Mr. David Vilakazi's document discusses bullying from multiple perspectives. It provides advice for parents if their child is bullying others, such as explaining bullying is wrong, understanding why the child acts that way, and creating a behavior plan with consequences. It also discusses the importance of empathy, how it is key to relationships and allows one to understand other people's feelings. The document contrasts bullying with peer conflicts and provides references on research about bullying.

1. Mr DAVID VILAKAZI
Objectives
What if my child is a BULLY?
Importance of EMPATHY
BULLYING vs. Peer Conflicts

2. What if my Child is a BULLY?
• Explain to your child that is wrong to hurt others
• Make sure aggressive behavior are recognized
• Try to understand why are they behaving this way
• Work with the school to develop a behavior plan that outlines the
consequences for your Childs behavior both at school and as well at home
• Discuss the long term impacts of bullying

3. The Importance of Empathy
• It is the ability to understand how another person feels and to care about it,
to walk in another's shoes.
• It’s a foundation for acting ethically, for good relationships of many kinds,
for loving well, and for professional success.
• Children learn empathy both from watching us and from experiencing our
empathy for them. When we empathize with our children they develop
trusting, secure attachments with us.
• It is the core, the most important of all human traits; without empathy you
cannot really have meaningful relationship.

4. Empathy is the cornerstone of establishing and
maintaining successful relationship

5. Bullying vs. Peer Conflicts

6. References
• Beaty LA, Alexeyev EB (2008). The problem of school bullies: What the
research tells us.
• Lyznicki J, et al. (2004). Childhood bullying: Implications for physicians.
American Family Physicians, 70(9): 1723–1728
• Vanderbilt D (2011). Bullying. In M Augustyn et al., eds., The Zuckerman
Parker Handbook of Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics for Primary
Care, 3rd ed., pp. 160–163. Philadelphia: Lippincott Williams and Wilkins.