I'm always trying to make sure our nanny feels cared for. This is the woman who I trust to take care of my kids. She's my partner, my copilot, my wing-woman in parenting. I want to keep her happy--and I want her to do good by my kids and me, too. And just like having a good relationship with my husband, that takes time and attention. Plenty of other moms I know feel the same--and have their own smart strategies. Read for yourself about the ways they've built great relationships with their nannies.

1. 7 Ways to Have a Great Relationship with Your Nanny Ellen Seidman – Care.com

3. Don’t spring major new demands on a nanny, she'll feel taken advantage of.

4. Some moms refuse to ask their nannies do housework, as tempting as it may be.

6. He/she's part of my family, and should feel that way.

8. For example:

9. Tape some of their favorite shows on TiVo

10. Have their favorite snacks

11. On a nanny's birthday:

12. Give a personal gift or cash in an envelope

13. Have your child draw her a card.

15. Even if your nanny does some things differently, no harm done.