The secret to attracting, creating and sustaining an amazing relationship is actually not much of a secret at all and we’ll tell you what it is right now… Are you ready for it?

1. Sussie and Otto Collins
http://soulmatedance.com

2. The secret to attracting,
creating and sustaining an
amazing relationship is
actually not much of a secret
at all and we’ll tell you what
it is right now…
Are you ready for it?

3. Here are some examples of how to use a
thought flip and move from frustration to
exhilaration.

4. 1: “He doesn’t care” to….
“He seems distracted right now, but I
remember all of the times when he
has been attentive and loving to me.”
It hurts to feel ignored or as if what’s
important to you doesn’t matter to
your beloved. It’s far too easy to get
caught up in that hurt and to only see
the ways that your partner is
neglecting or dismissing you.
This thought flip allows you to
acknowledge what’s going on and
how you’re feeling now without
generalizing about your partner’s
behavior and negating what he (or
she) has said or done on other
occasions. When you acknowledge
that your partner isn’t always
distracted or insensitive, you are
more open to getting the attention
and validation you desire– from him,
from yourself or from another
support person in your life.

5. 2: “I’m so alone” to…
“I’m craving company right now.”
Feeling all alone can happen whether you’re single or in a committed relationship. It can
come up when your partner has emotionally shut you out and also when you’re closed down
because the moment feels too vulnerable or uncomfortable.
The mind has a tendency to take a lonely moment and turn it into some kind of statement or
judgment on your entire relationship or your whole life (and your future too). This thought
flip helps you shift out of feeling like a hopeless victim and into a place where you can really
listen to and honor your need for connection with another person– maybe your partner or a
friend.

6. 3: “She always has to be
right” to…
“I feel strongly about this and so does
she. Where do our ideas overlap?”
Of course, it’s not just women who are
accused of having to be “right,” but it
often is. When your partner seems to
be stubborn and rigid about what she
wants and how things “have” to be, it
IS frustrating and makes it difficult to
work through a disagreement
together.
When you keep telling yourself (and
maybe your friends too) that “She
always has to be right,” you are only
deepening the rigidity by reacting with
your own. This is the perfect time to
take a deep breath and go for a
thought flip. Think back to what your
partner has actually said– literally.
Really consider the position your
partner is sticking so intensely to and
find the places where you two actually
agree.

7. You don’t have to sacrifice what’s most important to you in order to regain
the peace, but you do have to loosen your own stubbornness and take a
step toward cooperation.
And it all starts when you shift your thoughts.

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http://soulmatedance.com