes you get hurt.”