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A LEARNING EXERCISE
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You will now see the ten most important personal needs
your direct reports feel and try to satisfy through work.
Which three, in your opinion,
are the most important?
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TEN HUMAN NEEDS SATISFIED AT
WORK
*KOVACH, 2011
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What direct
reports need
Good
salary
Job Security
Promotion
Good
working
conditions
Respectful
Correction
Appreciat
ion for
being and
doing
Empathy
support for
personal
challenges
Feeling part
of the
process and
team
Interesting
and
challenging
work
Company
Reliability
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KOVACH STUDIES (Rev. 2011)
1) An interesting and challenging job
2) Recognition/appreciation of who I am and what I do
3) Feeling part of the process and team
4) Feel job security
5) A good comparative salary
6) Promotions in the company
7) Good working conditions
8) Business reliability and honesty
9) Receive respectful correction
10) Support for my challenges and personal problems
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AFFIRMATION AND APPRECIATION
How much should we recognize and affirm our people and how much
should we correct their work? What is the ideal ratio?
People need to feel appreciated for them to fell good about
their work…and need to receive constructive feedback in
order to do well in their work.
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8X1
Research (Losada & Heaphy, 2004) have related
quantity and quality of recognition with individual
and team productivity.
These studies show that the most productive
people receive eight affirmative signs of recognition
(greetings, thanks, praises, etc.) for every time they
receive a correction.
AFIRMACIÓN CORRECCIÓN
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THE APPRECIATIVE MINDSET
Focuses much more on the positive aspects: strengths,
successes, future potential and abundance…than in the
negative aspects: weaknesses, failures, past errors and
deficiencies.
THE RESULT IS A 57% PRODUCTIVITY INCREASE
(Blanchard, 2012)
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HERIBERTO’S MULE
BUYS A MULE WORTH $1000 ON THE OPEN MARKET, FOR
ONLY $500,
SELLS IT TO HIS MOTHER-IN-LAW FOR $600,
BUYS IT BACK FOR $700 IN ORDER TO…
…RESELL IT TO A GRINGO FOR $800.
HOW MUCH
DID HE
MAKE OR LOSE?
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HOW DO WE ACTIVELY PERCEIVE?
EARS HEAR AND EYES SEE
WHAT THE MIND WANTS
TO HEAR AND SEE
Pay attention
.
Show you are
paying attention
Ask about unclear
meanings
Paraphrase & track
what you hear
Postpone judgment
without interrupting
Respond
properly
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THE RIGHT TOUCH
PHYSICAL CONTACT MUST BE APPROPRIATE NOT ONLY FOR YOU
BUT FOR THE OTHER PERSON AS WELL
The most primary and impacting communication, the
right touch, continues being one of the most important.
Used sincerely, spontaneously and culturally
appropriate, these gestures may be powerful
appreciation communicators.
A pat on the
back to
congratulate
A long
handshake
A fraternal
celebration
hug
A hand on
the
shoulder
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AFFIRMING & CORRECTING
Unconditionally
Affirmative
“You’re very …”
♥
Conditionally
Affirmative
“You’re doing
well…”
Unconditionally
Corrective
“You are a
%X$&*!”
Conditionally
Corrective
“You can do
better…”
BEING AND DOING
POSITIVE
AND
NEGATIVE
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THE “WARM FUZZY”
REMEMBER THAT A “WARM FUZZY” IS ONLY EFFECTIVE
WHEN SINCERE, TIMELY AND SPECIFIC.
The maximum positive psychological impact is the result of
recognizing what is done (positive specific behavior),
combined with one of being (underlying personal quality),
in a timely, sincere and frequent way.
Colloquially, we call these affirmations:
“WARM FUZZIES”
“Ana, you are a very
professional Assistant.
I appreciate your
dedication to prepare my
monthly reports
accurately and on time”
“Mario, you inspire
everyone with your
enthusiasm and passion in
your conversations with
supervisors. You are an
excellent leader!”
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APPRECIATIVE QUESTIONS
”Changing the approach towards appreciation
allows us leaders to form networks of
conversations based on new emerging possibilities
and not just correcting past errors.”
(Brown & Isaacs, 1996)
• Considering all your achievements this past year, what
are you most proud of?
• What did you do especially well to achievement it?
• What special quality of yours made it possible?
• What do you most want to do even better in next year’s
performance?
• Which of your talents or qualities will facilitate this?
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NON-MANDATORY OPTION
Stories about other
people that have been
successful in similar
situations
The Case
of Others
Personal errors and
lessons learned
In other work or
professional situations
Personal
Experience
Stories or parallel
situations in other life
areas
Metaphors
Resort to past success
stories and positive
traditions in the
organization
Organiza-
tional
Legends
OPTIONALITY IS
THE COMMON
DENOMINATOR
ADVICE & DIRECT ORDERS
ARE USUALLY NOT AS EFFECTIVE AS:
Personal
Errors
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EXPRESSION OF GRATITUDE
“Gratitude gives meaning to our past,
brings peace to our present and
creates a vision for our future.”
- Melody Beattie
“Gratitude is not only the
greatest of all virtues, but is
also the mother of the rest.”
- Cicero
Gratitude ….is a
fundamental act of
regenerating meaning and of
reconciling us with our past,
present and future
existence.”
- Dr. Rafael Echeverría
♥
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PERSONALIZED GIFT
The spontaneous giving or a small, thoughtful gift is
especially appreciated and has a great positive impact:
Something
to have
with your
coffee
A magazine
or
interesting
book
THE MONETARY VALUE IS INSIGNIFICANT;
THE EMOTIONAL VALUE IS EVERYTHING
A travel
souvenir
A DVD the
person
likes
Tickets
for an
event
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HELPFUL INITIATIVE
Another way of showing appreciation is assuming the initiative of
being helpful during the conversation:
• Offer counterpart something to drink and/or eat
• Phone to offer going to your direct report’s office when needing to
speak
• Ask for permission before “helping”, “advising” or giving feedback
• Stay a while to accompany or support direct reports that stay
overtime to complete urgent work
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SHOW VULNERABILITY
• THEY ASK FOR FEEDBACK sincerely and accept it well
• SHARE THEIR FEELINGS even those not “convenient”
for their image
• THEY RECOGNIZE THEIR ERRORS both publically and
privately
• THEY EXCUSE THEMSELVES OR ASK FORGIVENESS
after recognizing their error
• THEY ASK FOR HELP when needed or convenient
VULNERABILITY IS THE ABILITY AND DISPOSITION TO
RECOGNIZE AND SHARE OUR IMPERFECTIONS….
THAT WHICH MAKES US HUMAN.
Successful leaders show their when:
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EXERCISE IN PAIRS
OUR VULNERABILITY
• How much do I show my vulnerability in my day-to-
day work?
• What within me impedes me from doing so?
• How can I start sharing my vulnerability and
encourage others to do so?
• What will be the outcome of doing so?