I was first introduced to the concept of Positive Influencing on a leadership course many years ago and I have tried to apply it ever since. The principle is simple but very effective. If the definition of influencing could be described as "affecting or changing the way that someone acts, behaves or thinks", Positive Influencing adds the caveat "...where both parties are happy with the outcome." If you enter into a conversation thinking purely about achieving a pre-determined, one-sided outcome, you may succeed but it will probably end up being a Pyrrhic victory. You may achieve a quick win but if one party is unhappy, it's unlikely to be the start of a successful, long term relationship. The objective is to achieve a win-win where both parties view the end result as positive. There are two main ways to influence people - using push (active) or pull (passive) behaviour. I've summarised these approaches and their pros and cons on a couple of slides - I hope you find them useful. Using the right techniques to positively influence people will definitely open doors for you. Please check out my full article on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/positive-influencing-pull-other-one-jon-stephenson