Marianne Murphy, Director of Operations, Floor Coverings International presented "The Power of Connecting" at FranCamp.
The ideal social network is right under your nose! Marianne shared tips on how to take advantage of the opportunities in connecting via various networking events, IFA organizations and associations. She introduced the audience to the term "friennections" and provided tips on networking and building relationships.
9. You Create Your World!
• Sphere of influence
– Who do you influence?
– Who influences you?
• Who are your ambassadors?
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10. Truly Enjoy the Process
• People will do business with those they
know, like and trust. - Dale Carnegie
1936
• Be Sincerely Interested
– Be “Enchanted” by other’s stories
– Tell your story - be “Enchanting”
– “I’m having a great life”
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11. Build it before you need it!
• Six degrees
– To others – Who do you need to connect
with?
– To you – Who needs to connect with you?
• No one goes it alone!
• Raise your EQ!
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12. Where to Build Connections
• Conferences/Conventions
– FranCamp!
– International Franchise Association Annual
Conference
• Networking Events
• Community Events
• Charitable Causes
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14. Technology Makes it Easy to
Plan Ahead
• “Friennections”
• Where in the world…
– Seek out others
– Never Eat Alone!
• Bring People Together
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16. Why Connect?
• Mentee
– So you can learn
• Mentor
– So you can teach
• Mensch
– We should give as we would receive; cheerfully,
quickly, and without hesitation; for there is no grace
in a benefit that sticks to the fingers. - Seneca
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18. Connection Classics
• How to Win Friends and Influence
People – Dale Carnegie
• Never Eat Alone – Keith Ferrazzi
• Enchantment – Guy Kawasaki
• The Leader as a Mensch – Become the
Kind of Person Others Want to
Follow - Bruna Martinuzzi
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I took a look at some very powerful people – people who had to be pretty well connected to have succeeded. I wanted to see what we all had in common I have a lot in common with each and every one of these people. Like them I was once the youngest in my family- the baby – the favorite. It didn’t last – eventually I became the middle child – just like them! It is said that Middle Children have a special power! There is even a special day for middle children (First kids don’t have that – neither do last kids!) middle children — in large part because of family placement — are often great negotiators, even peacemakers, who learn at an early age how to bring disparate forces (siblings) together. As families grow smaller, the article went on to say, we risk losing middle children and all the important social skills they offer to both public and private life. The Secret Power of Middle Children, by Catherine Salmon and Katrin Schumann (Hudson Street Press, pub date Aug. 2011), takes a similar stance, arguing that middle children often have stronger friendships, lasting marriages, successful careers and strong parenting skills. August 12 th is middle child day So I looked further – could this be why I was so interested in connecting with people?
So I had to get rid of my Middle Child theory and focus on what made connecting so fun!
What makes a good connector? My favorite page to turn to in the inflight magazine! The possibilities are endless – ALL THESE PLACES TO GO and 7 BILLION PEOPLE TO MEET! Where do you start?
November 2006 Flight to New Orleans You Never know where your influencers are going to come from Who do you know – who do they know
“ If you are from…You must know…” Can’t wait to tell…
Emotional intelligence No longer all about “What’s in it for me” More “what’s in it for them” The Power of instincts and emotions
Bill Clinton – address book Sincere interest in what others do – ask the questions George – James Katie – Furgeson Using tools – Respect the “friend”
Bill Clinton – address book Sincere interest in what others do – ask the questions When is the best time to network? Kate to Ferguson George to James HouseMaster Franchisee - Cari Peterson – Tara Riley
Personal - Current Job Question: What qualities define a mensch? Answer: A mensch is an individual who is decent and honorable in all of his undertakings—he or she is the same person privately and publicly. This is a person of high integrity, someone that you would feel totally comfortable doing business with. A mensch’s word is as good as his signature. One of the hallmarks of a mensch is empathy and compassion, a genuine caring for his fellow man. A mensch will always look for an opportunity to do good in life, to be of help to the community. When you are in the presence of a mensch, you feel good about you—you sense a total absence of artifice, you know that you are in the presence of a genuine human being, one who will not deceive you, undermine you or try to diminish you in any way. 2. Question: Are mensches born or made? Answer: Some individuals have a natural capacity for being a mensch. They learned this at their mother’s knee—they cannot be anything else because the seed for menschhood was planted and nurtured early on in life. They may be catapulted into menschhood by some significant life experiences like experiencing a loss, surviving an illness, going through a betrayal by a business partner—all events that become a healthy trauma, that awaken one to the need to be a better human being, to function on a higher evolutionary plane. Still for others becoming a mensch evolves from a motivation to be a good leader, to do well while doing good. All of us have in us the capacity to act as mensches—it’s a part of being human. We just need to raise our awareness of how we show up in our dealings with others and ask ourselves, "Am I proud of who I am or who I have become as a person? Do I strive to do the right thing?" Self-awareness precedes self-management.
Ultimate connection story! Set your sights high – keep the goal in mind! It changes – that’s ok! Who do I need to see? Who can help me get there? Most important: Who can I help along the way?