1. Session 9: X3pure Men’s Series
Sobriety Sheets: Part II

2. Review

3. Review
Unwanted Sexual Behavior
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4. Review
Unwanted Sexual Behavior
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White-Knuckle Change Real Change
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Abstinence Understanding of Physiology
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Relapse Abstinence
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Acceptance of Conditional Love
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Pursuit of Unconditional Love

5. Review

6. Review
• Three Triggers

7. Review
• Three Triggers
- Sexual

8. Review
• Three Triggers
- Sexual
- Non-Sexual Environmental

9. Review
• Three Triggers
- Sexual
- Non-Sexual Environmental
- Non-Sexual Emotional

10. Review
• Three Triggers
- Sexual
- Non-Sexual Environmental
- Non-Sexual Emotional
• Remedy Actions

11. The Nature of Abstinence

12. The Nature of Abstinence
• Bad News: You will be triggered

13. The Nature of Abstinence
• Bad News: You will be triggered
• Good News: The longer you have been sober,
and the more you understand yourself and
what triggers lead you to act out sexually, the
easier remaining sober will be.

14. Escape Plan

15. Escape Plan
• Mental and Physical Reminders

16. Escape Plan
• Mental and Physical Reminders
- Remember, when you are triggered, and dopamine is released to the
Prefrontal Cortex – the reasoning part of the brain – your ability to make
good decisions about your behavior begins to slow down.

17. Escape Plan
• Mental and Physical Reminders
- Remember, when you are triggered, and dopamine is released to the
Prefrontal Cortex – the reasoning part of the brain – your ability to make
good decisions about your behavior begins to slow down.
- The sooner you stop the flow of dopamine to your prefrontal context,
the easier it will be for you to maintain your sobriety.

18. Escape Plan
• Mental and Physical Reminders
- Remember, when you are triggered, and dopamine is released to the
Prefrontal Cortex – the reasoning part of the brain – your ability to make
good decisions about your behavior begins to slow down.
- The sooner you stop the flow of dopamine to your prefrontal context,
the easier it will be for you to maintain your sobriety.
- The sooner you stop your exposure to your trigger, or entertaining
sexual thoughts, the easier it will be to remain sober.

19. Mental and Physical Reminders

20. Mental and Physical Reminders
• Memorize bible verses

21. Mental and Physical Reminders
• Memorize bible verses
• List of what matters most

22. Mental and Physical Reminders
• Memorize bible verses
• List of what matters most
• Wrist rubber bands

23. Confession

24. Confession
• God

25. Confession
• God
• Accountability Partner

26. Focus on the “Yes”

27. Focus on the “Yes”
• Instead of focusing on the things that frustrate
you in life, or the things that tempt you, you
focus on the healthy things that bring you an
immense amount of pleasure, chief among
these is your God-given purpose.

28. Other Fun Activities

29. Other Fun Activities
• What are your passions? What do you love?

30. Other Fun Activities
• What are your passions? What do you love?
• James 4:14 “Why, you do not even know what
will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You
are a mist that appears for a little while and
then vanishes.”

31. Revisit & Update Trigger Lists

32. Revisit & Update Trigger Lists
• The key to discovering the peace and joy of
sobriety are your triggers

33. Revisit & Update Trigger Lists
• The key to discovering the peace and joy of
sobriety are your triggers
• Sobriety Sheets

34. Assignment

35. Assignment
• Start filling out “Escape Plan”