Are you looking for companionship and to move on with your life, but still stuck in guilt, fear or other negative emotions as part of your mourning? Read this article and gtet some answers to your questions.

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Relationships: Dealing With The Death Of A Partner
By Elsabe Smit, Author of
It’s Over! Move On And Feel Good About Yourself
When a person dies we go through the stages of grieving. What is that grief, and what
are we sad about?
Assume that we do believe in eternal life. That means when a person dies, they leave
their body behind and continue to live in a different form – a form that some of us
recognize as the person’s ethereal body. This happens because we are energy, and
energy cannot be destroyed.
If the person continues to exist, but only in a different form, why do we get so sad
about somebody dying? What exactly is it that we lose?
Death reminds us of our own mortality, and when we have unfinished business here,
we feel pressure to get on with our own business. If we do not understand that we
have all the time that is required to fulfill our purpose here, we will be sad.
Death also means that we will experience our relationship with the deceased person in
a different way. We will no longer be able to talk to the person (or ignore the person if
that is what we did when they were still alive). Thoughts of that person will fill our
minds. Sometimes we will have loving conversations with the person, and at other
times we will have nightmares about the person.
People come to this earth and inhabit their bodies because they have a purpose. They
have specific lessons to learn, and to teach to others. All of us are here to learn and to
teach.
When we no longer have anything to learn, the time comes when we leave our bodies
behind. We can still continue to teach others even after we had left our bodies. We do
that by means of those conversations in our minds.
Once a person has left their body behind, they are in a state of Love, regardless of the
nature of the earthly lives they had lived. That is why we have such loving experiences
with our deceased loved ones.
But what if we have these nightmares and fears that continue after the person has
passed on? If we do not understand this change, namely that the deceased person is
in a state of Love, we continue to hold on to our own fears until we are able to resolve
them.
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Grieving is also about loss. We believe that once a person has passed on, we have lost
everything we had with that person. We believe that we have lost a loving look,
memories of good times together, and all the other things we wanted to hold on to.
This might sound strange, but death is not about loss, because we never lose anything.
The Universe is in complete balance. We keep everything for ever, and we need to find
those things elsewhere. For example, after many years of marriage you lose the
companionship of a loving partner. At the same time a friend supports you and a rich
friendship takes the place of that companionship. Or you become more spiritually
aware and continue the relationship with your partner, but in a spiritual way.
If death is not about loss, what is it about? Death is about re-assessing what we have,
and about finding the balance again in a perfect Universe. The balance is there. When
a person departs, we temporarily forget about the balance. We cry because we
experience a sense of loss. Over time we regain our balance and we understand that
we have lost nothing.
This applies to all losses and all grieving. Do you grieve about the loss of a friend? Did
you as a result of the loss of the friendship gain new friends, which restored the
balance? Do you grieve about the loss of a child? Have you, as a result of that, found
other people to care for, maybe people who also lost children?
But some of you say no, this is not true for me. I have felt the pain of that loss and it
will remain with me forever. That is your choice. If you want to spend the rest of your
life here cherishing the loss, you can do that. If you want to find out how the balance
in your life has been restored, it will become clear to you very quickly.
When you are able and willing to understand what it is that you have lost and gained,
you can move on and find that inner peace. When you choose to define yourself for
the rest of your life in terms of your loss, the rest of your life will be off balance. The
world will move on regardless of how you define yourself, and you are part of the
world. Do you really want to live the rest of your life mourning something that you
have not lost?
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If you want to keep the loving memories of your partner but also yearn for
companionship and want to move on without any guilt, click on the link below to invest
in the e-book
It’s Over! Move On And Feel Good About Yourself.
By Elsabe Smit, The Intuition Coach
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