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1. Dealing With Divorce EDEE 606: Awareness Presentation Beth Thornburg Melanie Kiernicki Matthew Carrington Sarah Propst

4. Aggression

5. Frustration

6. Despondency/Sadness

7. Demand for attention

8. Guilt

9. Fear/Worry

10. Withdrawal

11. Overcompensation/Need for Achievement

12. Responsibility*Children cope in different ways and need various levels & types of support

15. Understand what is happening within their family

16. Understand the role they play in affecting arrangements and relationships in the family

18. Older students benefit from the opportunity to discuss their feelings

20. Obtaining Assistance: Who Can Help? Parents School counselors/psychologists Books and online resources: http://extension.missouri.edu/p/GH6611 teacher guide, activities in classroom, how to communicate with parents http://childrenanddivorce.bizland.com/rfep articles on guidelines, red flag behaviors, and how to work with others as a team to help students http://www.brainpopjr.com/health/relationships/divorce/grownups.weml lesson ideas for teaching about issues of divorce

25. Accommodations: Classroom and School Support Create a warm, but structured, school and classroom environment Clear limits and routines Atmosphere that welcomes all family types Include all adults that play a role in the child’s life Curriculum materials that portray different types of families positively Peer Mentors

26. Accommodations: What the Teacher Can Do Act as a role model Children’s behavior and play give clues to the the struggle within Make observations of the child’s attitude and behavior Provide a Supportive Role: Maintaining consistency and discipline Make children feel competent Listen to the child’s point of view Being an Advocate for the child Reach out to the parents Individualized Learning that integrates support Suggest professional guidance

27. Accommodations: What the Teacher Can Do Incorporate Activities that: Encourage understanding of different family types Help children communicate about their families Increase self-esteem Help children appropriate express their feelings Support positive parent-child relationships

28. Accommodations: Activities Drawing Pictures Many children have difficulty expressing their emotions in words Family, feelings, Genie Wish Conversation Starters Questions Letter Writing To one or both parents about how he/she feels about divorce Reading children’s books Relatable characters Writing Stories

29. Books for Dealing With Divorce, Separations, Loss, or Blended Families For Better, For Worse: A Guide to Surviving Divorce for Preteens and Their Families, by Janet Bode and Stan Mack Dinosaurs Divorce: A Guide for Changing Families, by LaureneKrasny Brown and Marc Brown Mom’s House/Dad’s House for Kids, by Isolina Ricci A Smart Girl’s Guide to her Parent’s Divorce: How to Land on Your Feet When Your World Turns Upside Down, by Nancy Holyoke Walk Two Moons, by Sharon Creech Amber Brown: I, Amber Brown, by Paula Danziger Peak, by Roland Smith The Babysitter’s Club: Stacey’s Choice, by Ann M. Martin

30. Resources Bender, A. & Coleman, M. (2011). Children of divorce. Scholastic, Inc. Retrieved September 26, 2011 from http://www2.scholastic.com/browse/article.jsp?id=4424 Civitci, N., Civitci, A., and Fiyakali, N. C. (2009). Loneliness and life satisfaction in adolescents with divorced and non-divorced parents. Educational Sciences: Theory and Practice, 9(2), 513-525. (ERIC Document Reproduction Service No. EJ 847764) Courtney, A. (2005). Teaching relaxation skills in physical education. Teaching Elementary Physical Education, 16(3), 34-35. (ERIC Document Reproduction Service No. EJ 733993) Divorce and children: a collaboration of parents and teachers. Our Children (1999). Retrieved from: http://childrenanddivorce.bizland.com/rfep/id8.html Halpenny, A. M., Greene, S., & Hogan, D. (2008). Children’s perspectives on coping and support following parental separation. Child Care in Practice, 14(3), 311-325. (ERIC Document Reproduction Service No. EJ 811207) Haugen, G. M. D. (2010). Children’s perspectives on everyday experiences of shared residence: Time, emotions, and agency dilemmas. Children & Society, 24(2), 112-122. (ERIC Document Reproduction Service No. EJ 871852)

31. Resources KidsHealth. (2011). KidsHealth: Dealing with divorce. Nemours Foundation. Retrieved September 26, 2011 from http://kidshealth.org/kid/feeling/home_family/divorce.html Leigh, S., & Clark, J.A. (2000) Activities for helping children deal with divorce. University of Missouri Extension. MU Extension: Columbia, MO. Retrieved from: http://extension.missouri.edu/explorepdf/hesguide/humanrel/gh6602.pdf Leon, K., & Spengler, L. (2005). Helping children adjust to divorce: A guide for teachers. University of Missouri Extension. MU Extension: Columbia, MO. Retrieved from: http://extension.missouri.edu/p/GH6611 Lowe, D. F. (2009). Helping children cope through literature. Forum on Public Policy Online, 1, 1-17. Retrieved September 26, 2011 from http://forumonpublicpolicy.com/spring09papers/archivespr09/lowe.pdf

32. Resources Mayseless, O., Bartholomew, K., Henderson, A., & Trinke, S. (2004). “I was more her mom than she was mine:” Role reversal in a community sample. Family Relations, 53(1), 78-86. Retrieved September 26, 2011 from http://www.sfu.ca/psyc/faculty/bartholomew/otherpub_files/ofra.pdf Oesterreich, L. (1996). Divorce matters: Talking with your child’s other parent. Iowa State University Cooperative Extension. Retrieved September 26, 2011 from http://www.extension.iastate.edu/Publications/PM1640.pdf Wood, J. J., Repetti, R. L., & Roesch, S. C. (2004). Divorce and children’s adjustment problems at home and school: The role of depressive/withdrawn parenting. Child Psychiatry and Human Development, 35(2), 121-142. (ERIC Document Reproduction Service No. EJ 732179) What schools are doing to help children of divorce. Young Children: The Journal of the National Association for the Education of Young Children (2000). Retrieved from: http://childrenanddivorce.bizland.com/rfep/id1.html

33. Image Resources http://office.microsoft.com/en-us/images/ http://www.shutterstock.com/index-in.mhtml http://www.123rf.com/ http://www.google.com/search?q=divorce&hl=en&client=safari&rls=en&prmd=imvnslb&source=lnms&tbm=isch&ei=VQWJTu-2M9Sgtgeg76hB&sa=X&oi=mode_link&ct=mode&cd=2&ved=0CGMQ_AUoAQ&biw=1438&bih=683