1. Changes in last 40 years, according to Dr. Kimmel Gender matters Work place changes Family and workplace balance Sexuality

2. men

3. OR

10. Times have changed Expectations have changed

11. REALLY?

13. Men still adhere to 4 basic rules No sissy stuff Be a big wheel Be a sturdy oak Give ‘em hell

14. Bring the sexes together Female area 1 Gender- no problem for us Inherent privilege (Like racial issues) Female area 2 Workplace hostile? Not really –we had “entitlement” Female area 3 Men train to be oaks, ill equipped for family commitment Female area 4 Sexuality: give ‘em hell is not very “sexy”

15. Female area 3(work and family balance) men’s tasks have not aided Taking out garbage (weekly task)-----men Snow clearing (weekly task)------men Bed making ( daily) you guess! Cleaning (daily) you guess! Cooking ………..mostly women

16. Sexuality:area 4 men women Men: sex may be a compete issue and aggressive affection dominance equality Shirk sexual responsibility Pregnancy, reputation Risk Spontaneous and promiscuous Comfort and safety Meaningful??

18. Biology: some differences between same sex members are >than between sexes Aggression: due to relative Testosterone levels not an absolute variation Physical strength : same Society overemphasizes femininity (accommodating, compliant, submissive and unequal) Math vs. Verbal Ability: evolutionary theory

19. Brain Differences Limbic system more developed in male Speed and response Connecting fibers between hemispheres Larger in females Male develops slower than female Certain brain areas vary between sexes Sexually Dimorphic Nucleus =larger in male

20. Male brain

21. And………..

22. Variations Lead to male action orientation, lateralization,immaturity and ? Language use

25. Intimacy among men Competition-do not share vulnerability Men do action oriented activity for bonding. In control ( a male need) Homophobia ( limits affection) Poor social skills for intimacy Side to side intimacy & not face to face Friendships shrink with age  loneliness

26. Intimacy with women Friend ship with women should be not only sexual Sex becomes loveless and novelty oriented Spreading of genes: contraception,internet,adult films dehumanize sex Non relational sex

27. Male Female Explicit non attached relationship Phallocentric whole being Double standard Fantasy Promiscuous less so

28. Perhaps evolutionary demands lead to men forming separate identity Separate from mom Independent Strong Not affectionate Not dependent

29. We are sexy bitches