With today's technology, people are committing adultery by long distance.

1. AD U LTE R Y IN TH E H E AR T
Matthew 5:27-28
27 "You have heard that it was said to those
of old, 'You shall not commit adultery.' 28
But I say to you that whoever looks at a
woman to lust for her has already
committed adultery with her in his heart.

2. N oth ing G ood Ab ou t Ad u lte ry
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Name one good thing about adultery
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Marriage better?
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Happier children?
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Adultery – wrecks homes, destroys lives,
harms children, ruins reputations
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Today we are looking at the “almost” adultery –
adultery in the heart, mind and thought – but
not an actual act of fornication.

3. A p rob le m of th e h e art
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Without physically touching anyone else, it is
possible to commit adultery.
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Sexting (Texting sexual messages)
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Phone sex
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Pornography
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Posting suggestive photos on Facebook
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Sending sexual photos from your phone
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Using video phones (Skype)
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Ogling people of the opposite sex

4. A p rob le m of th e h e art
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Like many other sins – lust begins on the inside
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It will eventually work its way out
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This is a “heart” problem
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A powerful, very real problem

5. A G od ly m an falls
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Step #1 – He wasn't where 
2 Samuel 11:1 It
he was supposed to be.
happened in the
spring of the year, at
the time when kings
go out to battle, that
David sent Joab and
his servants with him,
and all Israel; and
they destroyed the
people of Ammon and
besieged Rabbah.
But David remained

6. A G od ly m an falls
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Step #1 – He wasn't where 
2 Samuel 11:2 Then
he was supposed to be.
it happened one
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Step #2 – He looked at evening that David
something he shouldn't have
seen. arose from his bed
and walked on the
roof of the king's
house. And from the
roof he saw a woman
bathing, and the
woman was very
beautiful to behold.

7. A G od ly m an falls
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Step #1 – He wasn't where 
2 Samuel 11:3 So
he was supposed to be.
David sent and
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Step #2 – He looked at inquired about the
something he shouldn't have
seen. woman. And
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Step #3 – He asked a someone said, "Is this
question he had no business not Bathsheba, the
asking. daughter of Eliam, the
wife of Uriah the
Hittite?"

8. A G od ly m an falls
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Step #1 – He wasn't where 
At first this sounds
he was supposed to be.
innocent
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Step #2 – He looked at
something he shouldn't have 
The lust is well
seen. hidden at this point
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Step #3 – He asked a
question he had no business
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Outwardly – David
asking. has done nothing
wrong

9. A G od ly m an falls
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Step #1 – He wasn't where 
2 Samuel 11:4a
he was supposed to be.
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Step #2 – He looked at
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Then David sent
something he shouldn't have messengers, and
seen. took her;
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Step #3 – He asked a 
I am alone. She is alone.
question he had no business
God wants me to be
asking.
happy.
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Step #4 – He sought
something that wasn't his to
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No one will ever know.
have. 
It is really her fault.

10. A G od ly m an falls
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Step #1 – He wasn't where 
2 Samuel 11:4b and she
he was supposed to be. came to him, and he lay
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Step #2 – He looked at with her, for she was
something he shouldn't have cleansed from her
seen. impurity; and she
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Step #3 – He asked a returned to her house
question he had no business
asking.
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James 1:15 Then, when
desire has conceived, it
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Step #4 – He sought gives birth to sin; and
something that wasn't his to
have. sin, when it is full-grown,
brings forth death.
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Step #5 – He did something
he never should have done.

11. th re e D e cis ions
• I must avoid lust producing situations
(1)This a personal choice – know your limits
(2)There is a line that you must not cross
(3)This means – TV shows I don't watch
– Psalm 101:3a I will set nothing wicked before my
eyes;
(5)Radio stations, movies, places, books, parties –
There are things I don't participate in.

12. th re e D e cis ions
• I must avoid lust producing situations
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1 Peter 4:3-4 3 For we have spent enough of
our past lifetime in doing the will of the
Gentiles--when we walked in lewdness, lusts,
drunkenness, revelries, drinking parties, and
abominable idolatries. 4 In regard to these,
they think it strange that you do not run with
them in the same flood of dissipation,
speaking evil of you.

13. Th re e D e cis ions
• I must avoid lust producing situations.
(2)I must avoid provoking lust in others
– Lasciviousness = Causing lust to be
produced in another (Galatians 5:19)
(2)Dress, wink, suggestive comments
(3)Sometimes we send out mixed messages

14. Th re e D e cis ions
• I must avoid lust producing situations.
(2)I must avoid provoking lust in others
(3)I must purposely choose purity
– Keep the ability to blush – Jeremiah 6:15a
Were they ashamed when they had committed
abomination? No! They were not at all
ashamed; Nor did they know how to blush.
– This decision must be made in ADVANCE.

15. Ad u lte ry
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Physical adultery is a sin.
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Spiritual adultery is a sin.
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Adultery in the heart is also a sin.
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Proverbs 4:23 Keep your heart
with all diligence, For out of it
spring the issues of life.
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How is your heart today?